sleaterkinney
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That's a completely different scenario.
Teacher jabbed my son in the chest and hurt him
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sleaterkinney
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Because I'm not nine years old, and the boss would not have to keep control at work.Why?
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wouldn't you accept a boss doing that to you then?
sleaterkinney
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Stobart Stopper
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The trouble is, kids do sometimes make things out to be a bit worse than they really were, especially when it comes to teachers. I have had a few whines from Kevin about how "it was so unfair" the way he was treated, when a bit of questioning of his mates reveals that he was arsing about with his footie team mates when he should have been working.
I'd ask your son's mates first, if you can.
I'd ask your son's mates first, if you can.
Nope, but then I'm not a child. You're also assuming that kids tell 100% the truth and never embellish... (Even though its your son he's going to. I did)
Rollem
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Does she really!
Allegedly
Now, I'm very aware that 9 yr olds can 'embellish' stuff and I've explained that he has a responsibility to behave himself
Rollem
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the point is that each should present the same level of respect. a teacher is in a position of trust (both trust from the child and the parents) to start jabbbing a kid in the chest (however bloody hard) is an abuse of this trust.
if a teacher cant 'keep control' of a child without resorting to prodding and bullying then they should perhaps reconsider their vocation...
sleaterkinney
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Why?. A grown-up would be expected to know how to behave, a nine year old wouldn't.
I dunno, I don't see it as that big a deal.
DotCommunist
So many particulars. So many questions.
Just chin her Madz
IF she is routinely losing control then yes. Kids can exaggerate though. My instinct would be to talk with the teacher first.
Break his fucking fingers.
And shouting and using aggressive body language is the best way to show somebody how to behave, is it?
madzone
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Ok, can I just drag this back to some basic facts? My son is not a marauding hoody, hell bent on the disruption of the class, he forgot his P.E kit.
If he was running around, being disrespectful, disruptive or otherwise behaving in a way that the teacher may have been struggling to control I'd understand a bit more but something as benign as not having your kit when you're 9 is not the kind of thing where there is any issue of 'control' surely?
I'm also not going to go flying into the school making all kinds of accusations, I'm going to speak ti the head and say that this is what my son said happened - totally different scenario. If it turns out it didn't happen (and I doubt that very much) then we'll need to look at why my son says it did and explain the ramifications of such an accusation.
Please - credit me with some kind of emotional intelligence
If he was running around, being disrespectful, disruptive or otherwise behaving in a way that the teacher may have been struggling to control I'd understand a bit more but something as benign as not having your kit when you're 9 is not the kind of thing where there is any issue of 'control' surely?
I'm also not going to go flying into the school making all kinds of accusations, I'm going to speak ti the head and say that this is what my son said happened - totally different scenario. If it turns out it didn't happen (and I doubt that very much) then we'll need to look at why my son says it did and explain the ramifications of such an accusation.
Please - credit me with some kind of emotional intelligence
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Thing is, the kids don't tend to make up the whole story, there's usually something behind it and a kid making complaints about a teacher is a good sign that there is a problem there. I'd go to the teacher first, unless the teacher has a history of unacceptable behaviour.
i'd also consider asking any other parents to ask their kid if they saw the incident, without warning my kid, so the kids could put a story together.
As for PE teachers, my son's primary now employs specialist sports teachers. They don't tend to stay more than 3 years, so there have been now 3 Aussie blokes. They seem to have a different attitude to the PE teachers i had at school, they encourage the less able kids to do well instead of trying to bully them and certainly where my son is concerned, he's got a real love of playing sports now, because of these teachers and is starting to do really well.
Ok, can I just drag this back to some basic facts? My son is not a marauding hoody, hell bent on the disruption of the class, he forgot his P.E kit.
If he was running around, being disrespectful, disruptive or otherwise behaving in a way that the teacher may have been struggling to control I'd understand a bit more but something as benign as not having your kit when you're 9 is not the kind of thing where there is any issue of 'control' surely?
I'm also not going to go flying into the school making all kinds of accusations, I'm going to speak ti the head and say that this is what my son said happened - totally different scenario. If it turns out it didn't happen (and I doubt that very much) then we'll need to look at why my son says it did and explain the ramifications of such an accusation.
Please - credit me with some kind of emotional intelligence
Very sensible I think, madzone, that's how I would deal with it.
Ok, can I just drag this back to some basic facts? My son is not a marauding hoody, hell bent on the disruption of the class, he forgot his P.E kit.
If he was running around, being disrespectful, disruptive or otherwise behaving in a way that the teacher may have been struggling to control I'd understand a bit more but something as benign as not having your kit when you're 9 is not the kind of thing where there is any issue of 'control' surely?
I'm also not going to go flying into the school making all kinds of accusations, I'm going to speak ti the head and say that this is what my son said happened - totally different scenario. If it turns out it didn't happen (and I doubt that very much) then we'll need to look at why my son says it did and explain the ramifications of such an accusation.
Please - credit me with some kind of emotional intelligence
I misunderstood. I thought you wanted to know what views people had on this.
madzone
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I wanted to know if people thought I should speak to the teacher or the head first. The people who's views in generally trust in this sort of instance mostly said speak to the head.
Your problem?
I don't have one. I'm just pointing out that it's a bit much to roll your eyes when you asked people what they thought.
madzone
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I only asked poeple who I should speak to first. I didn't ask them to go off into the realms of fantasy
madzone
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I don't remember writing that. Someone must have stolen my log in
madzone
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OK, whatever you say...
