Self help books?

[MightyAphrodite]

The only one I've ever read was called "It's called a break up because it's broken" written by the people who wrote "He's just not that into you"

Greg Behrendt

That man is a fuckin idiot!!...he demonises men in a shocking, shocking way...i hate him i do.

This person has it about right.

he exchanged his testicles for fame

 

[quimcunx]

i like 'feel the fear and do it anyway'......not that it entirely works when you don't like flying.

I wanted to kill her in the face. fine Ms smugarse Jeffries. Send me the £37,500 I'd need to do it anyway.

 

[quimcunx]

Depending on what your needs are you might find a hypnotape useful. I've got one (I forget the name of the guy) which is just for general confidence. Listen to it before bed for a few nights. If nothing else you'll get a good night's sleep and talks to your subconscious and makes you feel better about yourself.

I also bought the susan jeffries one, in a fit of second chanceness, but her voice is as annoying as her book.

 

[onemonkey]

i have a very smart and switched on friend who swears by Oprah's Dr Phil. I've flicked through one of his books and he's more sensible than i'd normally give a US celeb self-helper credit for.

for a british version Dorothy Rowe talks a lot of sense..

 

[MightyAphrodite]

i have a very smart and switched on friend who swears by Oprah's Dr Phil. I've flicked through one of his books and he's more sensible than i'd normally give a US celeb self-helper credit for.

for a british version Dorothy Rowe talks a lot of sense..

Dr. Phil is the bomb!

 

[8ball]

for a british version Dorothy Rowe talks a lot of sense..

<pedant mode>
Dorothy Rowe is Australian.
</pedant mode>

 

[wishface]

I think the Barefoot Doctor had a moment of enlightenment shortly before writing that book I mentioned (I think it was his first) Despite what a wanker people now profess him to be, I still think that particular book has got some very good insights for weary warriors. Still I can see how you'd not be interested.

that woud be the book where he claims people can travel astrally?

 

[BlackSpecs]

This might sound like a pretty weird choice but after you've read these two you wont seek selfhelp anymore ! :

-The Black Swan: The Impact of the Highly Improbable by Nassim Nicholas Taleb

-Freakonomics : A Rogue Economist Explores the Hidden Side of Everything by Steven D. Levitt

 

[ICB]

Can't stand self-help books

Alternatives that I enjoyed

"Think" and "Being Good" by Simon Blackburn
"The Prophet" by Kahil Gibran
"The Consolations of Philosophy" by Alain the Bottom

 

[zenie]

Yeh I'm interested in what worked for people.

I dont think I'm in 'need' of a self help book, or help but y'know it's interesting to find out what people's experiences are of these things.

 

[dlx1]

I think you got to believe they work, to get a positive out come.
But thet most things

 

[Mungy]

"The Prophet" by Kahil Gibran

Yeah

And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, "Speak to us of Children."
And he said:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

Powerful stuff.

 

[8ball]

You are not your job.
You're not how much money you have in the bank.
You're not the car you drive.
You're not the contents of your wallet.
You're not your fucking khakis.

You are the all-singing all-dancing crap of the world.

 

[8ball]

Even the best psychiatrist is like a blindfolded auto mechanic poking around under your hood with a giant foam "We're #1" finger. -- Dennis Miller 2001/03/09 rant

 

[aurora green]

that woud be the book where he claims people can travel astrally?

Yeah. But to be fair, it's just his fancy name for positive visualisation.

 

[ICB]

Yeh I'm interested in what worked for people.

I dont think I'm in 'need' of a self help book, or help but y'know it's interesting to find out what people's experiences are of these things.

very sensible

Powerful stuff.

My favourite bit as well

It's just occured to me that the image of the parent as bow implies that you are under considerable strain for about 18 years

 

[Jenerys]

Greg Behrendt

That man is a fuckin idiot!!...he demonises men in a shocking, shocking way...i hate him i do.

I havent read "He's just not that into you", but if he is saying what I think he is, ie, that some women should just get over the fact that he is not going to call cos actually he doesnt really fancy you, and if he did fancy you, then he would have called....well I cant hate someone who tells stupid women, that that is actually how it usually is*



*rather than perhaps he has lost my number, perhaps his mobile has been stolen, perhaps he's been much too busy, perhaps he's been hit by a truck

 

[wishface]

Yeah. But to be fair, it's just his fancy name for positive visualisation.

No, i really think he meant actual astral travel; there's a section in the book on it!

 

[aurora green]

No, i really think he meant actual astral travel; there's a section in the book on it!

Yeah, I re-read the section before responding to your earlier post.
It's about positive visualisation.

 

[wishface]

Yeah, I re-read the section before responding to your earlier post.
It's about positive visualisation.

funny that, him and one of the workers had a massive conversation about it during one his talks at Waterstones in Bristol, back in the day (before i realesed what a joke he is). She was convinced it was possible and that she had done it.

I'm still pretty sure it's actually astral travel.(p.140 of Handbook for the Urban Warrior)

 

[Fruitloop]

http://www.burngreave.net/~aland/personal/spectaculartimes/cornersoul.com/spectaculartimes.html

On a bit of a different tip.

I particularly like:

http://www.burngreave.net/~aland/personal/spectaculartimes/cornersoul.com/baddays.html

 

[dash_two]

'The Prince' by Machiavelli. A self-help classic.

 

[MightyAphrodite]

I havent read "He's just not that into you", but if he is saying what I think he is, ie, that some women should just get over the fact that he is not going to call cos actually he doesnt really fancy you, and if he did fancy you, then he would have called....well I cant hate someone who tells stupid women, that that is actually how it usually is*



*rather than perhaps he has lost my number, perhaps his mobile has been stolen, perhaps he's been much too busy, perhaps he's been hit by a truck

^

nah, he says in a few different ways that basically men are cunts and none of them will ever be good enough for you (he's also condescending, backing those wild claims up by calling you 'sister' saying you 'ought to be worshipped' 'how verily dare that shithead' etc etc throughout)...but if you end up with one and he slips up one time, no matter how small or insignifigant it is, if it made you feel bad in any way, shape or form, then that's it, to the curb with him! He reckons you can compartmentalise people good/bad, no middle ground, which of course you can't.

He's made and is probably still making a ton of money slagging off men to women, telling them how much better they are than men blah blah blah.

His advice is wreckless and he's a fuckin scumbag.

 

[Jenerys]

His advice is wreckless and he's a fuckin scumbag.

Not his target audience then eh?

 

[zenie]

I'm still pretty sure it's actually astral travel.(p.140 of Handbook for the Urban Warrior)

Oh I thik I had a go at that once.

It's for when you're going to sleep isn't it? Imagining yourself out of your body, going into your lovers/wanted ones house and into their head?

*Could be well wrong!!*

 

[Roadkill]

IME, about 99% of self-help books are cliched rubbish.

The only one I've read and paid any attention to is the original: Self-help, by Samuel Smiles, written in 1859. It's also rubbish, but historically it's interesting simply because it was very influential in its time.

 

[8ball]

I know what you mean. I found Windows 95 for Dummies to be very useful at one time but now it's just stale cliche and irrelevant details

 

[han]

I'm a big fan of self help books....I know it's highly uncool but there we go.

I agree with Aurora that the Barefoot Doctor's Urban Warrior book is quite good - though I'd also agree that over recent years he's come across as being a bit of a tw*t, which is a shame. His urban warrior book is quite old, as far as I remember....

My fave self help books are:

The Power of Now

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

And, although it's not a self help book, 'Siddartha' by Herman Hesse is probably the best book anyone can read if they want a bit of help in chilling out their mind....it has the most beautiful, profound and simple message that I've ever read in a book, far more inspirational than any religious tome!

 

[miss giggles]

The best self help you can get is: "If you've caned it at the weekend don't take anything too seriously on Tuesday or Wednesday the week after"

This is the best piece of advice I've ever heard!

 

[Hocus Eye.]

yep.

If you are interested in the metaphysical side of things, I've recently had some profound experiences after reading 'conversations with god' by Neale Donald Walsch

Yes Jazzz, I have heard that if you talk to God you are a pious person. If God talks to you, you are a paranoid schizophrenic.