superdodgy
Life's weird, so am I
I feel obliged to answer this question, having superdodgy shoes myself. I voted for the marvellous last answer in the poll. Thank you. 
Women and dodgy shoes - with poll.
- Thread starter gentlegreen
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i probably should not be making this post cos i dont want to get into another long drawn out drama of trying to help a poster who DOESNT want to be helped out his misery/problem and ONLY WANTS TO MOAN.
a poster who refuses to follow any advice about GETTING OUT THERE IN THE WORLD rather than hiding from it ALL THE TIME.
a poster who wont even take small steps(booking a group cycling holiday, going wwoofing,joining local cycle rides,sorting out the excessive messy state of his house so freinds CAN visit,stewarding at a festival,join as aspie club/outing maybe
) to get his mind on ANYTHING other than himself and bemoaning his single state.
get to know yr fellow human beings..yes even the women
this will change yr perspective on life..why dont you give it a go?
..BUT..
for now i want to say a few final things to gg.
after this ive got to disengage cos well its your life and YOU have the power to change it ..i can only offer a freindly ear to ppl on urban for so long when they make no attempt to MAKE changes, even the little steps ive outlined above.
..i never insult people /get into rows on here.thats just not my style AT ALL.im not angry and aggressive myself and tend to avoid ppl who are
so sorry gg if it seemed i personally was joining in attacking you further up on the thread.it was born out of FRUSTRATION
if i thought you were a bad person and a total women hater i wouldnt have bothered writing this, beleive me!
i do think there are men on urban who DO hate women but i dont count you among them.this post is written to try to shake you up and motivate you.
i dont think are a bad person in any way.
from my view its not about getting digs in, its about saying hey gg HEY TAKE ACTION, STOP MOANING.
its dead simple.
dont PM, i dont want to get personally involved as yr "life coach".but i genuinely wish you all the best.
after this post i wont post on any more of gg's threads bemoaning women and their perplexing ways
a poster who refuses to follow any advice about GETTING OUT THERE IN THE WORLD rather than hiding from it ALL THE TIME.
a poster who wont even take small steps(booking a group cycling holiday, going wwoofing,joining local cycle rides,sorting out the excessive messy state of his house so freinds CAN visit,stewarding at a festival,join as aspie club/outing maybe
) to get his mind on ANYTHING other than himself and bemoaning his single state.get to know yr fellow human beings..yes even the women
this will change yr perspective on life..why dont you give it a go?
..BUT..
for now i want to say a few final things to gg.
after this ive got to disengage cos well its your life and YOU have the power to change it ..i can only offer a freindly ear to ppl on urban for so long when they make no attempt to MAKE changes, even the little steps ive outlined above.
..i never insult people /get into rows on here.thats just not my style AT ALL.im not angry and aggressive myself and tend to avoid ppl who are
so sorry gg if it seemed i personally was joining in attacking you further up on the thread.it was born out of FRUSTRATION
if i thought you were a bad person and a total women hater i wouldnt have bothered writing this, beleive me!
i do think there are men on urban who DO hate women but i dont count you among them.this post is written to try to shake you up and motivate you.
i dont think are a bad person in any way.
from my view its not about getting digs in, its about saying hey gg HEY TAKE ACTION, STOP MOANING.
its dead simple.
dont PM, i dont want to get personally involved as yr "life coach"
.but i genuinely wish you all the best.after this post i wont post on any more of gg's threads bemoaning women and their perplexing ways
I don't know what shoes are being discussed, but I'm not a shoe snob - I find most shoes sexy if the woman's sexy, I think it's different for men than for women; I've heard women say that a man can be perfect in every way, but if his shoes are dodgy, that's a deal breaker.
Not teh same for me - in fact, a sexy woman wearing dodgy shoes can be decidedly hot at times... My wife wears these green combat / trainer thigns which are about 7 years old and to me they still look well hot cos she's wearing them...
Not teh same for me - in fact, a sexy woman wearing dodgy shoes can be decidedly hot at times... My wife wears these green combat / trainer thigns which are about 7 years old and to me they still look well hot cos she's wearing them...
gentlegreen
I hummus, therefore I am ...
Bearbot, you're reading waaay too much into this thread - it's mostly about shoes.
I have size 12 / 13 feet. It's a constant struggle to find any shoes to fit. I can't even get suitable shoes for the thousands of miles I cycle every year. Shimano, in their wisdom make an excellent shoe that stops a size short of what I need.
I have size 12 / 13 feet. It's a constant struggle to find any shoes to fit. I can't even get suitable shoes for the thousands of miles I cycle every year. Shimano, in their wisdom make an excellent shoe that stops a size short of what I need.
gentlegreen
I hummus, therefore I am ...
That's clearly what they expect me to do - I would have to chisel some of the width off too.
littlebabyjesus
one of Maxwell's demons
It was a clumsily expressed poll, but I think the flak gg's getting is unfair.
Humans are perverse creatures sometimes and nowhere is that better illustrated than in the history of clothing. We've put all kinds of ridiculous things round our bodies. It seems fair enough to me to ask why someone likes wearing impractical, restrictive clothing.
Also, having a go at gg for not understanding women is unkind. He's admitted as much. Isn't this thread an attempt to understand a bit better? Some of the abuse he's been given is out of order imo.
Humans are perverse creatures sometimes and nowhere is that better illustrated than in the history of clothing. We've put all kinds of ridiculous things round our bodies. It seems fair enough to me to ask why someone likes wearing impractical, restrictive clothing.
Also, having a go at gg for not understanding women is unkind. He's admitted as much. Isn't this thread an attempt to understand a bit better? Some of the abuse he's been given is out of order imo.
thanks for that foo
im genuinely sorry if ppl were offended by my post.
esp gg
im aware that my post comes across as VERY strong.
have you yourself ever been wound up by a poster?
and reacted?
it does happen to the best of us.
pie eye also has some stern advice for gg on this thread so see im not the only person he has "gotten" too
thing is its not always by the same poster that makes us go mental is it?, so you know things get complex on urban
the earlier above post is just me on coffee being wound up/frustrated by gg and his kinda "self pity/poor me im single and miserable /no woman could ever want me etc etc" ..that kinda world view is not expressed so much on this thread. im more reacting to stuff posted on other threads, starting ages back..its a culmination of reading this thread paired with stuff from the past.
yes its MY problem that i do get drawn in and over react to others problems. yes i try to sort out their problems when they post bemoaning thier situation.at first im very helpful and encouraging and then i suppose i do get frustarted when ppl dont TRY to improve their situation when so many posters are there for them.
its happened before when WOW was posting along these lines ages ago now but back then that was many many other posters, not just me who got frustrated with him.this frustration(for 99% of urban anyway)grew out of concern and caring NOT out of trying to knock him down..it was a kinda shock tactic to get him to take action and stop moaning.
ppl need to work out their own issues they dont need counselling from me.i do need pulling back at times.but hey ive got pretty good self control.
thing is i dont tend to get too drawn into dramas here and i dont plan to.
this is a one off from me.
ive put gg on ignore .again he has certainly done nothing wrong and i wish him all the best.i think he is a nice person and would love to see him happier in his life but again its not really my business.
im genuinely sorry if ppl were offended by my post.
esp gg
im aware that my post comes across as VERY strong.
have you yourself ever been wound up by a poster?
and reacted?
it does happen to the best of us.
pie eye also has some stern advice for gg on this thread so see im not the only person he has "gotten" too
thing is its not always by the same poster that makes us go mental is it?, so you know things get complex on urban
the earlier above post is just me on coffee being wound up/frustrated by gg and his kinda "self pity/poor me im single and miserable /no woman could ever want me etc etc" ..that kinda world view is not expressed so much on this thread. im more reacting to stuff posted on other threads, starting ages back..its a culmination of reading this thread paired with stuff from the past.
yes its MY problem that i do get drawn in and over react to others problems. yes i try to sort out their problems when they post bemoaning thier situation
.at first im very helpful and encouraging and then i suppose i do get frustarted when ppl dont TRY to improve their situation when so many posters are there for them.its happened before when WOW was posting along these lines ages ago now but back then that was many many other posters, not just me who got frustrated with him.this frustration(for 99% of urban anyway)grew out of concern and caring NOT out of trying to knock him down..it was a kinda shock tactic to get him to take action and stop moaning.
ppl need to work out their own issues they dont need counselling from me.i do need pulling back at times.but hey ive got pretty good self control.
thing is i dont tend to get too drawn into dramas here and i dont plan to.
this is a one off from me.
ive put gg on ignore .again he has certainly done nothing wrong and i wish him all the best.i think he is a nice person and would love to see him happier in his life but again its not really my business.
gentlegreen
I hummus, therefore I am ...
I'm sorry she got so upset.
I think she's probably forgotten I'm much older than her so her advice might not fit ....
I think she's probably forgotten I'm much older than her so her advice might not fit ....
foo
dirtysweet
you've put him on ignore even though he's done nothing wrong and you think he's a nice person.
the world's gawn mad today.
cool im calm now
sorry again for my little rant
sorry about the whole ignore thing..i took gg off ignore now
i honestly dont have anything against the man whatsoever
i briefly had him on ignore just so i wouldnt be tempted to start coming out with more advice for him!!!
but i NOW cant help myself once again..seriously i better stay off urban for a bit!!!!
gg the advice about taking a group cycling holiday..these holidays arent limited to people under 40 surely?
wwoofing is not something only done by students..when ive done it was more 30s/40s age TBH.in fact many ppl older than you(like pensioner age )WWoof.many wwooof hosts arent exactly young either..the suggestions i offer suit yr age and interests.
gg..beleive it or not..im not esp.young..i just dont tend to see myself as a past it old fart
anyhoo see what i mean?..i just cant stop dishing out advice.i dont think my advice is unsuited to yr age gg..but again it shouldnt be my concern.
im off to put a sock in my own mouth!!!!
sorry again for my little rant
sorry about the whole ignore thing..i took gg off ignore now
i honestly dont have anything against the man whatsoever
i briefly had him on ignore just so i wouldnt be tempted to start coming out with more advice for him!!!
but i NOW cant help myself once again
..seriously i better stay off urban for a bit!!!!gg the advice about taking a group cycling holiday..these holidays arent limited to people under 40 surely?
wwoofing is not something only done by students..when ive done it was more 30s/40s age TBH.in fact many ppl older than you(like pensioner age )WWoof.many wwooof hosts arent exactly young either..the suggestions i offer suit yr age and interests.
gg..beleive it or not..im not esp.young..i just dont tend to see myself as a past it old fart
anyhoo see what i mean?..i just cant stop dishing out advice
.i dont think my advice is unsuited to yr age gg..but again it shouldnt be my concern.im off to put a sock in my own mouth!!!!
gentlegreen
I hummus, therefore I am ...
I'm soon to turn 50 - If I can possibly pull it off I'm going to retire in 6 years' time.. with the best will in the world, 50-somethings - especially those who made a bit of a mess of their early years have trouble relating to well-balanced 20 and 30 somethings (which is the age group for almost everything) One reason I like Urban is that you tend to forget differences of age, gender and the like - whic is also a problem in instances like this.
Cycle holidays - interesting, but expensive - I might go on one if it was mostly French people - not 30-something english couples.
Where have I said recently I was" desperate for a g/f" ?
My retirement plans are far more interesting than all that flirting and game-playing
I may hedge my bets by signing up to the odd "singles" site, but it's really like the lottery - except it's often free ... my interest is mostly academic - mostly I'm hoping to meet people who live in Brittany.
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And this thread is about shoes.
strung out
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Agent Sparrow
AGENT TRAITOR; fools 8 year olds
Today I am wearing some really comfortable flat boots, that shockingly fit my calves, and which I got because they had been left in a friend's house when they moved in. So far they seem as comfortable as trainers. 
Minnie_the_Minx
someinenhhanding menbag and me ah bollox
yeah, saw that myself today
doesn't surprise me in the slightest. I've never seen so many women struggling in high heels as I'm seeing nowadays. I think women should get their friends to video them from the front and back and replay the video, then let them decide whether they can actually walk in them or not or just look totally ridiculous
May Kasahara
take me to the feeling
That's not news
I spend 99% of my shod time wearing boots or trainers that are as roomy and comfortable as possible while still staying the right side of the fashion/rambler demarcation line, and even I've been prey to the lure of ill-fitting shoes. They were Swear boots, they were the last pair in the style I wanted, they were reduced by £50...they were a whole size too small. It took me about two years of wearing them to sweaty clubs for 8 hours at a time before they gave in and stretched enough to be bearable.
