Should mrs ii quit her job?
- Thread starter ill-informed
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toblerone3
Grrrrr
But why calculate it as though the cost of childcare is coming purely out of her wages rather than a shared cost.
greedy banker
I have a very large penis
Er, what did you agree/plan before having the baby, or did it just turn up on the end of a stork one day?
Thora
Differently Ethical
It makes sense in working out if the extra on top of his from her working is worth it.
ill-informed
passive aggressive master
that sounds ok in principle however i'm not sure it could work. My work is a bit sporadic (gardening/landscaping) and when i get work i need to do it and we're coming to the busy time of year. My mum is 70 and the baby will scream if she isn't carried everywhere, which my mum can't do. The childminder will need to know what days in advance and with the cost it seems like a luxury we can't afford. And the baby won't drink from a bottle which also makes things more difficult.
ill-informed
passive aggressive master
She is still getting maternity leave from her previous job that she doesn't want to/can't go back to. Her new job she is doing voluntary at the moment until the maternity leave stops.
trashpony
Hag
But you're talking like the baby is going to be like that forever but really it's about a year at the very most when they want to be carried/breastfed constantly. And if your wife is breastfeeding and your baby won't take a bottle, how does she work at the moment?
This thread is a bit odd
ill-informed
passive aggressive master
depends but it may be up to £10/hour.
Thora
Differently Ethical
Is that before or after tax/expenses? And does that rely on her filling all her spaces?
ill-informed
passive aggressive master
Sorry for not explaining myself properly. My mum has been looking after her but the baby has screamed a lot. My wife tries to feed her beforehand.But you're talking like the baby is going to be like that forever but really it's about a year at the very most when they want to be carried/breastfed constantly. And if your wife is breastfeeding and your baby won't take a bottle, how does she work at the moment?
This thread is a bit odd
I realise the baby will change, soon she'll be crawling, but i have to emphasise that the baby is very difficult, the polar opposite of our other daughter who's now 3, she goes to the pre-school btw.
ill-informed
passive aggressive master
i doubt she'll pay much tax if at all, it will only be part time whatever she does. How she does filling spaces we don't know yet, she's had a few people approach her already and there's a shortage of childminders in the area so i'm assuming it shouldn't be too difficult to fill spaces.
Thora
Differently Ethical
It does sound tough, though some babies who won't take bottles will drink from a doidy cup. Is it breast milk or formula milk in the bottle?
Some childminders will do ad hoc hours, or maybe you could pay for an average number of hours each week and use more or less as you need them depending on your work. That way you wouldn't be paying for more hours than you need. Could be worth calling round local CMs to ask.
LilMissHissyFit
Disturbed in a pink bra
could the baby be hungry?
I Breastfed all mine and none of them could have been breastfed and then left while I worked... small babies who are breastfed just dont do that. NOt without expressed milk/top ups etc. Breastfed babies dont go several hours between feeds very often when they are under about 9 mths IME
Sounds like there is alot more going on in this situation and no, IMO you dont have any right to tell her what to do... equally it doesnt sound like you have told us everything needed to make a decision on this..
IF shes registering as a childminder it makes more financial sense ( if you are skint like yu say) for you to look after the baby when you arent working, sort any feeding issues which may be making poor baby scream blue murder for granny. Her to apply to do the childminding and see what she can arrange to sort all the issues, paperwork etc connected while shes working at least PT...
BUt tell her what to do? No, and why on earth cant you find out what you are entitled to in terms of tax credits? You are a family now why is it her job and why is the childminding being seen as a net loss on her income rather than a financial investment you have to make in order for her to do her job?
I Breastfed all mine and none of them could have been breastfed and then left while I worked... small babies who are breastfed just dont do that. NOt without expressed milk/top ups etc. Breastfed babies dont go several hours between feeds very often when they are under about 9 mths IME
Sounds like there is alot more going on in this situation and no, IMO you dont have any right to tell her what to do... equally it doesnt sound like you have told us everything needed to make a decision on this..
IF shes registering as a childminder it makes more financial sense ( if you are skint like yu say) for you to look after the baby when you arent working, sort any feeding issues which may be making poor baby scream blue murder for granny. Her to apply to do the childminding and see what she can arrange to sort all the issues, paperwork etc connected while shes working at least PT...
BUt tell her what to do? No, and why on earth cant you find out what you are entitled to in terms of tax credits? You are a family now why is it her job and why is the childminding being seen as a net loss on her income rather than a financial investment you have to make in order for her to do her job?
Thora
Differently Ethical
That sounds promising - but don't forget to take account of the new equipment, toys and books, heating, electric, food, petrol, car insurance, liability insurance, toddler groups etc when comparing incomes for childminding and working.
Surely there's a lot of value in your wife being happy as well as the financial implications too? Could you find better paid/more regular work?
ill-informed
passive aggressive master
i'm sure the baby is hungry at times. She's on breast milk and the odd bit of mashed up veg. She'll take a bit from a cup but not much.
We get tax credits already.
i'm not telling her what to do, i'm just giving my opinion btw.
As well as the financial aspect of this i also think that small babies should be looked after by their mother and not 'dumped' on a childminder, but that's just my opinion.
We get tax credits already.
i'm not telling her what to do, i'm just giving my opinion btw.
As well as the financial aspect of this i also think that small babies should be looked after by their mother and not 'dumped' on a childminder, but that's just my opinion.
ill-informed
passive aggressive master
i do a bit, but i'm usually too busy, although i could do more.
Thora
Differently Ethical
Be less busy and start contributing more to your child's care then, and stop dumping your responsibility on your wife and mother.
ill-informed
passive aggressive master
hey, how come you're all ganging up on me.
this isn't a battle between me and the wife, we're both just trying to get by. And i am very busy.
this isn't a battle between me and the wife, we're both just trying to get by. And i am very busy.
Thora
Differently Ethical
You seem to have very, shall we say, "old fashioned" ideas about a woman's role. Tends not to go down well with us modern liberated types.hey, how come you're all ganging up on me.
this isn't a battle between me and the wife, we're both just trying to get by. And i am very busy.
Your wife is very busy in her dream job too.
sheothebudworths
Up the bum - no babies!!!
ill-informed
passive aggressive master
well i am in my 40's. And i have this 'old fahioned' crazy idea that mothers should look after their babies, crazy! She is very busy btw.
Please don't use your age as an excuse, it won't wash.
I know (well) 3 married men in their 40s who think that men should pull their weight - one of them was a househusband for a few years while his wife worked. None of them would dream of telling their wives what to do (nor letting their wives tell them what to do) - they'd expect to discuss anything which was going to affect the houshold or the relationship.
I know (well) 3 married men in their 40s who think that men should pull their weight - one of them was a househusband for a few years while his wife worked. None of them would dream of telling their wives what to do (nor letting their wives tell them what to do) - they'd expect to discuss anything which was going to affect the houshold or the relationship.
