Waiting in for people who don't turn up on time.....

[_angel_]

You also get people who just seem pathalogically incapable of ever being on time - nomatter how much time they have. They could have 10 hours to prepare, and all they do is extend their faffing around time until they suddenly find they've only got two minutes to get ready and leave for their appointment.

 

[mrsfran]

life makes me late.

and the fact that I think I can squeeze in another cup of tea before I set off

I wouldn't leave someone out and about waiting for me, but if I'm just going round to a mates for a cuppa etc, then I won't be there dead on time.

But what if they've got other stuff to do? What if, like many of us, they find someone being late simply rude. You say you're going to be there at 6, be there at six. You're not respecting other people's time otherwise.

Even if you're going to a mate's for a cup of tea, perhaps they've had to do a quick clean around before you arrive. If they think you're going to get there at 6, they've had to dash around to get things done in time. When you don't show up until half past, they've been rushing around for nothing. It's very annoying

 

[Mrs Miggins]

unfortunately, I am late for everything. No matter what i do I cant help it, and i have been told that some pals tell me an earlier time to get me somewhere on time!

So if someone says to you, I will meet you in X pub at 8pm, what do you actually do?

 

[DotCommunist]

You also get people who just seem pathalogically incapable of ever being on time - nomatter how much time they have. They could have 10 hours to prepare, and all they do is extend their faffing around time until they suddenly find they've only got two minutes to get ready and leave for their appointment.

I blame the cod-left

 

[mrsfran]

unfortunately, I am late for everything. No matter what i do I cant help it, and i have been told that some pals tell me an earlier time to get me somewhere on time!


i am just sloppy, messy/ disorganised.

YOU CAN HELP IT

You say you're sloppy/disorganised as if it's not in your power to do something about it. Look at the clock. Think how much time it's going to take to get to your destination. Leave with sufficient time to travel. It's really, really fucking easy. To not do so, to act as if you simply can't help it, as if you're some special flower who can't possibly organise herself to get somewhere on time and so other people have to wait, is arrogant and rude.

Can you tell this is one of my hot button issues?

 

[christonabike]

This is why I am beginning to realise that late people genuinely don't give a shit about keeping people waiting.

Aye

I was in the Hobhootananny waiting for friends who are always late

When it got to 20 minutes late I was so into my book that I would have preferred that they didn't turn up

unfortunately, I am late for everything. No matter what i do I cant help it, and i have been told that some pals tell me an earlier time to get me somewhere on time!

This is cock as if it was for something important and you really wanted to be there, you would be. Are you always late for job interviews/funerals/weddings? I would guess not, but I am only guessing

 

[_angel_]

Anyhow none of this is as bad as having to wait in for the thing that never actually happens, like I spent ALL DAY yesterday doing.

 

[Tank Girl]

it's obviously a big deal for you missfran, and I apologise on behalf of everyone that's ever turned up late on you

I wouldn't leave someone hanging around at a venue or restaurant etc. waiting for me to turn up in my own good sweet time. and if it's a visit to a mate, then we make the timings loose (ie. 6ish, not 6pm). and that works both ways.

I don't like it if people come round to my place early (unless it's really good mates) - I'd prefer to know that I'm ready for them. so I guess that would bug me just as much as someone being late would bug you.

 

[mrsfran]

it's obviously a big deal for you missfran, and I apologise on behalf of everyone that's ever turned up late on you

I wouldn't leave someone hanging around at a venue or restaurant etc. waiting for me to turn up in my own good sweet time. and if it's a visit to a mate, then we make the timings loose (ie. 6ish, not 6pm). and that works both ways.

I don't like it if people come round to my place early (unless it's really good mates) - I'd prefer to know that I'm ready for them. so I guess that would bug me just as much as someone being late would bug you.

Oh god no, I don't turn up to friends' houses early. That's just as bad! I turn up to venues or appointments early, and always carry a book so I can sit and read while I wait.

 

[Mrs Miggins]

YOU CAN HELP IT

You say you're sloppy/disorganised as if it's not in your power to do something about it. Look at the clock. Think how much time it's going to take to get to your destination. Leave with sufficient time to travel. It's really, really fucking easy. To not do so, to act as if you simply can't help it, as if you're some special flower who can't possibly organise herself to get somewhere on time and so other people have to wait, is arrogant and rude.

Can you tell this is one of my hot button issues?

You're not the only one - fucks me right off as well.

And I agree - look at the clock, figure out how long it's going to take you to a) get ready and b) get from your house to wherever you're going and work out what you need to do to be there on time. It's not exactly difficult.

 

[geminisnake]

This is cock as if it was for something important and you really wanted to be there, you would be. Are you always late for job interviews/funerals/weddings?

I was very nearly late for my granny's funeral but it was kinda subconsious coz I didn't want to go. Sort of if I don't go it's not real sort of thing.

I'm not the world's best time keeper but sometimes life does get in the way. Yes maybe I should ignore the ringing phone 5 minutes before I go out, but it could be the person you'remeeting going to be late.

I'm never more than 10 minutes late though. Sometimes it's because I've decided what to wear then put it on and change my mind

 

[poster342002]

Then there are the people who are always late because they're always so busy! They're alwasy so busy that they can never get to see you on time. And when they do arrive, they insult you by flapping around for a few minutes before leaving their barely-touched glass of drink (that you bought them) and leaving for another oh-so-important appointment elsewhere. They think they're granting you a huge privelege by granting you three minutes of their precious time.

These people can just fuck off. Either make the time to see me properly or don't bother. Just don't treat me like a joke. Take your "oh, I'm such a busy-bee twat" act and shove it.

Further to the above, I get the feeling it's often a status thing. Sort of "I'm so important and I've got so many people to see who are more rich and important than you that I'll turn up when I'm done with them first - as befits your lowly status".

 

[Mrs Miggins]

I'm not the world's best time keeper but sometimes life does get in the way. Yes maybe I should ignore the ringing phone 5 minutes before I go out, but it could be the person you'remeeting going to be late.

I'm never more than 10 minutes late though.

Everyone is late sometimes and 10 minutes isn't so bad. It's the people who are always 30 minutes or more late who are infuriating.

 

[beesonthewhatnow]

I'm almost never late, I can't stand it, it's just so fucking rude.

When people say things like "oh, that's just me, I'm always late" with a laugh, as if its somehow funny, I want to smack them in the face.

It's not funny, it just means you're a rude, useless, bastard.

 

[Mrs Miggins]

Further to the above, I get the feeling it's often a status thing. Sort of "I'm so important and I've got so many people to see who are more rich and important than you that I'll turn up when I'm done with them first - as befits your lowly status".

Next time you arrange to meet this person, I'd suggest just not turning up and telling them that you were too busy....

 

[beesonthewhatnow]

Sometimes it's because I've decided what to wear then put it on and change my mind

Christ, if someone was late and told me it was becuase they'd changed their mind over their clothes I'd launch them through the nearest plate glass window

 

[poster342002]

if someone was late and told me it was becuase they'd changed their mind over their clothes

I find dates are particularly bad for this. What they don't understand is that by the time they turn up, the person is so pissed off at waiting for them that they don't actually notice how nice the clothes are anyway.

 

[_angel_]

Are all of you really this angry in real life though?

 

[Mrs Miggins]

Are all of you really this angry in real life though?

With people who are always late - yes!
Although to be fair, I don't usually say to them "you are late again you fucking arsehole"
Perhaps I should
Maybe that's it - the late people don't know how much it pisses others off because we are usually too polite to tell them

 

[quimcunx]

Are all of you really this angry in real life though?

yes.

 

[myname]

I used to have this boyfriend who was always late, I was an aupair at the time and only had the family house to go back to if I didn't wait for him so I always waited.

We used to arrange to meet in a music shop so I could browse while waiting for him, but he'd be so late that I'd be bored of the whole row of shops by the time he turned up. One time I was so bored I went to an ice cream shop across town, had my ice cream, came back, he still wasn't there.

Oh and then when he finally turned up he wanted to browse in the music shop and I was still waiting and still bored.

Finally I cottoned on that he didn't care about keeping me waiting and finished with the arrogant knob. Then he cried and promised he'd change but it was too late.

 

[christonabike]

Then he cried and promised he'd change but it was too late.

Haha, good story

 

[poster342002]

Although to be fair, I don't usually say to them "you are late again you fucking arsehole"
Perhaps I should
Maybe that's it - the late people don't know how much it pisses others off because we are usually too polite to tell them

Although they usually seem oblivious to the quietly seething atmospheare that pervades the occasion when they finally deign to grace us with their presence....

 

[mrsfran]

Are all of you really this angry in real life though?

Yes, it really does piss me off this much in real life. I absolutely cannot stand lateness. I'd rather you just said you weren't coming at all.

Speaking of which - I also get very annoyed when people don't tell you until the last minute whether they're coming or not. All that "I MIGHT turn up" stuff - either come or don't come, make your mind up in good time, and let us know. It's always as if they're hedging their bets, as if something better might come up in which case they'll dump you, which is really incredibly rude. Be there or don't be there. There is no try.

 

[Yu_Gi_Oh]

My best mate is one of those fucking late people. Drives me totally insane, she's sooooo flaky.

Now when we arrange to meet I just say 'don't be late or I'll be really fucked off and wont want to see you when you finally arrive.' She's a bit about why I am so nazi about it but it saves a row.

 

[Yu_Gi_Oh]

Yes, it really does piss me off this much in real life. I absolutely cannot stand lateness. I'd rather you just said you weren't coming at all.

Speaking of which - I also get very annoyed when people don't tell you until the last minute whether they're coming or not. All that "I MIGHT turn up" stuff - either come or don't come, make your mind up in good time, and let us know. It's always as if they're hedging their bets, as if something better might come up in which case they'll dump you, which is really incredibly rude. Be there or don't be there. There is no try.

MissFran, you're so funny! You're exactly like me in this ^ respect.

 

[Mrs Miggins]

Hmmm...maybe that is another tactic.

Say to late friend: "I'll be there at 7pm. I'll wait til 7:30pm and if you're not there by then, I won't be"

 

[Yu_Gi_Oh]

Hmmm...maybe that is another tactic.

Say to late friend: "I'll be there at 7pm. I'll wait til 7:30pm and if you're not there by then, I won't be"

Yeah, totally. Why not? Late people are usually totally oblivious to how annoying they can be, it's not like they're actually trying to piss you off, so let them know.

 

[moomoo]

There's no excuse for being late when you are meeting people imo. Unless of course the train is cancelled or one of the kids throws up as you are about to leave.

It is just bloody rude, it's certainly not a sweet or charming trait in a person.

I had a friend who was always late. She's not my friend any more because the lack of disrespect she showed by always being late showed in other ways as well eventually.


The woman never turned up btw...........................

 

[poster342002]

There's no excuse for being late when you are meeting people imo. Unless of course the train is cancelled

Which is why I'll always catch the train before the one I need, just in case this happens. Or leave enough time for the tube in case the line I need to use is unexpectedly on the blink and I need to use another route.