Why don't we like to look excited/enthusiastic/impressed?

[Tank Girl]

I disagree with Vixen.

I don't think I know many people that think they're too cool to show excitement. thank god.

 

[Orang Utan]

I do think there's an element of truth in what Vixen's saying - it's just that us Urban types are not a typical demographic.

 

[Dubversion]

I do think there's an element of truth in what Vixen's saying - it's just that us Urban types are not a typical demographic.

i'm still not sure i agree. she's right that's there's a phase where being moody is paramount, but most people grow out of it IME

 

[tastebud]

or you could just have got it wrong?

Maybe. I wasn't saying that I was necessarily completely right. I was just asking... for thoughts, you know...

i'm still not sure i agree. she's right that's there's a phase where being moody is paramount, but most people grow out of it IME

Being moody doesn't describe what I'm trying to say very well. It's more a kind of, oh I knew that already attitude, or, I'm not particularly impressed because I've seen that before.

People sometimes even respond to surprise or an impressed person with an, I can't believe you didn't know that already, type response.

 

[jbob]

I disagree with Vixen.

I don't think I know many people that think they're too cool to show excitement. thank god.

I have a soft spot for people who aren't particularly cool but are resolutely unenthusiastic about anything. Often accompanied by a very dry sense of humour.

 

[Orang Utan]

i'm still not sure i agree. she's right that's there's a phase where being moody is paramount, but most people grow out of it IME

Hmm, think of Brits rolling their eyes at a Yank tourist's display of enthusiasm. Not entirely restricted to age IMO.

 

[tastebud]

I have a soft spot for people who aren't particularly cool but are resolutely unenthusiastic about anything. Often accompanied by a very dry sense of humour.

Londoners! And New Yorkers!

 

[tastebud]

Hmm, think of Brits rolling their eyes at a Yank tourist's display of enthusiasm. Not entirely restricted to age IMO.

Yes And Yes! Finally!



though a new yorker wouldn't be so enthusiastic.

 

[bluestreak]

Londoners! And New Yorkers!

that's why i loved new york. they treat londoners like long lost brothers in cynicism.

*moves to new york*

 

[jbob]

Londoners! And New Yorkers!

There's a few in the midlands too

 

[electrogirl]

Maybe. I wasn't saying that I was necessarily completely right. I was just asking... for thoughts, you know...Being moody doesn't describe what I'm trying to say very well. It's more a kind of, oh I knew that already attitude, or, I'm not particularly impressed because I've seen that before.

People sometimes even respond to surprise or an impressed person with an, I can't believe you didn't know that already, type response.

Bloody hell Dub, I think she's saying she's right, unlike you who are saying she is definitely wrong.

I think you have a point Vixen, and i know a few people who are determined not to be impressed by anything. They generally aren;t people i get along with, it seems, to them, that to show enthusiasm is the same as showing sadness, it's a chink in their armour.

I think you're just going off-key in your generalisations.

 

[jbob]

Nah, it's just funny, innit.

 

[tastebud]

Bloody hell Dub, I think she's saying she's right

Thing is, I'm NOT saying I'm right. I'm just putting ideas out there. Also giving my own personal opinion, if that's okay.

that's why i loved new york. they treat londoners like long lost brothers in cynicism.
*moves to new york*

I know a New Yorker (Dub knows him too) who said a similar thing about why he gets on so well in London and with Londoners. The sarcasm, cynicism, etc. He said I'd get on very well if I lived in New York.

 

[Dubversion]

Bloody hell Dub, I think she's saying she's right, unlike you who are saying she is definitely wrong.

erm. where did i say she's definitely wrong ( )? I just suggested she might be. Look for key expressions like 'i'm not sure i agree' and 'in my experience'.

thanks

 

[Pieface]

I think teenagers act unimpressed because it's harder to have absolute faith in your opinions at that age - at the back of your head there's always a feeling that you might have it wrong somewhere, that there's some secret you haven't been let in on.

Of course you learn otherwise as you get older (I think....)

I vividly remember having odd conversations with people who I thought were so cool at school years after we left and had them saying that they thought I was dead cool and were intimidated and vice versa. Turned out we were all fronting like mad and weren't sure of ourselves so "unimpressed" was the safest bet - you aren't sticking your neck out that way. Turns out you make less friends I think too My behaviour was more inclined that way from 13 onwards.

I'm a fucking berk these days though. I get excited about opening the fridge.

 

[Tank Girl]

being a berk is great though, makes life far more enjoyable imo

 

[jbob]

I think teenagers act unimpressed because it's harder to have absolute faith in your opinions at that age - at the back of your head there's always a feeling that you might have it wrong somewhere, that there's some secret you haven't been let in on.

Of course you learn otherwise as you get older (I think....)

I would say it's 'round the other way. Teenagers think they know it all. I know I did at that age. Uncertainty comes with age and experience. Bitter, bitter experience...

 

[bluestreak]

I would say it's 'round the other way. Teenagers think they know it all. I know I did at that age. Uncertainty comes with age and experience. Bitter, bitter experience...

for real.

 

[electrogirl]

Thing is, I'm NOT saying I'm right. I'm just putting ideas out there. Also giving my own personal opinion, if that's okay.
I know a New Yorker (Dub knows him too) who said a similar thing about why he gets on so well in London and with Londoners. The sarcasm, cynicism, etc. He said I'd get on very well if I lived in New York.

oops i meant "i don't think she's saying she's right"

Lazy typing. I annoyed two people in one post there, well done me.

 

[tastebud]

oops i meant "i don't think she's saying she's right"

Lazy typing. I annoyed two people in one post there, well done me.

It's okay I realised afterwards that that may have been the case but couldn't work out what it might have said. Wasn't annoyed dude.

 

[Pieface]

I would say it's 'round the other way. Teenagers think they know it all. I know I did at that age. Uncertainty comes with age and experience. Bitter, bitter experience...

There's often a lack of confidence I reckon. I'm talking about stuff that you'd enthuse about - not thinking you know it all about nuclear weapons or politics and then soapboxing - more about showing excitement about music, books, poems, art or something and not being too sure it was the "right thing".

Or showing excitement about something too simple perhaps - like a beautiful day or a nice cloud

('m a bit confused now as well actually ....)

 

[tastebud]

There's often a lack of confidence I reckon. I'm talking about stuff that you'd enthuse about - not thinking you know it all about nuclear weapons or politics and then soapboxing - more about showing excitement about music, books, poems, art or something and not being too sure it was the "right thing".

Or showing excitement about something too simple perhaps - like a beautiful day or a nice cloud

('m a bit confused now as well actually ....)

Okay, now you've confused me too.

 

[Pieface]

That was quite an enthusiastic post for me.

It was shit - but I thought I was typing with a mission

I want a glass of wine

 

[bluestreak]

now that's something i could get excited about. mmmm wine.

 

[LDR]

i totally disagree - i'm a real enthusiast, get childishly excited about things (you should have seen me before the bands came on at Electric Picnic) and spend most of my time enthusing / evangelising etc about things I like and that make me happy.

Same here. I don't care if people get upset with me because I dance like a loon when every one else is trying to look cool or isn't pissed enough.

Acutally, I do care 'cause bar staff and others make me a target. Some people really don't like to see others enjoying themselves.

Once an old boss of mine said I had a childlike enthusiam for life and I still think that was one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me.

 

[Mrs Magpie]

Just watching you dance like a loon fills me with unbridled enthusiasm....You're great, you are!

 

[LDR]

Shucks!

 

[Orang Utan]

Just watching you dance like a loon fills me with unbridled enthusiasm....You're great, you are!

I second that!

 

[Mrs Magpie]

I'm particularly impressed with how you dance like a loon holding a pint that doesn't ever seem to spill....rare skill, that.

 

[Mrs Magpie]

...and you're really smiley and all...wish there were more like you LDR.