This mummy means business..........
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Sweaty Betty
Hemo rising!
He has settled down now thankfully.
When I just went up to see him he said "Can we have ratatouille for tea tomorrow please Mummy?". I think he figured that as he loves that, he might have half a chance of getting some pudding!
Priceless- he is learning already mate
aqua
made of cheese and gin
but you can't always make him the things he already knows he likesHe has settled down now thankfully.
When I just went up to see him he said "Can we have ratatouille for tea tomorrow please Mummy?". I think he figured that as he loves that, he might have half a chance of getting some pudding!
tell him next time we'll be cross with him
yes, stand firm!
However, I do remember that it was unpleasant being coerced to eat things as a kid. What about the idea which I saw somewhere where you just offer them the food you want them to eat, if they don't eat it they just go hungry - the theory being that they will eventually crack and choose to eat what you give them?
This is my idea which I've just thought up, so it may be rubbish - but how about keeping desserts and nice treats a surprise, to be served if children put in a good effort with their main courses? This way you don't have to reward them every time with pudding - they won't know whether it is coming or not, so will act as if it may be. If one child doesn't eat their main course then instead of forcing them to eat, you simply quietly send them to their room... when they find out that the others have eaten pudding they'll be sure to eat their mains next time, I reckon
However, I do remember that it was unpleasant being coerced to eat things as a kid. What about the idea which I saw somewhere where you just offer them the food you want them to eat, if they don't eat it they just go hungry - the theory being that they will eventually crack and choose to eat what you give them?
This is my idea which I've just thought up, so it may be rubbish - but how about keeping desserts and nice treats a surprise, to be served if children put in a good effort with their main courses? This way you don't have to reward them every time with pudding - they won't know whether it is coming or not, so will act as if it may be. If one child doesn't eat their main course then instead of forcing them to eat, you simply quietly send them to their room... when they find out that the others have eaten pudding they'll be sure to eat their mains next time, I reckon
Termite Man
zombie flesh eater
I think he is going to make himself sick in a minute.
luckily he didn't eat his dinner so hopefully there won't be much sick to bring up
Termite Man
zombie flesh eater
If one child doesn't eat their main course then instead of forcing them to eat, you simply quietly send them to their room... when they find out that the others have eaten pudding they'll be sure to eat their mains next time, I reckon
or you say that it was going to be a pudding day but because of the way X has acted no-body is getting any pudding ( you can eat your pudding once the kids are in bed
) . The benefit of this is that the kids who did behave will probably give the naughty one a good beating because they missed out on pudding so it's like smacking the kid for being naughty but you are getting the other kids to do it and it will prevent naughtiness later !either that or liquidise the dinner and force feed the child , if the child struggles then tie it to the table making sure the hands and feet are well secured .
if things continue then start giving the kids pudding but make it stuff like sprout ice cream or liver spongecake so that the "good" part of meal time is the main course .
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scifisam
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Well done for standing firm, moomoo. It's a fair enough rule - it wasn't like you were forcing him to eat something he didn't want to, just that he wouldn't get any pudding unless he ate the healthier food first.
I mean, I can't imagine you make hm eat foods he doesn't like; with my daughter, there are a couple of foodstuffs she doesn't like, so we don't give her them, and when we give her anything new she doesn't have to eat it, but she does have to at least try it, and then not moan about it.
I have to say, if she'd shouted 'I want pudding!' she wouldn't have had any pudding for weeks, if ever again! She'd have had to write two sides of A4 about why shouting demands like that is wrong, and then do certain tasks (usually washing up for a couple of weeks) to earn her pudding back again. Tell your kids that and they'll feel spoilt in comparison.
I mean, I can't imagine you make hm eat foods he doesn't like; with my daughter, there are a couple of foodstuffs she doesn't like, so we don't give her them, and when we give her anything new she doesn't have to eat it, but she does have to at least try it, and then not moan about it.
I have to say, if she'd shouted 'I want pudding!' she wouldn't have had any pudding for weeks, if ever again! She'd have had to write two sides of A4 about why shouting demands like that is wrong, and then do certain tasks (usually washing up for a couple of weeks) to earn her pudding back again. Tell your kids that and they'll feel spoilt in comparison.
Yes.
I am struggling to understand the concept of only eating a couple of mouthfuls of chicken and stuffing.
Errrr, yeah. I'll think about it. Thanks.
Are you trying to undermine my authority?
Bloody free range chicken as well!
None of the children are ever forced to eat anything they don't like which is what made me so cross! He even said "Yummy" when I told him what was for tea.
Anyway, he's now got a lasting reminder of being naughty because while he was thrashing around upstairs, he managed to bang his head and he's got a big lump. TrippyLondoner
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lol, reminds me why i dont want kids. Or atleast not for a long time yet!
mysterygirl
Stealth visit from work
He has settled down now thankfully.
When I just went up to see him he said "Can we have ratatouille for tea tomorrow please Mummy?". I think he figured that as he loves that, he might have half a chance of getting some pudding!
Childless person speaking...... but lots of pets & Im not unconvinced of the differnce sometimes.......
If you make a stand you have to stick to it. All you will achieve by giving in is to teach your child that if he has a big enough tantrum, he will get his way. And so it escalates. And you have no-one to blame but yourself.
If you can't face the argument, don't even begin the discussion - just cave in right away. There's far more damage to be done by starting out saying 'no' and then caving in and re-inforcing & rewarding the bad behaviour by giving in as a result of it. Think it's bad now? Keep caving in -see how bad it gets then!!
He's old enough to understand - eat, or no pudding and hungry. It's not complicated, he gets it - hence the tantrum. There's no need to add to it, just re-inforce it tomorrow. Eat, or no pudding. Pave the way to success by offering stuff you know he loves - you'll win. And the sooner you start, the sooner you'll get your point across.
Miss-Shelf
I'll meet you further on up the road
It's amazing the way urban has stood together on this issue - is it the most uncontested thread ever?
I am also feeling a bit
and and 
that i am not up to the parenting boundaries you all (say you) display in everyday life
well done moomoo and hope your back gets better - bad backs are hard work -mine ain't great at the mo and stress makes em worse in my experience
be nice to yourself and rest or move slowly where you can tomorrow
I am also feeling a bit
and and that i am not up to the parenting boundaries you all (say you) display in everyday life
well done moomoo and hope your back gets better - bad backs are hard work -mine ain't great at the mo and stress makes em worse in my experience
be nice to yourself and rest or move slowly where you can tomorrow
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wobbly
i think most people know that when a kid throws a shit fit the last thing to do is let them get away with it or reward them for it.
It gets a bit more contested when you suggest it is still appropriate to ignore kid throwing a shit fit when it isn't at home though and not reward them by removing them from, for example, a shop, because they have decided they want to go home to watch tv instead of stay and get the week's shopping.
mysterygirl
Stealth visit from work
That may be true, but the habit can be started at home - this is a prime example. The more you can enforce the idea into their little minds that crossing you is not the way forward, the more likely you are to get the weekly shop done with the minimum of fuss.
Not so easy with the smaller ones, who are more likely to be with you during said weekly shop ('cos they're too little for the teacher-type people to have in their care) and yes, Im still childless and therefore open to correction without complaint by people with kids and therefore considerably more experience than I have!
weepiper
I fix the machines that fight climate change
I am soooo not looking forward to the day (not too far away) when my youngest (2) is too big for the trolley seat. His big sister (4) is fairly sensible and doesn't try and run off or trash shop displays - in fact she can actually be quite helpful if she's not feeling moany
but he has no sense whatsoever and you can 'no' until you're blue in the face, he just has that impulse and runs off/knocks stuff over/trips people up running under their feet etc etc. I have to physically restrain him (e.g. pick him up while he struggles to get down) if he gets in that mood, and it's damned difficult to push a full trolley with one hand
Sweaty Betty
Hemo rising!
I am soooo not looking forward to the day (not too far away) when my youngest (2) is too big for the trolley seat. His big sister (4) is fairly sensible and doesn't try and run off or trash shop displays - in fact she can actually be quite helpful if she's not feeling moany
I used to stick my girl in the trolley with the food
She thought it was great fun playing shops in a trolley in a shop
but the bread was always mangled by the time we got to the check out
scifisam
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It's amazing the way urban has stood together on this issue - is it the most uncontested thread ever?
I am also feeling a bit
that i am not up to the parenting boundaries you all (say you) display in everyday life
It's weird that I do find it really easy to stick my guns at home, but not so much at school. I guess it's because I made the rules at home (well, actually, we all sat down at the kitchen table and had a discussion then wrote the rules up on a big piece of paper on the wall.
) so I agree with them all, whereas I find it hard to enforce a rule that says 'kids are not allowed to go to the toilet during lessons.' Not enforcing that rule means that the kids at school then don't expect me to enforce the other rules, either, and I have a struggle to persuade them otherwise. *tears hair out*
scifisam
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I used to stick my girl in the trolley with the food
Me too. She loved it - she was a monkey in a cage, a prisoner in jail, an alien abductee, all sorts of things. My handbag got the baby seat.
That is a wicked idea. I might try that (if I can pin them all down at the same time) and use it in conjunction with a sticker chart..................
Right, I don't have children so forgive me if I'm sticking my nose in where it's not wanted. I do sometimes look after two naughty and picky boys (3 and 5) though, and find ignoring the problem is the best solution, eg.
'I don't want my dinner'
'okay'
'can I have some ice cream?'
'nope'
'but I want some'
'what did you do at school today?'
'I want ice cream'
'was Liam there?'
etc. etc.
Seriously, it works a treat! It doesn't draw me into an argument with a flipping five year old and more often than not distracts them (for a while).
The fights their mum has with them about their meals are painful to watch. She doesn't know this, but if they don't eat their dinner I don't give a shit. If they were hungry, they'd eat. Anyway, I'm rambling. Stand your ground! Don't give in!
'I don't want my dinner'
'okay'
'can I have some ice cream?'
'nope'
'but I want some'
'what did you do at school today?'
'I want ice cream'
'was Liam there?'
etc. etc.
Seriously, it works a treat! It doesn't draw me into an argument with a flipping five year old and more often than not distracts them (for a while).
The fights their mum has with them about their meals are painful to watch. She doesn't know this, but if they don't eat their dinner I don't give a shit. If they were hungry, they'd eat. Anyway, I'm rambling. Stand your ground! Don't give in!
scifisam
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That is a wicked idea. I might try that (if I can pin them all down at the same time) and use it in conjunction with a sticker chart..................
We had to do it because my daughter's just too dippy to keep up with what the rules are. Agreeing the rules seems fairer (they're rules for all of us, not just her - makes it easier for babysitters too, of course).
We also have the morning and evening routines (get up, go to toilet, brush teeth, etc.) written up on the wall, otherwise she'll sit on the floor for half an hour, one sock on, one sock off, daydreaming about butterflies.
Hope your boy's less grumpy by the morning.
Orang Utan
Maybe I like the misery
Blimey, I only had pudding on Sundays. Kids these days...
Sweaty Betty
Hemo rising!
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