Wedding suggestions!

[ChrisFilter]

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I can bring many skillz to tha table.

Does she want to arrive on a dashing white horse? I can sort it!
Do you want a conga leader? I can sort it!
A comedy barman? I can sort it!

Can I hold the ring please?

You can be the conga leader

 

[Pieface]

sweeeeet

 

[twister]

*joins conga line*

 

[May Kasahara]

I went to a wedding similar to the one you dream of several years ago and it cost £30,000 for 150 people.

Really? My brother's wedding last year was an all-day do for about 150 people in a nice country hotel type place - ceremony, drinks, photos, sit-down dinner, gorgeous wedding and bridesmaids' dresses, smart suits for all the official guys, toastmaster, disco and all, and it cost £12k.

 

[ChrisFilter]

Really? My brother's wedding last year was an all-day do for about 150 people in a nice country hotel type place - ceremony, drinks, photos, sit-down dinner, gorgeous wedding and bridesmaids' dresses, smart suits for all the official guys, toastmaster, disco and all, and it cost £12k.

Quite...

take out the drinks, sit down dinner, dresses, smart suits, and disco and I reckon £6k doesn't seem so stupid!

We really don't want any of the fancy shit.. just a field with a barn would be fine!

 

[ChrisFilter]

excellent so really you want a registry office followed by unsound

Haha, maybe not unsound, but certainly not far off.

Nana don't do jungle

 

[Crispy]

Depends what you put in the cake....

 

[ChrisFilter]

She'd still be strictly techno

 

[Errol's son]

Really? My brother's wedding last year was an all-day do for about 150 people in a nice country hotel type place - ceremony, drinks, photos, sit-down dinner, gorgeous wedding and bridesmaids' dresses, smart suits for all the official guys, toastmaster, disco and all, and it cost £12k.

Ok they did have an Aston Martin for the bride and groom to get to the reception and to go to the airport in for the honeymoon. There was also champagne on tap for free all night and spirits too. They didn't provide suits though; all the ushers had to hire morning suits - we just got a matching tie each. We did get breakfast the next morning too, but only about 40-50 did this. Maybe the honeymoon was included in the 30K price too. It was one of the fanciest country houses I have ever been to though; not quite Chatsworth but the house must be worth £10m by now in this crazy property market.

 

[moonsi til]

Cake is fine, her Aunty does that for a living.

Yep, I will be blagging the music side of things.

Food will be posh buffet, not a sit down thing.

Not sure we'll even bother with a full on wedding dress.

Basically we want a quick ceremony, then a big fuck off party. You don't need to spend £15k on a party!

I have had a few friends get married over the years who have opted for a church/registry ceremony with family and then had a party with friends in the evening and seemed to work well.

 

[Errol's son]

If you have it in the summer you can just hire a firld and put a marquee up. Have a meal and then a party. I went to a wedding like that. Registry office do then a bbq in a field then a party that went wild once most of the elder generation left. That cost loads less than £6K. Most camped in a field but some took taxis to hotels. Would have been pretty crap if the weather was shite though. Fortunately it was very hot.

 

[nonamenopackdrill]

A decent marquee costs way more than a hall. We looked into it £10 grand upwards.

 

[LilMissHissyFit]

We had a sit down for 60 people, got married in a castle and had 100 in the evening
It can be done, really. The things people say are 'essential' can be achieved without masses of cost,. The trick was to find other venues aside from the normal 'wedding' venues which you can usually think of.
we got married in a castle, had the sit down in Cardiff arms park ( £15 a head) pushed the tables back in the evening for the disco.

The local hotels started at £40 per head for a sit down meal with extras thrown in £200 for a room to get married in,£8 per head for a buffet in the night £400 disco etc it all adds up.Several even wanted us to pay for the hire of a cake stand and cake knife ( £40!) you can hire them yourself from cake shops or cake icing places!

I ordered my bouquet from a florist and my bridemaids ones and the topper for the cake ( made by mum, iced by mother in law) you can get lovely ones from M+S and tesco ( just go in and place an order for the sizes you need and buy the columns from there or a cake supplis place), we made table decorations ourselves, did favours ourselves ( boxes from confetti.co.uk tied with ribbon) a mate hired a canister of helium and did balloons for us!

We splurged on the photography because its Mrfits job and he wanted the one which was my favourite but we were glad we did.

There are fantastic dresses available from places like debenhams which are beautiful and far less than buying from a wedding dress shop.( mum bought mine for me thankfully it was £700! in a sale! sales are on now in wedding shops BTW )
I bought the bridemaids dresses on ebay.com including the customs charges for £100 for three(one adult, two kids aged 6 and 8) There are masses of 'prom' dresses, brand new on there and nobody will know where you got them from, bridemaids dresses in bridal shops are upwards of £250! I got my sons pageboy outfit from BHS for about £60.

I made the invites myself after going to a cardmaking workshop in a craft shop to get ideas and we had inserts printed for something like 10p each in a printers.
We were lucky to get a car provided as a wedding pressie by a friend who worked for a limo hire firm and 'borrowed' one and a friend did our video in return for a very nice thank you letter and using it at every wedding fayre the following season because she had just set up her wedding business but I would think a decent camcorder on a tripod and someone good at using one could give you a decent result with some good editing software, overlay it with music etc. Im sure there are peeps here who might volunteer if you dont know anyone to edit

Beg borrow and steal talents and resources from everyone you can think of and dont worry about being cheeky, people love being involved in your day.
The lady who did our table flowers was a friend of Mrfits mum and wouldnt accept a penny from us so we gave her some money and said look , do what you will with it and so she donated it to charity!

at the end it it all we spent less than £5,000 and didnt feel we'd missed out on a thing! We had everything all our friends who got married did and certainly didnt feel we'd done it on the cheap

 

[geminisnake]

Our wedding dress was £900 - which is cheap,

ad infinitum!!! I couldn't ever spend that on a dress!! Our whole wedding didn't cost anywhere near that, admittedly it was in 1988

I can't believe you were going to be charged for the knife to cut your cake LMHF!!! We were given our knife by the hotel where we had the meal and reception. Wonder if they still do that.

Chris, where are you holding the wedding? I'd get the heck out of the city if them's the going rates down there!!

 

[LilMissHissyFit]

I know, criminal isnt it??
Thats why we went where we did, we got what we paid for and no wanky 'extras. In fact we got more than we felt we'd paid for, theres no many places you get offered 'seconds'
They even did us menus for the tables on etc which said congratulations Mr and Mrs fit and welcome to all their guests, enjoy your day etc
we provided wine and paid £1 a bottle 'corkage' ( cheap I know)

 

[milesy]

Flowers? A grand average I reckon.

mine and the missus' wedding cost about a grand in total

 

[Pingu]

A decent marquee costs way more than a hall. We looked into it £10 grand upwards.

bollocks

we have just booked one for our wedding in september

we are only having about 90 people but for the full on floored and lined interior thingy it was 4k for 3 days

http://www.beesmarquees.co.uk/

eta

Lavish wedding

White marquee
fully lined
Matting
Lighting
Tables
Gilt chairs
Dancefloor
150 guests
Typical cost
£3,300.00 (+ VAT £3,877.50)


ours was 4200 for some reason (maybe mrs pingu wanted special tables or summit)

 

[aqua]

ad infinitum!!! I couldn't ever spend that on a dress!! Our whole wedding didn't cost anywhere near that, admittedly it was in 1988

I can't believe you were going to be charged for the knife to cut your cake LMHF!!! We were given our knife by the hotel where we had the meal and reception. Wonder if they still do that.

Chris, where are you holding the wedding? I'd get the heck out of the city if them's the going rates down there!!

it depends on what kind of knife you want, there are some really stunning ones around to hire, but if your not bothered its fine

the main problem with hotels is that they won't let you borrow their knives anymore for health and safety and the ones they will let you are useless through a cake

but if chris's gfs aunt makes cakes then she will have all that anyway

 

[extra dry]

we provided wine and paid £1 a bottle 'corkage' ( cheap I know)

corkscrews on tables???

 

[crustychick]

i have a friend of a friend who puts on big soundsystem style parties in a castle, think it's up near Newcastle. you want me to try n put you in touch?

 

[*Miss*Sparkle*]

you didn't say where you want the wedding, but I rented a cottage at monkhouse hill last year which was lush, and they offer a wedding set up too. May be a bit small tho.

I'm going to glansevin for my birthday in a couple of weeks. For 60 people it's about £5k for the weekend, and you get the use of fields so you could sling a load of tents up in the fields for the overspill. If it looks any good to you I can let you know what I think after I've been

edit: group acommodation a good site for large cottages / mansions.

 

[Looby]

No offence nonamenopackdrill but your prices are mental. You could have everything you had for 10k cheaper easily.

I got married 2 1/2 years ago and our wedding was about 10 grand and that included 3k on 2 weeks in Cuba.
I had 5 bridesmaids, hairdressers, platinum rings. I saved on some thing so I could spend more on others.

My brother did the music, madamv's MIL make a gorgeous cake and a friend did the photography as a gift.

Photography is something that people spend shitloads on and I don't think it's worth it. A friend of mine hired a top local photographer, it cost her 1500+ and I think her photos were distinctly average. The best pics we had were from the disposable cameras on the tables.

I had grand prix roses for my bouquet and the buttonholes and my five bridemaids had cream roses and this was max £250 from a non poncey florist who will charge the earth for the privilege of having them.

I paid £600 for my dress and this was handmade. You can get gorgeous off the peg dresses for less and lovely non weddingy dresses in monsoon for 100/150.

I made my own favours. I found some heartshaped red and pink jelly beans in Morrisons o ) around valentines and bought some little bags to put them in and then bought bubbles for the kids.

My car was a pink cadillac and I managed to get that for 200 after really shopping around.

We had cheap little hotel which wouldn't have been to everyones taste but we had full control over the day, the owner was lovely and the hotel wasn't full of strangers, holiday makers and other parties.
I'm rambling now but the point is expensive doesn't always mean best.

 

[nonamenopackdrill]

No offence nonamenopackdrill but your prices are mental. You could have everything you had for 10k cheaper easily.

I got married 2 1/2 years ago and our wedding was about 10 grand and that included 3k on 2 weeks in Cuba.
I had 5 bridesmaids, hairdressers, platinum rings. I saved on some thing so I could spend more on others.

My brother did the music, madamv's MIL make a gorgeous cake and a friend did the photography as a gift.

Photography is something that people spend shitloads on and I don't think it's worth it. A friend of mine hired a top local photographer, it cost her 1500+ and I think her photos were distinctly average. The best pics we had were from the disposable cameras on the tables.

I had grand prix roses for my bouquet and the buttonholes and my five bridemaids had cream roses and this was max £250 from a non poncey florist who will charge the earth for the privilege of having them.

I paid £600 for my dress and this was handmade. You can get gorgeous off the peg dresses for less and lovely non weddingy dresses in monsoon for 100/150.

I made my own favours. I found some heartshaped red and pink jelly beans in Morrisons o ) around valentines and bought some little bags to put them in and then bought bubbles for the kids.

My car was a pink cadillac and I managed to get that for 200 after really shopping around.

We had cheap little hotel which wouldn't have been to everyones taste but we had full control over the day, the owner was lovely and the hotel wasn't full of strangers, holiday makers and other parties.
I'm rambling now but the point is expensive doesn't always mean best.

No offence taken at all. We feel we got value for money on everything except the hiring of the suits. And we weren't shy about spending money. But our budget was £16,000. I guess my point was it's v hard to stick to a budget.

Our photographer was one thing we splashed out on, and we were right to. We decided to have no video (hate the idea of them being in the way) but hired the bloke who has been Kodak wedding photographer of the year for 10 of the last 13 years. He was amazing. And people who see our main album notice it. However, I accept there's no need to be extravagent on the photographer!

The hall and food were essential. We also spent £1500 on the band (who were worth double and really made the day!)

 

[nonamenopackdrill]

You have to remember ours was a traditional Greek wedding so you can't really scrimp and save when your mates are going to pin £250 on your outfits and that!

 

[Looby]

You have to remember ours was a traditional Greek wedding so you can't really scrimp and save when your mates are going to pin £250 on your outfits and that!

Fair enough, I wasn't criticising and I'm sure you had a lovely day just wanted to make the point that it can be done for less without scrimping.

 

[geminisnake]

You have to remember ours was a traditional Greek wedding so you can't really scrimp and save when your mates are going to pin £250 on your outfits and that!

I knew you were having a greek wedding but I didn't realise people pin money on you! Wonders where she can find a nice greek lad

 

[nonamenopackdrill]

I knew you were having a greek wedding but I didn't realise people pin money on you! Wonders where she can find a nice greek lad

That's what all my mates said - "we're having one" but in fact only the cypriots pin that much on!

 

[Pete the Greek]

You have to remember ours was a traditional Greek wedding so you can't really scrimp and save when your mates are going to pin £250 on your outfits and that!

you.....what?
Are you married to a greek girl or are you greek? Tell me now.

 

[nonamenopackdrill]

you.....what?
Are you married to a greek girl or are you greek? Tell me now.

oh fuck off you prick. you havn't been here long have you?

 

[geminisnake]

oh fuck off you prick. you haven't been here long have you?

You coulda ignored him. I was enjoying this thread with you being like you used to be again