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So we're in Ibiza, visiting Mrs Y's sister and her nephew is true to form, being an absolute little shit. To be fair to him, his Dad was useless before the break-up, is now not around and he has to deal with an achingly cute little sister that everyone adores and lavishes ALL their attention on.
That said, I don't really care why he's like he is anymore, as I believe he's a danger to my 4.5 month old son. He is regularly violent, to his mum, to his sister and to my Mrs Y. The final straw was when he creeped up on my sleeping baby, poked him hard in the stomach and pissed himself laughing when he woke up screaming and crying. When challenged by me, he continued to laugh.
I've had to say I don't want him around my son, which is obviously a huge issue in 'our' family, with his mum who is outraged and says 'he would never hurt Tommy'. In the past week, both the missus and I, on separate occasions, have witnessed him punch his little sister (she's 3, he's 5) unprovoked, as hard as he can in the stomach. When told off for this Mrs Y, he attacked her. Obviously, he can't do any damage but it's not of the want of trying.
I'm really trying hard not to get into criticising Mrs Y's sister, as they are very close, but the kid has no boundaries whatsoever and his mum has suggested that I'm over-reacting and don't understand how hard it all is, as we've only been parents for a little while.
My internal position is that I'm determined to live life in a way that makes my son happy and well adjusted, and I'm not having him damaged because someone else thinks that is unattainable and has, one way or another, but definitely not through my doing, allowed her son to become angry to the point of being seriously disturbed.
How the fuck to manage the situation? We'd talked about Mrs Y regularly visiting her sister, with our son. But with all three kids, if I'm not there, there's no way Mrs Y can keep the nephew watched at all times.
The worse thing is Mrs Y is devastated by it all, though she is an agreement the kid is a danger.
That said, I don't really care why he's like he is anymore, as I believe he's a danger to my 4.5 month old son. He is regularly violent, to his mum, to his sister and to my Mrs Y. The final straw was when he creeped up on my sleeping baby, poked him hard in the stomach and pissed himself laughing when he woke up screaming and crying. When challenged by me, he continued to laugh.
I've had to say I don't want him around my son, which is obviously a huge issue in 'our' family, with his mum who is outraged and says 'he would never hurt Tommy'. In the past week, both the missus and I, on separate occasions, have witnessed him punch his little sister (she's 3, he's 5) unprovoked, as hard as he can in the stomach. When told off for this Mrs Y, he attacked her. Obviously, he can't do any damage but it's not of the want of trying.
I'm really trying hard not to get into criticising Mrs Y's sister, as they are very close, but the kid has no boundaries whatsoever and his mum has suggested that I'm over-reacting and don't understand how hard it all is, as we've only been parents for a little while.
My internal position is that I'm determined to live life in a way that makes my son happy and well adjusted, and I'm not having him damaged because someone else thinks that is unattainable and has, one way or another, but definitely not through my doing, allowed her son to become angry to the point of being seriously disturbed.
How the fuck to manage the situation? We'd talked about Mrs Y regularly visiting her sister, with our son. But with all three kids, if I'm not there, there's no way Mrs Y can keep the nephew watched at all times.
The worse thing is Mrs Y is devastated by it all, though she is an agreement the kid is a danger.