Partner's Respect For Your Privacy

[Agent Sparrow]

Why did you tell her not to look when you know there's nothing personal in there?

TBH if my BF said 'here's this stick but don't go through my inbox' I'd tell him to fuck right off and I hope he'd do the same for me.

No need for secrets and certainly no need to 'make out' there's something there when there isn't.

I don't go through his phone or email or stuff like that, but if he told me not to I definitely would.

I never kept a diary, but I would have been pissed off if my mum went through my stuff to find it. If, however, I handed her the diary and said "this is my diary, but don't read it you might get upset" I wouldn't be suprised if she read it.

Tbh I'm with Zenie and Thora on this one - almost. I wouldn't check a partner's emails if I was specifically told not to - but I would probably get quite paranoid or worried if I had been instructed not to. Ironically, if I hadn't been told to do so I wouldn't have given them a second thought!

In normal circumstances I'd say that it's a bit of a needless and potentially upsetting thing to say - however, it sounds as though the thread starter's gf has had a history of this, so perhaps that's why the thread starter felt he needed to be specific. In which case, time for a serious talk where he says how disappointed he feels and she can perhaps express what makes her paranoid enough to want to read them.

Crispy could access all of my emails - has my passwords as he's had to access them before. Likewise I could easily access all his stuff. We don't tell each other not to, and nobody gets worried or curious. Although I have to say, when Crispy first became a mod it was slightly tempting to use his account to read the mod's forum! (obviously I was a good girl and didn't

Incidentally, whilst I'm not advocating reading emails, I do see diary reading as far worse. I think I'd find it much easier to forgive the former to the latter.

 

[Agent Sparrow]

nice to see loads of excuses and shockingly stereotypical justifying repsonses from the female posters

Actually I'd most probably say the same if the gender positions had been reversed.

 

[Spion]

How much do you expect?

My gf asked to borrow my USB stick yesterday to transfer some stuff between computers. I explained that I'd downloaded my inbox from my old work, before we met 10 months ago, so there might be some old personal stuff on there. They were in a folder called 'INBOX' that she could easily avoid and she promised not to look in there.

Did you see Derren Brown last week, where he got that lass to 'electrocute' the kitten in the box using the apparently extremely effective technique of telling her not to do precisely the thing he wanted her to do?

 

[Thora]

Did you see Derren Brown last week, where he got that lass to 'electrocute' the kitten in the box using the apparently extremely effective technique of telling her not to do precisely the thing he wanted her to do?

I watched that and was itching to press the button too

 

[Spion]

I watched that and was itching to press the button too

LOL You weren't even in the room or being suggestible-ised by Brown!

 

[zora]

Boo! I missed the programme about kitteh electrocution.

 

[Yelkcub]

Discussion had and all back on an even keel.

Thanks folks.

 

[foo]

good stuff Yelkcub

p.s what's a Yelk?

 

[pengaleng]

when Crispy first became a mod it was slightly tempting to use his account to read the mod's forum! (obviously I was a good girl and didn't

poke your nose into everything else though don't you...

 

[Yelkcub]

good stuff Yelkcub

p.s what's a Yelk?

A grown-up Yelkcub!

 

[foo]

A grown-up Yelkcub!