Should parents be able to post up pictures of their kids without permission?

Discussion in 'photography, graphics & art' started by editor, Mar 28, 2019.

  1. editor

    editor Walking along the lonely street of dreams

    Interesting conundrum here. I'm glad social media wasn't around when I was a small child.

    'Mum! Stop sharing photos of me online!'
     
  2. Poot

    Poot Everyone's a superhero, everyone's a Captain Kirk

    I think all you can do is comply with your child's wishes. Mine don't really mind the ones of when they were little being on there but have specifically asked me not to post them without telling them. And no recent ones. Which is fair enough, really. I mean, there are plenty of pics of me that I don't want them to post either!

    (Fwiw my son live streams on instagram quite often and most of his live streams end with my voice saying 'will you give me that fucking phone and stop acting like a dick?!'. And then I get embarrassed when I realise his phone's still on. :rolleyes: I bet Joe Sugg never has this problem. Times really are a-changin').
     
  3. SpookyFrank

    SpookyFrank Whatever it is, I'm against it

    Oh well this is a tricky one. On the one hand, no. But on the other hand, still no.

    Your kids are not your fucking property. Even if you think they're too young to have rights or privacy or anything, they will grow up some day and all the shit you posted without their consent will still be there.
     
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  4. weltweit

    weltweit Well-Known Member

    It is an issue.

    I made a book for family distribution of 80 pictures of my son from age 1 to about 14. I don't post those pictures online and the books only went to close family.

    But I have some which are more than just a snapshot of son, and those I sometime share in my camera club, which has a limited viewership.

    It is quite rare that I will put pictures of him on the open Internet through. Although I have done it once or twice.

    I took photos of him today which he knows might end up on display at the camera club, he was quite relaxed about it.
     
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  5. weltweit

    weltweit Well-Known Member

    For a while I was the informal family photographer for a group of our friends, I didn't post any pictures of their kids online, but I did share some with my camera club.
     
  6. smmudge

    smmudge Sissy that walk!

    I have to say if I was born a lot later and instagram or facebook was around in my parents' time and they posted loads of pictures of me when i was younger... When I grew up I would be very unhappy about it. I think parents should think a bit more before they post pics of their kids, sorry if anyone does that.
     
  7. S☼I

    S☼I I'm good, but I'm no Coalface.

    Kinda nobody's business what I put up on FB or here of my own family, especially non-parents. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
     
  8. weltweit

    weltweit Well-Known Member

    Facebook is just another phenomenon altogether.

    I have called out friends for the photos they have posted there.
     
  9. S☼I

    S☼I I'm good, but I'm no Coalface.

    Example?
     
  10. weltweit

    weltweit Well-Known Member

    My ex posted an embarrassing photo of her and our son, I told her it wasn't appropriate and to delete it.

    She did.
     
  11. moomoo

    moomoo Not so yummy mummy

    I can post pics of my eldest son willy nilly because he absolutely loves the attention. My daughter has to pre-approve pics of her and it’s rare I’m allowed to post one of my youngest.

    With regards to the little ones, I always ask mum’s permission before I post a pic.
     
  12. weltweit

    weltweit Well-Known Member

    I think you are right moomoo, a lot depends on the subjects opinions on it.
     
  13. editor

    editor Walking along the lonely street of dreams

    Why are you bringing up "non parents"? :confused:
     
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  14. weltweit

    weltweit Well-Known Member

    And I suppose it might depend if you have your fb permissions tied down, friends only for example limits the public viewing of the images.

    When someone views a profile in LinkedIn, there is evidence someone has been there, even if they come anonymously, but in fb there is no evidence who has been browsing.
     
  15. Rutita1

    Rutita1 Sassy McFlashy

    Pictures of kids posted online are the equivalent of getting photo albums out when someone visits. I didn't like that much as a kid so yeah some kids must hate their parents posting them online for all and sundry to see and comment on.

    I personally am not that bothered by people posting pics of their kids, regardless of how often, I enjoy the pics mostly...I do admit to being irritated by the humble-brag obviously embellished stories people tell about themselves/their kids online... It's just so fucking pointless, obviously competitive and dishonest. I have muted more than one person's feed for that reason.
     
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  16. Pickman's model

    Pickman's model Starry Wisdom

    maybe he's a late convert to larkinism

    Man hands on misery to man
    It deepens like a coastal shelf
    Get out as early as you can
    And don't have any kids yourself
     
  17. S☼I

    S☼I I'm good, but I'm no Coalface.

    Because the thread is about parents.
     
  18. Glitter

    Glitter Goddess of rock!

    I don’t have a problem with it. I always ask other people before I post pics of their kids but I’m happy posting my own.

    Can’t see an issue with it tbh. *shrugs*
     
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  19. editor

    editor Walking along the lonely street of dreams

    Yes. But why are you bringing up 'non parents'? Who are you referring to? And why?
     
  20. S☼I

    S☼I I'm good, but I'm no Coalface.

    Don't believe you or Spooky have kids. I may be wrong. What's your Hot Take on this issue, regarding those parents who DO put up pics of their kids?
     
  21. editor

    editor Walking along the lonely street of dreams

    Then you're fucking wrong, but congrats for posting up the most trite of arguments.
     
  22. S☼I

    S☼I I'm good, but I'm no Coalface.

    What's your opinion on your OP?
     
  23. MadeInBedlam

    MadeInBedlam Arm the mentally ill Enforced Holiday

    I read it as being about the rights and expectations children ought to be able to have.

    But I’ve never had kids so I might not understand this fully.
     
  24. editor

    editor Walking along the lonely street of dreams

    Like I said in the opening post: "it's a conundrum."
    I wouldn't like to be an 18 year old with hundreds of pictures of me in my young teens freely available on line and I think its something that parents should talk to their kids about, particularly as they go into adolescence.
     
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  25. editor

    editor Walking along the lonely street of dreams

    SPEAKING AS A PARENT, I think you have every right to an opinion on the topic.
     
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  26. Rutita1

    Rutita1 Sassy McFlashy


    Seems a silly position to take given I bet you don't filter non-parents out of the stuff you post about your kids here or anywhere else online.
     
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  27. S☼I

    S☼I I'm good, but I'm no Coalface.

    :D
     
  28. S☼I

    S☼I I'm good, but I'm no Coalface.

    How freely available is freely available?
    Parents I guess are proud of their kids, and the unexceptional but also amazing stuff they get up to. I know what Frank means about kids not being property of parents, but posting pics isn't claiming ownership.
    I think it'd be a bit weird if you never posted photos of your kids anywhere until they were of an age to be able to express their permission and understand privacy in the detail required to make that judgement.

    I mean Urban has a dedicated kids photos thread - is there really a genuine argument against people being able to decide using their own judgement that posting photos of their own children is ok on that thread, or for their friends on Facebook or wherever?
     
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  29. brixtonblade

    brixtonblade Well-Known Member

    I've only ever posted one photo of my kids, it was me and the two of them just after the youngest was born. I think it's up to them what they want online and it's not my call to put them online.
    I don't think 13 is old enough for informed consent about what kind of digital footprint kids start leaving either FWIW but I don't I'm restricting social media accounts to an older age is possible
     
  30. S☼I

    S☼I I'm good, but I'm no Coalface.

    No, but it's not anyone else's decision what I choose to share
     

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