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Saoirse don Phalaistín!
Nobody deserves to be bullied. Nor do you need to shut up.
Redundancy problems
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Nobody deserves to be bullied. Nor do you need to shut up.
Irish353.109
New Member
I need to be very honest with myself and realise and accept that even before my redundancy (because I am living alone and should not be) that there is no one there to nag and bully me into what I need to be doing on a common sense basis, as I need to be bullied “for my own good“ because I “brought it all on myself” - what really matters is what those around me believe, as what I think is only rubbish
I need to cut the nonsense, grow up, stop wasting everyone else’s time, cop onto myself, accept reality, take personal responsibility and stop making lame excuses for failing to do my jobsearch properly as I should be and as directed by everyone else
equationgirl
Respect my existence or expect my resistance
You might need to learn to take responsibility for yourself and your actions, but you absolutely do not need to be bullied. It's ok if you want to live on your own. You also shouldn't expect someone else to make you do something.
Irish353.109
New Member
I’m so used to this growing up in Rural Ireland the “clip across the ear“ including by the local police and the locals to make me “cop on to myself” and in some ways it is amplified over here in Manchester where you would screamed at to shut up (bullying in former workplaces) and maybe this is what I would need as I was made to do stuff
I know it’s lame excuses on my part, but a few years ago, I was bullied out of a transfer to another store and before that, out of a career change, because on a “common sense” basis it was deemed “inappropriate” in my particular case, where moves were made behind the scenes to prevent it from happening
- I was from that point on relentlessly bullied, ridiculed and everything I said was rubbished, where disagreement was used “in such a way” as a form of bullying (and perhaps rightly so) where on top of all the bullying back home, as I was also bullied by other gay men (I’m gay myself - but not accepted as gay by other gay men because I was raised an only child) and I was labelled a whinger and a moaner and immature - while it might have affected my confidence, it probably was the reason why I was made redundant
Irish353.109
New Member
Part of me just gave up a long time ago
- I used to be idealistic (idiotic) but despite trying to fight un-winnable battles against the reality and infinite wisdom of others
- I pretend that I have brains and intelligent but I am an idiot
- I’m very self critical and if I’m honest, I hate myself - I should have been slapped far more often and far harder when I was growing up, as this is why I’m in the mess that I find myself in
weltweit
Well-Known Member
Well Irish353.109 you do seem a bit hard on yourself.
There are ways to be kinder, for example companies don't make individuals redundant, they make job positions redundant. It isn't you.
There are ways to be kinder, for example companies don't make individuals redundant, they make job positions redundant. It isn't you.
weltweit
Well-Known Member
Actually scratch that, I have been made redundant three times.
krtek a houby
Saoirse don Phalaistín!
You seem to hate yourself, and sadly, this will be picked up on by others. I know it's easier said than done, but try and project positive attitudes and outlooks. It will certainly help in the job interviews.
You do not deserve to be bullied, slapped, looked down upon or seen as immature or stupid.
Don't listen to those who talk down to you, don't believe their shit. They're not "better" than you.
