My definition of respect is considering others and giving their view importance even if you don't agree with it. You know, standard dictionary definition
Your comments seems to incorporate exactly that as well:
a) altruism (which can be extended to people one doesn't esteem),
IE people you just tolerate? Respect does not distinguish between people in this way. Everyone deserves respect, not just certain people.
b) fellow-feeling (something which pertains those whose position one interpellates with rather than those one esteems and tolerates),
Same, do you mean that you don't have fellow-feeling with those who you don't question (interpellate)?
c) solidarity in word and deed (which can and does exist entirely separately from issues of "respect", and is often a function of ideology/belief rather than belief/tolerance? [)]
Your whole definition in brackets?!?
Why does solidarity have anything to do with it? I would suggest that it would mean that you treat people who you agree with differently from those who you don't, thus contradicting the all-encompassing nature of respect.
Why is there a division between those who you esteem and tolerate, and the rest? Or do those you esteem and tolerate encompass everyone?
I get the feeling though that you just WANT to disagree with me, and so you are jumping into semantics, when your ego is reluctant to accept that we actually agree for once!! C'mon, it doesn't mean that you and I will always agree, just that we don't always disagree!
Instead or 'responsibility', I would use the word 'duty'.