London_Calling
Pleasant and unpatronising
If exploring and curiosity had been nurtured out of the species, we'd still be trying to look above the grass in ther Rift Valley, is my rather radical opionion.
Two year old missing - Stockwell FOUND SAFE
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Nanker Phelge
Leave the gun. Take the cannoli.
Exactly...a kid stuck by my side never wanting to venture would worry me more...
Mine has got to 12 and he's still alive, I haven't killed him yet, so I'm doing ok until he gets to 14 and becomes a rabid, feral beast out raping and murdering...
quimcunx
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That taking your kid out for fun time on your own for a couple of hours on a saturday is a bit different from having to be the one who has to do everything that they have to do day in day out with a toddler (or more) in tow.
Being 100% alert 100% of the time isn't that easy.
Clair De Lune
Apocalypse cocktails
Christ my son dissapears in the house somtimes and that scares me enough 
My daughter used to like hiding in clothes rails too, I used to have to run along looking for feet underneath them.
My daughter used to like hiding in clothes rails too, I used to have to run along looking for feet underneath them.
Corax
Luke 5:16
50/50 with us, for info. I rather suspect there may be a stereotype or two lurking in the background of your question. Am I wrong?
Nanker Phelge
Leave the gun. Take the cannoli.
quimcunx
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And please to note that I said ''primary carers''.
You can't even say ''mother'' any longer. It's PC gone mad!
quimcunx
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Not at all.
As I was reading the thread I noted that the people who were shocked and horrified were poster that I thought were men, and those saying FFS were women, often single mums, but didn't know. Generally speaking women are more often the primary carers, even today, in two thousand and nine. So I did wonder if there was a trend. Which is why I said ''I wonder''.
Corax
Luke 5:16
Not at all.
Cool. It just pisses me off when people assume I don't do an equal part of it because I'm male.
quimcunx
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Cool. It just pisses me off when people assume I don't do an equal part of it because I'm male.
Of course if you do things 50/50 then neither of you is the primary carer so you are perhaps not as frazzled as someone who has sole charge of their children 70 or more % of the time. Talking generalities, obviously. Every family is different.
Corax
Luke 5:16
That's precisely why both partners should play an equal part, where possible.
Nanker Phelge
Leave the gun. Take the cannoli.
Cool. It just pisses me off when people assume I don't do an equal part of it because I'm male.
That is annoying.
I have shared 'custody' of my son, and everything is split down the middle, money, time, the lot, so it does piss me off when I say that I have my son half the time and two minutes later I get asked 'do you only have him at weekends'...?
Some people have a real problem getting their head around the idea of a 'seperated' father that wants to be there and be responsible and give the time and the effort and the love it takes to raise and care and stand by a child.
...but on the other hand I was talking to some guy last week and he said 'yeah, I want to see my girls, but if I had them on Friday and Saturday then I wouldn't have a social life....I want my girls and I want my life...'
Clair De Lune
Apocalypse cocktails
That is annoying.
I have shared 'custody' of my son, and everything is split down the middle, money, time, the lot, so it does piss me off when I say that I have my son half the time and two minutes later I get asked 'do you only have him at weekends'...?
People have a real problem getting their head around the idea of a 'seperated' father that wants to be there and be responsible and give the time and the effort and the love it takes to raise and care and stand by a child.
...but on the other hand I was talking to some guy last week and he said 'yeah, I want to see my girls, but if I had them on Friday and Saturday then I wouldn't have a social life....I want my girls and I want my life...'
I can understand why that would be upsetting for you when you have a 50/50 deal going on but unfortunately not all dads and mums want or have that. It is not the norm, no matter how much we would like it to be.
Nanker Phelge
Leave the gun. Take the cannoli.
Heh! My teen used to do that.
I think a big part of knowing where you're safe is in the running away from it.
Blagsta
Minimum cage, maximum cage
My mum did that to me tooMy mam left me outside a shop in my pushchair when I was a baby and went home.
Nanker Phelge
Leave the gun. Take the cannoli.
....and I'm not afraid of pushchairs
It's not the norm, you're right, and that's sad because I have benefitted so much from sticking to my guns and seeing through what I started. If I get to my old age and my son can honestly tell me I was a good father, then I'll know I've achieved something valuable for him and for me.
He'll probably tell me I was a moody cunt!
Clair De Lune
Apocalypse cocktails
....and I'm not afraid of pushchairs
It's not the norm, you're right, and that's sad because I have benefitted so much from sticking to my guns and seeing through what I started. If I get to my old age and my son can honestly tell me I was a good father, then I'll know I've achieved something valuable for him and for me.
He'll probably tell me I was a moody cunt!
Hat off to you for that too mr
Is that aimed at me or just in general? You know my contact situation?
Of course there is
ATOMIC SUPLEX
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Well I have my daughter 100% of the time. Sure I can take my eyes off here around the house etc etc. If we are walking down the street I always have my eyes on her, it's really not that hard and if anything about bringing up a kid gives me a headache. . . well that really isn't it. It's easy. If the pavement gets busy she is always holding my hand (or I pick her up). If we are going along a narrow pavement, in a busy area or by a busy road, I pick her up. It's easy. I rarely use pushchairs but they also exist.
We have no idea what the situation was for the OPs girl. That's why I asked.
Nanker Phelge
Leave the gun. Take the cannoli.
Even when you're on stage?
What a stupid assumption to make. Are you of the opinion that all non resident parents only have ''fun time'' for a few hours on a saturday? If so then you're a bit of knob head!
quimcunx
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That's right we have no idea what the situation was, but you didn't just ask.
Who says it was crowded? We don't even actually know it was 2 minutes. The OP could have heard this 2nd or 3rd hand in a panicked situation. Yet the parent according to you needs ''excuses''. You sounded shocked and horrified at a parent's negligence, despite knowing nothing about the circumstances.
The responses on this thread suggest not everyone finds it as easy as you.
AnnO'Neemus
Is so vanilla
My daughter played hide and seek among the trouser rail in M&S.Yes, two year olds with a tendency to run off will probably be stabbing people by the time they're 14
Now she's 23, and she's a crack shot with a gun. That's actually true.
*She's in the TA!
AnnO'Neemus
Is so vanilla
Nanker Phelge
Leave the gun. Take the cannoli.
My poor baby, I took my eyes off him for a second.....
quimcunx
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General/my observations of this thread. No I don't. No reason why I would.
No, but being alert to children 100% of (let's say) 80% of the time is not always that easy. Being alert to them 100% of 20% of the time is, I would imagine, less of a drain.
Plus, all else being equal, 80% of child escapage incidents are likely to happen during the 80% shift and only 20% in the 20% shift.
I'd have to run fast to beat you in any knobhead race on here.
