Dovydaitis
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definatly agree with this one!
This mummy means business..........
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definatly agree with this one!
Sweaty Betty
Hemo rising!
You have a 15 min time frame with this- anything after is just prolonging his insistence and as others have said his insitence on asking is just as defiant....
personally id eat it when he wasnt looking and pretend it had gone in the bin
ShiftyBagLady
Thinks she is a flower to be looked at
seriously, whenever my son goes fussy i just eat mine and if hes still not eating i ask him do you want it? i am not going to sit here looking at you looking at the food so if you dont want it then leave it. so he does. he doesnt get any pudding or snack until the next meal.
no pressure. no ultimatums. just a clear choice of eat this or be hungry.
no pressure. no ultimatums. just a clear choice of eat this or be hungry.
madzone
Physically unfavourable
You have a 15 min time frame with this- anything after is just prolonging his insistence and as others have said his insitence on asking is just as defiant....
personally id eat it when he wasnt looking and pretend it had gone in the bin
I still don't think adding sanctions at this stage is a good idea. Just stick to the original one or he'll get confused. I've been to parenting classes you know
PacificOcean
Unhinged User
Can you not just stick a vitamin pill in his pudding and then everyone is happy?
*childless person posting*
*childless person posting*
sleaterkinney
Well-Known Member
I dunno, he's openly being bold. If he wasn't feeling hungry or didn't like the food I'd leave it but he just wants to cut straight to the dessert. What age is he anyway?.
Gromit
International Man of Misery
Sweaty Betty
Hemo rising!
Sweaty Betty
Hemo rising!
yep this is a control thing, his first sanction aint working- so next one then bed after that if he is still going on....
spanglechick
High Empress of Dressing Up
Sweaty Betty
Hemo rising!
ShiftyBagLady
Thinks she is a flower to be looked at
no need to beat the kids over the head with sanctions though. stay firm to what you have already said and they quickly learn that you mean it. inventing more punishments not only blows it out of proportion and adds to the stress but it is also giving a lot of attention to something you want to discourage. i say ignore it and ignore the other kids too, ignore them all
hes about 6 isnt he moomoo?
Sweaty Betty
Hemo rising!
I agree with the bottom bit, but letting him wail for ages more than is necessary is defeating the object imo...NO means NO and if defiance prevails then remove the object entirely out of the equation or remove the child away from the situation.....
Oooh, she's gone very quiet
I've been busy being a bad mummy!
He's 8Well, I divided his dinner into 1/2 and put his half on his favourite plate. He ate one tiny bit of chicken and stuffing and refused to eat any more. So he is now in bed. Screaming. And crying. And demanding pudding. And banging on the floor.
But I was very calm and didn't shout so I feel quite proud.
spanglechick
High Empress of Dressing Up
educational behaviour policy, fwiw, is that you should have a clearly predefined chain of sanctions - unrelated to the actual offence and invoked whenever misbehaviour occurs.
So the sanctions 'ladder' might be something like
quiet time to reflect
removal of pre-determined regular priviledges
early bedtime
removal of toys for increasing increments of time
but that's only one theory. the thing that really matters is consistancy. No backtracking. Enforce sanctions every time misbehaviour occurs.
Sweaty Betty
Hemo rising!
I've been busy being a bad mummy!
Well, I divided his dinner into 1/2 and put his half on his favourite plate. He ate one tiny bit of chicken and stuffing and refused to eat any more. So he is now in bed. Screaming. And crying. And demanding pudding. And banging on the floor.
But I was very calm and didn't shout so I feel quite proud.
well done....he will prolly fall asleep exhausted at this rate
That's interesting.
Where's the bit that covers what do do when they are having a dippy fit in bed though? I think he is going to make himself sick in a minute.
Sweaty Betty
Hemo rising!
That's interesting.
Where's the bit that covers what do do when they are having a dippy fit in bed though? I think he is going to make himself sick in a minute.
Not getting your own way is a bummer at that age, he is old enuff to realise he is pushing it- keep calm and measured and im sure he will be asleep by the time eastenders finishes
ShiftyBagLady
Thinks she is a flower to be looked at
I think he is going to make himself sick in a minute.
just make sure he cleans up after himself
fogbat
The Talibum
That's interesting.
Where's the bit that covers what do do when they are having a dippy fit in bed though? I think he is going to make himself sick in a minute.
If he is, make him eat it
spanglechick
High Empress of Dressing Up
it's a tricky thing, because he wouldn't get away with tantruming at school.
But at home, he identifies with younger behaviours, because his experience of discipline with you obviously dates back since he was a tot.
My sister had a similar thing with her younger son. Pretty much good as gold at school, bratty and stormy at home. Just remember, the school wouldn't stand for it, so there's no reason why he should imagine you would.
But at home, he identifies with younger behaviours, because his experience of discipline with you obviously dates back since he was a tot.
My sister had a similar thing with her younger son. Pretty much good as gold at school, bratty and stormy at home. Just remember, the school wouldn't stand for it, so there's no reason why he should imagine you would.
geminisnake
a complex mass of conflicting ideas
I've used that line. Tbh neither of mine were fussy eaters but sure as hell they wouldn't get pudding if they didn't eat most or all, not bloody half, of their tea.
Methinks I am not the softest mum in the world.
moonsi til
worked it out now!
At age 8 it's in my child free opinion that he is old enough to know that his behaviour is unacceptable and that you have tried to help him. Now he is just being uber naughty.
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geminisnake
a complex mass of conflicting ideas
So he is now in bed. Screaming. And crying. And demanding pudding. And banging on the floor.
But I was very calm and didn't shout so I feel quite proud.
I'd be advising him if he doesn't stop screaming now he won't see a pudding for at least a week.
If he makes himself sick make him clean it up.
My daughter had a tantrum once. I had a bigger tantrum, she never did it again.
trashpony
Hag
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That's interesting.
Where's the bit that covers what do do when they are having a dippy fit in bed though? I think he is going to make himself sick in a minute.
let him
my experience says that they only scream themselves sick once.
then give him a bucket of soapy water and a cloth and make him clear it up.
the only thing i'd do for a child that screamed themselves sick is offer a glass of water to take the taste away until they showed they were sorry for their behavior.
weepiper
I fix the machines that fight climate change
I've been busy being a bad mummy!
Well, I divided his dinner into 1/2 and put his half on his favourite plate. He ate one tiny bit of chicken and stuffing and refused to eat any more. So he is now in bed. Screaming. And crying. And demanding pudding. And banging on the floor.
But I was very calm and didn't shout so I feel quite proud.
You go!! Absolutely the right thing to do. He has to learn that your word stands and him kicking up a fuss isn't going to change it.
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