Wedding etiquette - can I wear white lace?

[kittyP]

I reckon you'd be alright wearing it...

The bride should be only wearing white if she is chaste and as I bet she isn't just throw that into the mix if anyone gets uppity...problem solved

This is why I wore a red 50's style dress

 

[Vintage Paw]

All of this shit is why I fucked off to Vegas to get married, and I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

 

[spanglechick]

white with an obvious coloured pattern is completely cool, i reckon.

 

[scifisam]

aw jeez. i'm going to a wedding in like, 24 hours, and it's only just occurred to me that a white frock with a pink pattern might not be the ku. it's 1960s but doesn't look like anything anyone would get married in, unless they were the kind of person who might get married in a 1960s frock with a lairy pink pattern on it. i don't think the bride will mind, but i don't know how trad the rest of the guests will be. having said that, after the ceremony everyone's going for a ramble up glastonbury tor, so it's not like, supertrad wedding. my only alternative is a quite heavy velvet frock which i love and feel comfortable in for winter weddings, but will probably sweat like 15 bastards in if the weather is even vaguely pleasant. so my options are: frock a) spend day feeling paranoid about offending some tradition- crazed granny or b) sweat my own organs out of my eyelids if the temperature passes 65 degrees. grrrr. etiquette! i curse it!

If it has an obvious coloured pattern, I reckon it'd be totally fine, especially at a fairly unconventional wedding like that. Might get a bit dirty, mind.

 

[Looby]

Sound lovely breasticles. I think you should post a pic for us though, just to make sure like.

 

[breasticles]

update: i wore the dress in question and was told by the bride that her cousin said i won the 'best dressed woman at the wedding' prize. it is a pretty spiffy frock i must say. don't have any photos at the moment but if i do i will post them for your delight and delectation.

ps the bride was in a white dress with a pattern herself, a simply gawjus frock from phase 8. and she wore glasses! i love a bride in glasses! such a fly look.

 

[Mation]

update: i wore the dress in question and was told by the bride that her cousin said i won the 'best dressed woman at the wedding' prize.

Did you sweat your own organs out of your eyelids? And if not yours, whose?

e2a Don't wear the dress Pip! Although I speak as a bit of a hypocrite in that I did wear a white dress with a black outlines pattern of flowers, but still mostly white to someone's wedding. However, it didn't look anything like a wedding dress, I knew no-one would give a shit and that there was no way in the world that I could possibly upstage the bride, and I was right.

 

[breasticles]

Did you sweat your own organs out of your eyelids? And if not yours, whose?

no! it was bladdy freezing on saturday!

 

[Iguana]

I agree that wearing white/cream to a wedding is kind of bad form. But I had no idea black wasn't appropriate.

I wore a black and white dress to a wedding last week and now I'm freaked out I might have scandalised my in-laws.

 

[Audrey Horne]

Im sure black and white is absolutely fine. Personally I think the lace dress is absolutely gorgeous, but as someone who is getting married soon, I probably wouldnt be too chuffed with someone else wearing white/ivory to the wedding, and especially not lace in my case as my dress is lace!