Saying Goodbye When She Leaves
- Thread starter Yelkcub
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Nah, for people who need 'the Fun' back.
Recently sourced venue even has a secret room - in the skies!
FabricLiveBaby!
Live Baby Fabric!
I was invited to fun club so I hope not!
So where is she now?
Do you need rescuing?
Not unless you are in Norfest Norf London.
Kanda
Diving wanker
Callie
Pivoting
So where is she now?
Do you need rescuing?
'rescuing'
zenie! poor lad's only been single for a few minutes 
on a more serious note: it sounds like you need time well away from her yelkcub, stay strong
zenie
>^^<
no!
Geezus... give the guy a chance you old tart
I am happily attached, I meant from her manipulative ways
no!
I am happily attached, I meant from her manipulative ways
I will be rescued by friends shortly anyway. Meeting for the football, although they probably didn't expect me to be pissed.
Appeciate the thought though.
Rainingstairs
Well-Known Member
Don't make it harder than it already is. Cold Turkey is the way to go.
trashpony
Hag
Made the mistake of going home and her cab was late. Had to help load it up. Fuck, I'm in fucking pieces.
What the fuck can I do right? I was a complete arsehole for years and then when I learn the lesson and always do the right thing, everything goes fucking crazy.
You know what? You've treated that woman like she's a faberge egg as long as I can remember and she's walked all over you. You should read some of Velouria's old threads - he was in much the same situation as far as I can see.
You have given her as much as you can. You're a good bloke. Stop beating yourself up.
It can't get any harder. I know we all think that, but I'm here right now. And what I've got to show for month upon month of understanding is a broken heart.
Sound tough yelkcub and hopefully it's over now.
What do you mean by understanding, though? I'm not saying this is you, but one sign of a co-dependent relationship is one person acting vulnerable, or being vulnerable, or a combination of the two, and the other gaining validation by seeming to help, even if ultimately that's unhelpful for both people. And the broken heart comes from a very complex set of feelings when that relationship is ending. Cold turkey is the only way to go.
What do you mean by understanding, though? I'm not saying this is you, but one sign of a co-dependent relationship is one person acting vulnerable, or being vulnerable, or a combination of the two, and the other gaining validation by seeming to help, even if ultimately that's unhelpful for both people. And the broken heart comes from a very complex set of feelings when that relationship is ending. Cold turkey is the only way to go.
Treacle Toes
Time
Are you scared of not feeling this way anymore? The pain and turmoil I mean.
You say it can't get any harder so, it's at it's worst now and can only get better. What is there to fear?
Sometimes when it has been rough for a long time we forget how to or even fear feeling better.
You will feel better you know.
Accept it's over, despite what has happened, and look forward to a happier time.
yeah for sure. i dole money out all the time to my fuckin sister because i love/hate her, but want her to be able to do whatever she fuckin wants whenever she wants without having to do soul destroying things to do her stuffs. (not the same i know, but sort of is, love is love)
Just hang on, to yourself and our emotions, read your threads over the last couple of days, I know its hard to believe but the worst is over, tomorrow will be better, it all sounds like platitudes but there is a lot of life and a lot of living left to do.
Sometimes al you need to do is concentrate on breathing in and breathing out, the pain will lessen, and a whole new future stands ready to start.
Take care mate
Sometimes al you need to do is concentrate on breathing in and breathing out, the pain will lessen, and a whole new future stands ready to start.
Take care mate
FabricLiveBaby!
Live Baby Fabric!
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As cliched as it is hang in there, it will get better.
Goodbyes and the direct aftermath are the most painful. The rest will be a dull long numbness. But it WILL get better, and you ddi everything you could so please don't beat yourself up.
As cliched as it is hang in there, it will get better.
Goodbyes and the direct aftermath are the most painful. The rest will be a dull long numbness. But it WILL get better, and you ddi everything you could so please don't beat yourself up.
Are you scared of not feeling this way anymore? The pain and turmoil I mean.
You say it can't get any harder so, it's at it's worst now and can only get better. What is there to fear?
Sometimes when it has been rough for a long time we forget how to or even fear feeling better.
You will feel better you know.
Accept it's over, despite what has happened, and look forward to a happier time.
Yeah, I undersand that. She's texted to say she's safe with her brother, I know it's for the best, so all's as good as it's going to be right now.
Lots people have been very good to me on this site today and it really has helped. Thank you.
Ceej
Where is my mind?
Not true. You have the satisfaction of knowing you've done the right thing, you've been a real gent about everything, and you enabled your girl to move on with a lot more security, perhaps, than she deserves. And the pain you feel will lessen in time.
Move on with shiny karma and a clear conscience. x
Made the mistake of going home and her cab was late. Had to help load it up. Fuck, I'm in fucking pieces.
What the fuck can I do right? I was a complete arsehole for years and then when I learn the lesson and always do the right thing, everything goes fucking crazy.
Sheesh, was I feeling sorry for myself yesterday.
Thanks again to everyone. Onwards and upwards from here on.
(Expect more agonising when form dips again later
. You know the drill)It's bad when a relationship that has lasted years ends because your initial reaction is to look back on those years as being a complete waste of life but, look a bit closer and you'll see that they were no such thing. Whether your ex was good or bad, you'll have learnt a few life lessons in the process and chances are you're a better and more rounded person now than before. You know patterns of behaviour to watch out for and you almost certainly know yourself a lot better than you did when you got into the relationship in the first place. Plus, you got laid regularly for a few years.
The best thing I find works for me is to always keep a sense of my own ridiculousness very close to the front of my mind. If I ever find myself wallowing in self-pity for too long, I say to myself "UUUUUUUURRRGHHHH!!!! Sort your act out, you're behaving like a total dickweed" or just try and find something funny in my situation. Anything, really.
Also - and this is key - I listen to a LOT of 80s hair rock and soft rock ballads. I cannot even begin to describe how awesome that kind of music is when you feel down. Even at my most miserable, if I stick on "Any Way You Want It" by Journey or something like that then within about 4 seconds of the start of the song I am smiling again and suddenly the world doesn't look half so gloomy.
Orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr there's always cranking.
The best thing I find works for me is to always keep a sense of my own ridiculousness very close to the front of my mind. If I ever find myself wallowing in self-pity for too long, I say to myself "UUUUUUUURRRGHHHH!!!! Sort your act out, you're behaving like a total dickweed" or just try and find something funny in my situation. Anything, really.
Also - and this is key - I listen to a LOT of 80s hair rock and soft rock ballads. I cannot even begin to describe how awesome that kind of music is when you feel down. Even at my most miserable, if I stick on "Any Way You Want It" by Journey or something like that then within about 4 seconds of the start of the song I am smiling again and suddenly the world doesn't look half so gloomy.
Orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr there's always cranking.
Listening to There Will Be Tears by Mr Hudson and The Library this second, but may try out some poodle-perm rock next though!
Listening to There Will Be Tears by Mr Hudson and The Library this second, but may try out some poodle-perm rock next though!
Dance round your place! Stick some porn on the tv, turn up the volume and play all the songs she used to hate! Bad times are over, matey: EVERYTHING'S COMIN' UP YELKCUB!
