Geri
wasn't born to follow
I don't really know.
Registry office weddings-yay or nay?
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I don't really know.
Funky_monks
Neo-Rustic
I had a registry office wedding - what with us being atheists and that.
We had ours at Glastonbury town hall - which is lovely, as my wifes' family are from near Weston-Super-Mare (who's town hall is not lovely).
It was very pleasant and Glastonbury is a nice little town, coming out into the sunshine, married on a warm June morning was most pleasant.
We had ours at Glastonbury town hall - which is lovely, as my wifes' family are from near Weston-Super-Mare (who's town hall is not lovely).
It was very pleasant and Glastonbury is a nice little town, coming out into the sunshine, married on a warm June morning was most pleasant.
geminisnake
a complex mass of conflicting ideas
This^^ is the most important advise!.
It IS YOUR day, do what YOU want, stuff your mam, specially if she isn't contributing.
We got married in the registry office but that was 20 yrs ago so things might have changed since then
We didn't hire cars(pals had cars anyway), MIL did the cake, we had a meal for about 20 folk, parents/siblings counted for 7 of them, 3 grannies, me, hubby girl and witnesses another 5, and a couple of friends.
We hired a disco for the evening and got the hotel to do a small buffet. Sorted.
Phone the registrars and ask what the options are for viewing with you working f/t.
No. As long as both of you are legally able to marry, you can use any registry office.
FWIW you still need to go to your local registry office (and so does your beloved) to give notice that you'll be getting married (even if you're getting married in a registry office elsewhere) - and you need to do this after you've booked the place you'll actually be getting married, not before. That's 2 appointments you need to make - AFAIK can't usually just turn up and get it done.
While I think of it, the actual wedding doesn't have to be a 5 minute job - you get a 20-30 minute slot and you can have readings, music etc. just as long as there are no religious references in any of it at all (and you won't get away with paraphrasing Corinthians "love is..." - it's too well known as being a bit out of the Bible). Your vows can be quite fancy, just as long as they're not too close to what is said during a church wedding. Music, vows, and readings usually have to be cleared with the registrar before the day.
As for annoying relatives - stuff them - it's your day, not theirs.
Some registry offices have a brochure with pictures of the rooms they use - might be worth asking about.
gaijingirl
Well-Known Member
We also got married in Marylebone Town Hall - and it was lovely! Beautiful wooden pannelling everywhere, marble floors, gorgeous chairs etc etc. It also has a site where you can view the rooms before-hand. Maybe others do too? Then you could get an idea of where's nice.
Looby
Well-Known Member
Friends of ours got married at bournemouth town hall and the service was in one of the council chambers which was beautiful.
In Poole the registry office used to be next to the court and the housing office and opposite the job centre. It was awful with plastic chairs and polystyrene tiles on the ceiling but they've moved it to a gorgeous building now.
We had a civil ceremony in the garden of a hotel but if we couldn't do that we'd have been happy with a registry office.
In Poole the registry office used to be next to the court and the housing office and opposite the job centre. It was awful with plastic chairs and polystyrene tiles on the ceiling but they've moved it to a gorgeous building now.
We had a civil ceremony in the garden of a hotel but if we couldn't do that we'd have been happy with a registry office.
5t3IIa
Registered User
I think, possibly, that since the civil service laws changed a while ago that Register Office weddings are more popular and are taken more seriously by whatever org does them. Like sparklefish says: if they used to be in flyblown yellowing nasty-carpet chambers they are likely to have been shifted to any nicer area that is available as they are used more.
I voted Yay!! AND Nein!!
yay for it being cheap and quick and no hassles (well not too many anyway i dont think...)
and
nein was the 'little girl' in me voting
for the whole wedding, pomp and circumstance and the whole 9 yards...
ive never been married before and if i ever do get married i think i would want the WHOLE package, the dress, the cake, the reception, the cathedral, the bridesmaids, a massive wedding with me looking like a princess 
but in reality, id probably do the registry and get fuckfaced at the pub with the guests (and my new husband) after...
not that i'll ever get married or anything
x 1000000000000000000000000000000000 (lol)
but if i did thats how itd go down i reckon...
oh well, i do have a daughter i can live vicariously through if she ever decides to get hitched, i can force her to go the whole hog
yay for it being cheap and quick and no hassles (well not too many anyway i dont think...)
and
nein was the 'little girl' in me voting
for the whole wedding, pomp and circumstance and the whole 9 yards...ive never been married before and if i ever do get married i think i would want the WHOLE package, the dress, the cake, the reception, the cathedral, the bridesmaids, a massive wedding with me looking like a princess
but in reality, id probably do the registry and get fuckfaced at the pub with the guests (and my new husband) after...
not that i'll ever get married or anything
x 1000000000000000000000000000000000 (lol)but if i did thats how itd go down i reckon...
oh well, i do have a daughter i can live vicariously through if she ever decides to get hitched, i can force her to go the whole hog
rubbershoes
not the only raver in the village
getting married at a place licensed for weddings can avoid the conveyor belt nature of registry offices . i dont know if there is a single list but there are more than 4000 around the country.
many of them are quite grand and would probably cost a few grand but they don't have to be. we got married in the old library at Dulwich college which was beautiful and cost less than £250
many of them are quite grand and would probably cost a few grand but they don't have to be. we got married in the old library at Dulwich college which was beautiful and cost less than £250
cesare
shady's dreams ♥
Quakers pretty much laid back over most things, they probably will be fine with alcohol.
Getting married, yay to both of you
I got married in a register office and it was fine, quite quick, room nice. Long time ago, mind. Back then, it was church or registry office ... tis good that now you can get married in different places. I wonder if you could get married on Morecambe beach
Numbers
an ting!
We got married in Chelsea Town Hall and it was brilliant, only cost us about 60 squid or something. We came out onto the Kings Rd at 3pm on a Saturday and almost stopped traffic because of the hollerin and whistling of our family/friends etc.. passers by applauded and cheered too.
We lived in Tooting at the time so weren't in the borough, we had to go and have a meeting with them is all.
Have a great day
We lived in Tooting at the time so weren't in the borough, we had to go and have a meeting with them is all.
Have a great day
the first registry office wedding that I went to was very much like that - but I don't think the bride and groom minded too much, as that was just the legal bit for them, afterwards they had a humanist ceremony in a forest
I've been to quite a few registry office weddings since then (mine included) and they've been lovely - beautiful surroundings and no plastic chairs in sight
ViolentPanda
Hardly getting over it.
Wandsworth town hall R.O. is very nice if you like fumed oak wainscotting and other features of impressive civic architecture. They've also got a very nice sweeping double staircase and and a courtyard for photos.
_angel_
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Quakers pretty much laid back over most things, they probably will be fine with alcohol.
Getting married, yay to both of you
I got married in a register office and it was fine, quite quick, room nice. Long time ago, mind. Back then, it was church or registry office ... tis good that now you can get married in different places. I wonder if you could get married on Morecambe beach
Hmm the local friends meeting house to my mum's explicitly banned alcohol. They're quakers?
cesare
shady's dreams ♥
Hmmm, you're quite right. A swift google reveals that they're banned in meeting houses (although not banned generally)
Gromit
International Man of Misery
At the risk of sounding smaltzy...
The when, where and how don't matter. Only the who.
moose
like some cat from Japan
Ours was ok - the seats weren't plastic, and although it was all a bit beige and terracotta, they let us play our own choice of music and the registrar was nice. We only had a very few people at ours, and roped in a random passerby to take photos of us on the steps afterwards, before heading off for crumpets and champagne. It was ace.
cyberfairy
http://unicycle-emptiness.co.uk/
It's right on a dead busy road but not that bothered really-thanks for replies -decided to do it now
*sits around for another three years*
ShiftyBagLady
Thinks she is a flower to be looked at
Have just bought a stick blender so i'm going to make some soup.
Leek and chickpea soup with some sage. got some lovely fresh seedy bread.
mmmmm
Leek and chickpea soup with some sage. got some lovely fresh seedy bread.
mmmmm
spanglechick
High Empress of Dressing Up
ShiftyBagLady
Thinks she is a flower to be looked at
oops
still, it's gonna be good soup
