Smell of smoking seeping into mine from flat below

[TopCat]

You should definitely ask the fag smoker to stop. Preferably in a whiny USA accent.

 

[AnnO'Neemus]

I know he was out smoking on her balcony yesterday, because I was having brunch out on mine and ended up coming in.

And now I'd fairly sure he's smoking in her sitting room because the smell has seeped up to mind again. I lit a scented candle about an hour ago. I can still smell the undercurrent of cigarette smoke though and it's been making me feel nauseous again.

There can be no compromise in a situation like this.

Either he stops smoking in her flat and that enables me to go back to having quiet enjoyment of my own home.

Or he doesn't and I'm nauseous and miserable in my own home.

 

[feyr]

butif he stops smoking in the flat, he would still be smoking outside on the balcony? unless your flat is totally sealed, changes are some oudor is going to come in from outside.

i asked a friend about this as she lives above a pub, and obviously before the smoking ban she put up with smells coming in. now she says its just as bad with smokers smoking outside below her windows. she cope with bowls of vinegar, leaving citrus peel in pot pouri pots and running an air ionier/purifier in her bedroom. no obvious smell of smoke in her flat

 

[FridgeMagnet]

Or he doesn't and I'm nauseous and miserable in my own home.

I have a feeling that it's this.

 

[grit]

I know he was out smoking on her balcony yesterday, because I was having brunch out on mine and ended up coming in.

And now I'd fairly sure he's smoking in her sitting room because the smell has seeped up to mind again. I lit a scented candle about an hour ago. I can still smell the undercurrent of cigarette smoke though and it's been making me feel nauseous again.

There can be no compromise in a situation like this.

Either he stops smoking in her flat and that enables me to go back to having quiet enjoyment of my own home.

Or he doesn't and I'm nauseous and miserable in my own home.

Oh I really hope you try to tell someone that they cant smoke in their own flat. Seriously though if your so sensitive how do you manage to walk down a city street?

 

[TopCat]

Car exhaust fumes make me nauseous. Ban all cars say I! (apart from mine obviously)

 

[ajdown]

Seriously though if your so sensitive how do you manage to walk down a city street?

Evidently you underestimate the problem of second hand smoke on everyone else, because I hate having to walk down the street following a smoker, or waiting for a bus with one in the vicinity.

 

[Wookey]

People smell. Always have done.

Don't like smells? Stay away from people, and make your life happier, is my diagnosis.

I'm noise sensitive, and always remind myself that I am the one with the heightened sensitivity, and ideally would live on an island away from everyone else (bliss!).

But I have to live in a city for now, and wear earplugs.

Louloubelle has similar problems walking past smokers outside pubs, as the smoke affects her asthma.

I always wondered why a serious asthmatic was doing living in London?!!

 

[crustychick]

Maybe Ann should wear nose-plugs

 

[Wookey]

Maybe Ann should wear nose-plugs

Maybe Ann shouldn't live so close to people when she is clearly sensitive to their effluance?

 

[ajdown]

Maybe Ann shouldn't live so close to people when she is clearly sensitive to their effluance?

Let's remember here that it is not the non-smokers that are the cause of the problem, therefore it should not be them that have to make "concessions" to allow others to follow their disgusting habits.

 

[grit]

Evidently you underestimate the problem of second hand smoke on everyone else, because I hate having to walk down the street following a smoker, or waiting for a bus with one in the vicinity.

Yeah and I hate the smell of one of my neighbors cooking along with the fumes from the large amount of cars that drive down my street. What do I do? accept its all part of life in the city.

Edited to add: Never mind Wookey did a far better job of making the point

 

[Wookey]

Let's remember here that it is not the non-smokers that are the cause of the problem, therefore it should not be them that have to make "concessions" to allow others to follow their disgusting habits.

Speaking on a purely personal level, reminding yourself of how people 'should' behave is ultimately self-defeating, when you really have no chance of stopping their behaviour.

I don't like cars, or noise, or children, or barking dogs. All these are anti-social noise pollution when they occur at the wrong times. I can't avoid them living in a city, so the easiest route to make me happy would be to not live in a city.

This realisation helps me to control my noise sensitivity, because psychologically it's the not being in charge bit that causes the anxiety.

I realise Ann's problem is not psychological, but physical, but the route to happiness remains the same - pick the battles you can win, and walk away from those you can't.

It doesn't matter who's right or wrong, what matters is making yourself an environment that suits you, so you can be relaxed and healthy.

 

[ajdown]

what matters is making yourself an environment that suits you, so you can be relaxed and healthy.

... which is why I plan on getting out of London as soon as circumstances allow me to.

 

[Wookey]

... which is why I plan on getting out of London as soon as circumstances allow me to.

And me Manchester!!

I'd love to live in a cliff-top cottage in the Outer Hebrides. It's my goal in life to give up trying to accomodate people, and just leave them to it!

 

[AnnO'Neemus]

I think her brother might be visiting again. It's started again. I can smell it quite strongly in the sitting room (presumably coming up the chimney flue) and also in the bathroom (presumably coming up the service shaft for pipes).

It stinks like a stale ashtray and it makes me feel nauseous and gives me a headache.