My son's behaviour at school..sorry bit of a long post

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I find a target like that that surprising!

Been here personally & professionally so I'd also tend to be suspicious about him becoming a whipping-boy for other issues that may not even affect him directly.

I'd suggest that maybe this school or even this kind of educational environment may not suit him & you should be exploring alternatives or at very least consider investigations for a behavioural problem/disorder.

Echo all of this. I used to work with "problematic" children and they could be swines in the general classroom and utterly fine with me. If a child is expected to be trouble, chances are, when he (or she) gets frustrated, they will be, but their frustration will be perceived as "the trouble-maker kicking off again"

Unless he has a very good form/year tutor, who will fight his corner and he can trust not to be down on him before he even starts, an alternative environment is realistically the quickest solution.

 

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Unless he has a very good form/year tutor, who will fight his corner and he can trust not to be down on him before he even starts, an alternative environment is realistically the quickest solution.

His form teacher is hard work for me and his Mum never mind him but the Deputy Head of Year who I'm meeting with seems more approachable.

Anyway, meeting this aft, I'll let you know how it goes.

 

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Well I think we got it right for now.

The report he was on has been ditched in favour of a daily thing. He's still on report but to the year head now and will get detention at the end of each day if he gets a C grade for behaviour which I think is far more achievable.

Initially I thought this was harsh but my son was pleased with it. One of the things about the weekly report was that if he got a B or C at the start of the week he had nothing to lose. I don't think he has behavioural issues, he just has it in for a couple of teachers. He's had 12 detentions so far in year 8 and 9 have been in science, 2 in English and one for locking some kids bike up Course he says the 2 teachers he gives a hard time don't like him so it's like he gives up before he's even started. The teacher felt that was his personality all over.

With the Science teacher I suspect there's something really shallow he doesn't like about the teacher and suggested it was something like the clothes he wears or how he talks, maybe he's sweaty or something. The teacher we met with seemed to know immediately what I was going on about but my son wouldn't say what it was in the meeting. we're going out tomorrow so I'll ask him then.

I asked about the fighting talk they'd offered up previously and the teacher we saw was honest about it without being threatening. Expulsion is obviously a way off yet although things can escalate pretty quick if they're allowed to.

Fingers crossed he can make it through the week. We said he can get his TV back for the school holidays if he does and his face lit up.

Thanks again for all the advice

 

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http://www.tes.co.uk/2335754

think this link is to an article on why schools are excluding more children, have a read might be interesting for your situation.

 

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First day, 1 A*, 3 A's and one B.

Big test today though, science last period.

(fingers crossed)

 

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how is the school situation going?, I'm interested because my sister has a son of 11 years and he is having similar problems.

 

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It's working Don't think he had more than one B a day, he has his TV back and some pocket money. Hopefully he'll keep it up after the holidays.

 

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Cracking news good for your son

 

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I've posted a few times on this and people have been really helpful so I thought I'd update rather than make a new thread.

My lad has finally been moved to a different tutor group today after us trying to work with the school for over 2 years. When he returned back in September he was called in with a few other kids and they were told they were on a new start and all their previous misdemeanours and detentions had been wiped.

The following week the form tutor was on his case over money for school funds. Every day she mithered him for it, even after I had left a message for her saying I was waiting to be paid and they would get the £10 the following week. She had the cheek to tell him we would have to write a cheque. The payment isn't even compulsory. The following week she made a point of making the class aware that she wasn't happy that he had been added to the list of kids going on a school trip and later in the day he was pulled up by the teacher who was taking them to say his place was now dependant on his behaviour.

I think it's fairly obvious she just had it in for him. Good job the year head was sympathetic and knew before I said it that I wanted him to move forms.

He has tried really hard this year and knows how important his schoolwork is to us. I'm pretty angry (partly with myself) for this having gone on so long. Just hope things go smoother from now on.

Thanks to anyone who offered advice

 

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You say his work is good when he does it,with no negative comments. Maybe he's not being challenged enough by his school work. Many kids who are clever,get bored of the work if it's easy and act out in some way. Or it could be the other way round,frustration in not being able to do the work.