Teacher jabbed my son in the chest and hurt him

[Sweet FA]

I'm quite surprised at some of the comments here tbh. The only time a teacher should be putting hands on a kid is to stop them injuring themselves or others. I'd definitely have a quiet word with the teacher first then if you're not happy with the outcome, take it further. (I've had first hand experience of a parent going over my head to the erm head and tho it didn't cause me too much grief, it could've all been sorted more amicably than it was).

I thought we'd done away with the 'it never did me any harm' bullshit (it's not about you, it's about all children ffs) and the question about accepting the same behaviour from your boss was entirely relevant imo. Kids are smaller and more irritating versions of ourselves, not an entirely different species.

 

[equationgirl]

I'd have an informal chat with the head. You're going anyway, so you may as well.

What's the school protocol if a parent has a problem with a teacher? Surely there must be some guidelines...or am I assuming too much?

And no, I don't have children.

 

[extra dry]

speak to the head, the teacher sounds like shes defensive and denies things like this

 

[Wilf]

Presume you've checked for bruises? If there is, its definitely straight to the head - you could if you wanted even go the old bill as it would be assault.

Otherwise, talking to the parents of any kid yours says has been pulled around might be a starting point.

 

[purves grundy]

Teachers never ever lay a finger on kids nowadays, let alone jab. Once my NUT rep saw my hold a lad by his shoulders so I could stop him from pushing past a load of younger kids... I was told off good and proper.

Speaking as a former teacher, I would have a word with the teacher. You could do this, you could do that - yes you could, if you really wanted to.

 

[madamv]

After speaking to my mate today who is a pastoral and behavioural care worker in our local secondary school, I would agree that you cannot let this go unnoticed.

Sorry - bit pissed......

Her telling me stories today about the teachers as well as the kids made me want to weep. It is true. Teachers can be fucking evil and its not always the kids making it up or exagerating.

Poor madzboy... Give him some cuddles from his aunty v xx

 

[DRINK?]

Society is f*cked....no respect, tis always the teachers, tis always someone else who is wrong...I watch my girlfrriend.... a great teacher...and the stuff she comes up with that parents see and beleive...ok for kids to be out until 12 at night though when they are not motivated in the day it is the teachers fault....

I'm pissed and reading this whole thread wrong but for f*cks sake in my day if I got a poke in the chest my parents would have more concerned with me not having stepped out of line than starting a witch hunt....and yeah thinking back about it it would have been the kids who had been c*nts rather than the teacher....unbelievable I know.......yeah there are sh8t teachers there though there are a million more shit parents....not for one minute insinuating the OP is though in general as a society we are really looking at the wrong problems

 

[Kizmet]

... and breathe....

 

[madzone]

Society is f*cked....no respect, tis always the teachers, tis always someone else who is wrong...I watch my girlfrriend.... a great teacher...and the stuff she comes up with that parents see and beleive...ok for kids to be out until 12 at night though when they are not motivated in the day it is the teachers fault....

I'm pissed and reading this whole thread wrong but for f*cks sake in my day if I got a poke in the chest my parents would have more concerned with me not having stepped out of line than starting a witch hunt....and yeah thinking back about it it would have been the kids who had been c*nts rather than the teacher....unbelievable I know.......yeah there are sh8t teachers there though there are a million more shit parents....not for one minute insinuating the OP is though in general as a society we are really looking at the wrong problems

I agree with you.................................up to a point.

This isn't a witch hunt. My kid didn't 'step out of line' he forgot his P.E kit.
My kids are being brought up to realise that they have responsibilities, I always check as far as I can to see what both sides of the story are and for ages I've been sticking up for this teacher and saying that teaching is a stressfull job and that they're probably driving her nuts. However, this isn't some inner city, massive feeder school for the nearest sink estate. It's a tiny, C of E school with one class per year group and parents so middle class you can smell the money from the next town. I know a lot of teachers would piss their pants at the thought of this teacher getting so stressed out.

So, whilst I agree with you that all too often kids are seemingly being brought up with no regard for how their actions affect others we need to remember that in this instance all my son had done was forget his P.E kit.

I haven't had any problems with any of the other teachers through the school - they all like him, he's had consistently good reports since reception class so he's hardly a problem child.

 

[extra dry]

Any news from the school, any more things happening with this teacher??

 

[blues]

I'm quite surprised at some of the comments here tbh. The only time a teacher should be putting hands on a kid is to stop them injuring themselves or others.

That. But from your past experiences of this teacher I'd go to the head rather than her. Aside of her possibly getting aggressive/defensive with you, if you go to the head, the teacher in question will be approached by someone she knows and hopefully has a good relationship with, so far less reason to get aggressively defensive.

IMO the way you phrased it in the OP is the way to go.

 

[LilMissHissyFit]

TBH if she is (suspected) of dragging kids around and poking them in the chest, I would go to the Head. If the allegations are true, they need to be dealt with (not a question of trying not to get her in trouble, this ain't on!) and if they are false then at least it will be properly documented.

Good advice.
Place your concerns in writing. If you do then the head is obliged to respond. Dont do any part of this verbally. Write clearly stating your concerns and what you have been told by your son.

You need to start keeping a diary of things your son tells you too. If the head brushes it off then at least you will have a record which you can use if her behaviour continues.

 

[goldenecitrone]

I think your child is exhibiting the first signs of anti-authoritarianism which in future life will lead to criminality and very probably prison. Take the child to the police as soon as possible and have them give a DNA sample and fingerprints. It's the only way to stop society falling apart.

 

[panpete]

The teacher sounds fucked up tbh.

Time will show.

Lets just not hope too much damage is done in the meantime eh.

 

[_angel_]

when will Madz be back to tell us what happened? (I assume she asked for a ban)

 

[FridgeMagnet]

She did ask, yes - should probably change her tagline to indicate this.