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Wedding Rings..

Wood does rot though...

<thinks of the many wooden handled knives she's had in the past>

Maybe trees are protected by their bark?

(oh my, there are so many cheap puns available to me in this post)

This thread made us discuss our rings last night.. since putting on weight, I can't wear my ring anymore and Michael said it looks like I'm not married.. so he wants me to wear another ring!

Should we buy a new one, or get the original one made larger?

So I'm gonna find a cheapy ring and wear that instead.. people can't tell the difference between silver and platinum half the time!
 
gaijingirl said:
Where to get one?

We wanted to get rings using thames wood from Stephen Einhorn - but gaijinboy went there today and they said they didn't recommend you wear them in the shower/pool etc etc and various other limitations.
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Oooh - I really like their jewellery :)
I got Sir LDN's band from Stephen Einhorn (we're not married)... but I got him the "Beaten Wide" ring with the oxidised effect on it - they do a lovely engraving service too!

That's a shame about the Thames Wood / Water issue :( - those rings look lovely.
 
butterfly child said:
I couldn't see any cheap ones, I meant! :D

Just checked - the £81.40 (inc VAT) is yellow gold. The platinum is £232 inc VAT.
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Ooops, yes you're absolutely right :D

Post in haste, repent at leisure :D Cheers for pointing that out.

Hatton Garden does tend to be cheaper though, especially if you know the Hatton Garden suppliers without a retail outlet - the workshops around the back of Leather Lane Market.
 
Haven't even got around to looking. It's a very touchy subject at the moment. I think we'll head up to town sometime towards the end of June and choose something. Right now our parents (both sets) are playing very silly games and we're both really upset about it.
 
gaijingirl said:
Haven't even got around to looking. It's a very touchy subject at the moment. I think we'll head up to town sometime towards the end of June and choose something. Right now our parents (both sets) are playing very silly games and we're both really upset about it.
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Oh no, I hope this still isn't about the guest list? :( Hope you get it all sorted or if not just run off, seriously. :)

((((gaijingirl and boy))))
 
I thought things couldn't get any worse.. well they have.. gb's parents secretly met with my mum to try and get her onside (big mistake) - suggesting, amongst other things, that I univite my Dad. Incidentally, they didn't tell her why they wanted to meet her, only that they needed her moral support. GB's Dad has been sick recently and she, really worried, booked a day off work expecting to hear really bad news. It seems that the perception is that GB would be happy for them to invite whoever - but I'm the one who is saying no.

Which is pretty much the opposite of what has been happening. GB didn't want to invite anyone at all - it's only because I said it wouldn't be fair to his/my parents that we should invite them. Hence the agreement we would only invite immediate family. So I stuck to that whereas his parents just went out and invited other people without telling us. And now, when we put our feet down - it's my fault apparently.

On top of this, it turns out that GB got an email during the week where they secretly asked him to try and persuade me to invite more relatives from my side of the family. - starting with.. "we know that gg is keen to keep the numbers down but don't you think she should invite names of relatives - proceed with extreme caution".

So now, basically, I feel completely shit. Originally I told gb to book the room for 30 people at the registry office, but he chose to book the room for 20 - because he wanted to ensure the numbers were kept down. He didn't want to invite anyone. He wanted us to elope.

But now it seems to be all MY fault.

So I feel angry at him, but also really really angry at both our sets of parents now who seem to be playing us off each other - meaning that we're fighting over it.
 
(((gg)))

That's really shitty of them :(:mad: I'd be furious and really upset. It would serve them right if you eloped!

Is it time to get them all in a room together so that you and gb can make it clear that a small wedding is what you both want and if they interfere any more they can consider themselves uninvited?
 
I think we might go over there together and speak to them (yay.. what a great way to spend bank holiday Monday:(). They seem to time each of these bloody crises at the beginning of my break/half term - so I spend the whole time stressing about it. I'm just fed up to the back teeth with it all now. We can't really cancel it and elope without causing major, lasting upset - but we do both wish we'd just eloped in the first place. Gaijinboy was right to want it, I shouldn't have worried about upsetting them, because overall I think it would have been far less upset all round.
 
ok- two things occur to me.

firstly - gaiginboy is letting you down, if they're still getting the idea this is coming from you. that nasty insinuation has been going on long enough - it really isn't practical for you to protest your innocence - and you have a right to him making sure he does what he can so that you aren't.

secondly - you decided not to elope out of consideration for your parents - and in return they are showing absolutely zero consideration for the pair of you. do they really deserve this - they're behaving appalingly. if it were me, i'd book the next available slot at the register office, and phone the parents on the morning - saying that they, and they alone, are invited. or not even that - if you think they'll sulk and spoil it.


honestly, i'm so cross on your behalf. this is your wedding - how dare the people you love be making you so upset?:mad:
 
I'm pissed off at having yet another school-break ruined (I know this is partly my fault for allowing myself to get so upset - but still!).

I want to go and do bunting this afternoon, but I think we'll have to go over there and talk to them and sort this out for once and for all.
 
spanglechick said:
ok- two things occur to me.

firstly - gaiginboy is letting you down, if they're still getting the idea this is coming from you. that nasty insinuation has been going on long enough - it really isn't practical for you to protest your innocence - and you have a right to him making sure he does what he can so that you aren't.

secondly - you decided not to elope out of consideration for your parents - and in return they are showing absolutely zero consideration for the pair of you. do they really deserve this - they're behaving appalingly. if it were me, i'd book the next available slot at the register office, and phone the parents on the morning - saying that they, and they alone, are invited. or not even that - if you think they'll sulk and spoil it.


honestly, i'm so cross on your behalf. this is your wedding - how dare the people you love be making you so upset?:mad:
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Yup, totally right on both counts. I've had situations with my in-laws where they have thought I've been the one behind things and I have felt very bitter towards magic sam for letting me be in the firing line.

gaiginboy seriously needs to step up today and be assertive on behalf of both of you. He needs to tell them who limited the numbers, booked the room etc.

If it's not resolved I would just do what spangles said, book a registrar and do it. They don't really deserve your consideration at this point.
 
well it didn't go brilliantly.

This is really not good for us at all. Our parents don't seem to get that at all. My last question was "are we all happy with the arrangements now"... their response was.. "well we were always happy with the arrangements". Gaijinboy didn't pull them up on it at all, or express his upset at what has been happening recently. Cue big fight once they'd left.

We've never ever argued about anything before like this.

I think it's so unfair of both of our parents to put us in this position. We're both dreading it all now.
 
gaijingirl said:
well it didn't go brilliantly.

This is really not good for us at all. Our parents don't seem to get that at all. My last question was "are we all happy with the arrangements now"... their response was.. "well we were always happy with the arrangements". Gaijinboy didn't pull them up on it at all, or express his upset at what has been happening recently. Cue big fight once they'd left.

We've never ever argued about anything before like this.

I think it's so unfair of both of our parents to put us in this position. We're both dreading it all now.
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what would both of you feel about doing it without them?
 
It's ok.. we've calmed down now and we're turning our thoughts to alcohol instead. We'll both have really good friends there on the day to get us through any stressful bits.. and we've just made an executive decision to get away early, with mates to the pub after we've had the meal. We both suddenly feel better about it all.
 
At the risk of sounding like my nan, what can't be cured must be endured.

Concentrate on the good bits, enjoy what you're doing and plan to have a wild and wonderful day - to a certain extent, who cares who is there or not - you'll be married at the end of the day, and having a party!

Trying to be positive and not say sod the lot of them - how dare they be so inconsiderate!
 
I really feel for you!:(

Reading all this makes me so glad that we got married without telling any one!

This is the reason that so many marriages don't last! People see sides to partners/families that they hadn't seen before!

Am I right in thinking that you have already booked some stuff?

If I were you I would 'very calmly' say that all bookings are off while you and GB sort out where you are and what you want. When you have done so you will get back to your respective families and tell them what is happening, not ask their opinion.
You could then go ahead and book and arrange everything, still leaving enough time for family to fit in to the dates (and numbers) you have arranged but without the option of them changing anything.

This may sound over the top but you don't want the wedding to destroy your marriage before its even started.

Good luck!
 
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