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What would you put on a wedding gift list, were you to compile one...

kyser_soze said:
Choke on the guilt liberals :D:p

So if someone asked you to give them a wedding present from a list, you wouldn't buy one?
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I have no problem with getting other people gifts from a list and never said I did.

I now think its quite a good idea.

Its usually more down to not liking weddings or being to skint. :D
 
Orang Utan said:
Not all that different - expecting gifts from people just cos you're getting married
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People don't have to buy you something, they just make certain (by and large) that you don't end up with multiples of the same thing.

Grumpy git.
 
Orang Utan said:
Not all that different - expecting gifts from people just cos you're getting married
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Go and look the definitions up again, dowries are not 'expecting gifts from people just cos you're getting married' :p

Why did you even bring it up? Spangles never asked people to give their opinions on wedding lists did she? It's all been done before to death....
 
Orang Utan said:
Not all that different - expecting gifts from people just cos you're getting married
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Dowries were much more like the bargaining for the woman to be taken off her parents hands!
I can see much more of a link between engagement rings and dowries than wedding lists.

Most people who have wedding lists now don't expect you to definitely get them something from it or anything it all (I would hope).
Its just a guide should you want to so they don't end up with 24 toasters yadda yadda yadda.

For the record I have no issue with engagement rings either, just making a point.

ETA: Blowing raspberry at OU!! Are you bored? Feels silly :o
 
RubyBlue said:
^ I'm of the same opinion - the idea of a wedding list - I don't know just seems wrong and, I don't know why but slightly greedy :( If I was going to go along with it I would do as missfran says and ask for vouchers but tbh I would rather ask for donations to be made to charity then ask for stuff - or the vouchers like missfran said but ask guests to send them annoymously - that would make me feel a bit better I think. eta: you'd probably get fuck all then anyway :D
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see - i'd much rather buy someone something than give them vouchers or money. But then maybe that's because in my family no one ever did vouchers or money for birthdays/xmas.

also, what i like about the way our list works, is that if people can get some brand name things cheaper because someone's knocking them out on ebay, or there's a shop near them closing down or whatever, then they can get the gift for much less money and we'd never know - which you can't do with gift vouchers.

regarding the larger point - it's a cultural tradition. just like birthday presents - except you only get wedding prezzies once (ideally). no one has to buy anything, some people are making us stuff, and some people are in absolute jobless penury and the fact that they're spending out on petrol / train fare to be with us (and come and camp at the farm, cos a hotel is far too costly) is a complete financial stretch for them.

The primary thing is that people are coming to be with us. but i like to buy people wedding pressies, and i doubt i'm that unusual - so we're making a list.
 
ok - so here's another thing - if you saw a list and it was quite long, would you think it was a bit of a cheek? we've got well over 200 invitees (aforementioned grinderparent social club) and there's only about 50 things on the list, but it looks like loads.
 
I went to a Greek Orthodox wedding years ago, liked the whole pinning the money on the dress malarkey :cool:
 
spanglechick said:
ok - so here's another thing - if you saw a list and it was quite long, would you think it was a bit of a cheek? we've got well over 200 invitees (aforementioned grinderparent social club) and there's only about 50 things on the list, but it looks like loads.
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So you'll end up with 4 of the same thing? :cool:
 
spanglechick said:
ok - so here's another thing - if you saw a list and it was quite long, would you think it was a bit of a cheek? we've got well over 200 invitees (aforementioned grinderparent social club) and there's only about 50 things on the list, but it looks like loads.
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God no. The longer a list, the better. More choice and you can choose something you'd like to give them. I like picking out what I consider to be the best/most appropriate gift from a long list. I think most people would understand that you're not actually asking for everything on the list.
 
spanglechick said:
ok - so here's another thing - if you saw a list and it was quite long, would you think it was a bit of a cheek? we've got well over 200 invitees (aforementioned grinderparent social club) and there's only about 50 things on the list, but it looks like loads.
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Well, no it doesn't look cheeky or greedy IMO because of the numbers of gusest but also because you're giving poeple choice. If you've got 200 people coming won't you need more than 50 things though? :confused:

And you can always put some kind of disclaimer at the beginning of the list to explain why it might seem long.
 
electrogirl said:
What about birthdays? People expecting presents just because they got born. Fuckers.
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Birthdays and Xmas and just whenever you feel like it - fine
Weddings - yes it's nice to give gifts to commemorate such a special occasion, but it seems so crass to have a list of things you want
 
BTW people only seem to have them these days cos other people think they should, so I'm not implying greed on anyone's part, just that it's time to put an unnecessary tradition to bed, esp since most people have moved in together for ages before they get married and already have loads of stuff.
 
Orang Utan said:
BTW people only seem to have them these days cos other people think they should, so I'm not implying greed on anyone's part, just that it's time to put an unnecessary tradition to bed, esp since most people have moved in together for ages before they get married and already have loads of stuff.
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Exactly, which is why a list of what they actually want is very useful. No point in buying them stuff they already have.
 
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