We're getting a cat!
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mrsfran
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I was just having a very good bonding session with him, he was loving the stroking and I was chatting away, but then I moved to sit more comfortably next to him and he got scared and ran off behind the laundry basket. 
I didn't mean to scare him.
I guess at least he's not in the litter tray anymore.
Should I just leave him alone now until tomorrow? Some advice says don't leave alone, just be in the same room as him, try to stroke him if he'll let me (which he will), but I don't want to scare him again and make him associate me with being scared.
He's currently confined to the bedroom, so I'll be sleeping in the same room as him.
I didn't mean to scare him. I guess at least he's not in the litter tray anymore.
Should I just leave him alone now until tomorrow? Some advice says don't leave alone, just be in the same room as him, try to stroke him if he'll let me (which he will), but I don't want to scare him again and make him associate me with being scared.
He's currently confined to the bedroom, so I'll be sleeping in the same room as him.
if he's letting you stroke him it sounds like you have made good progress.
I would keep trying to stroke him, given the opportunity, but just don't chase after him should he run off - if he freaks out and runs off, you act like nothing has happened and just carry on doing something else - be careful not to react in any way. And don't go for too much at once. I reckon he's going to be fine
I would keep trying to stroke him, given the opportunity, but just don't chase after him should he run off - if he freaks out and runs off, you act like nothing has happened and just carry on doing something else - be careful not to react in any way. And don't go for too much at once. I reckon he's going to be fine
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missfran said:I was just having a very good bonding session with him, he was loving the stroking and I was chatting away, but then I moved to sit more comfortably next to him and he got scared and ran off behind the laundry basket.
I guess at least he's not in the litter tray anymore.
Should I just leave him alone now until tomorrow? Some advice says don't leave alone, just be in the same room as him, try to stroke him if he'll let me (which he will), but I don't want to scare him again and make him associate me with being scared.
He's currently confined to the bedroom, so I'll be sleeping in the same room as him.
I find that making scratching noises with my fingers that then run and hide brings them out. (((pussy cat)))
Eta: my ex who it has to be said was expert cat psychologist said they like to be stroked when you put food down for them as reassurance.
Donna Ferentes
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mrsfran
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Update: up until about 3pm today he remained in the litter tray. I took the top off it and stroked him and chatted for a good half hour and he got a good purr on, and I lifted him gently on to the bed, stroking and reassuring all the time, and he stayed on the bed! He's there now.
He's really very placid, and is happy to let me stroke him and even pick him up, but isn't motivated to move out of his comfort zone at the moment - perhaps he's scared, perhaps he's just lazy
. At the moment he is responding better to me than to my other half (Alex B) but that may simply be because he's been living with a single female foster carer for the last few months. I am sure they will get on just fine soon.
I like him very much, he seems like a bit of a grumpy man.
He's really very placid, and is happy to let me stroke him and even pick him up, but isn't motivated to move out of his comfort zone at the moment - perhaps he's scared, perhaps he's just lazy
. At the moment he is responding better to me than to my other half (Alex B) but that may simply be because he's been living with a single female foster carer for the last few months. I am sure they will get on just fine soon.I like him very much, he seems like a bit of a grumpy man.
