making friends at uni
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i thought that til I had actually managed to make so many different mates. I'm from areally poor poor background and kind of assumed all these people who were better off financially were also more secure. I soon realised that we actually had more in common than we thoughts...
Kanda
Diving wanker
Disagree. If there were 2 windows on my life, open to observation for all. The 1st window, I'd prolly be in jail. The second window I done alright. The choice was mine though, I either went along with the 1st or got my shit together and went the 2nd path.
All of it was my choice. My circumstances from younger years would have led to a shitter life than I have now, and that was by choice and a certain amount of luck.
agree.
You can learn that anywhere tho, just go to a pub and talk to students. You don't have to go to university to talk to posh people
but if I hadn't have done the education thing I would have stuck in the same circles etc... it's only through going to uni that i could move to cornwall. This is a massive experience for me and I love that I was brave enough to do it
Yes Sir Alan
Kanda
Diving wanker
Yeah, go for the cliches, well done.
It was not going to Uni and getting a job that afforded me to NOT live in Cornwall!! Thank fuck!
haha well it's shit in some ways yeh, but also amazing in others. it's so tiny and cosy, i love that i've got to experience that. also the beach... i know it's a cliche but i am actually obsessed with it. ask firky... i am obsessed with all thigns sea
Kanda
Diving wanker
haha well it's shit in some ways yeh, but also amazing in others. it's so tiny and cosy, i love that i've got to experience that. also the beach... i know it's a cliche but i am actually obsessed with it. ask firky... i am obsessed with all thigns sea
So am I. Navy child. I love that part of the country. Still can't swim though
N_igma
Epistemic nuisance
Depends what sort of person you are really.
I'm outgoing, like to talk, socialise and drink so met loads of people who I'm still in contact with today.
Though when I was there I did notice certain shy and introverted people who stayed in their rooms all the time and the only friends they had were people they knew before they came here anyway, felt sorry for them in a way but you can't help who you are.
I'm outgoing, like to talk, socialise and drink so met loads of people who I'm still in contact with today.
Though when I was there I did notice certain shy and introverted people who stayed in their rooms all the time and the only friends they had were people they knew before they came here anyway, felt sorry for them in a way but you can't help who you are.
Uni is full of posh people, and keithy said that what he/she learned is that middle class people are no less fucked up than working class people, you don't need to go to university to learn that
I agree that it's a good move to get out of where you live, but if all you want to do is travel around and meet people, be a chef, you can work anywhere in the world and meet all sorts of people
I agree that it's a good move to get out of where you live, but if all you want to do is travel around and meet people, be a chef, you can work anywhere in the world and meet all sorts of people
N_igma
Epistemic nuisance
What age are you? Like 55?
Uni these days is definately not full of posh people, very few actually to the uni I went to which is one of the best in the UK. Sure there are plenty of middle class children but they're not really that annoying.
that's very kind of you
You are so much better than me
N_igma
Epistemic nuisance
Methinks you've been smoking too much crack.
Kanda
Diving wanker
me?
Isitme. Not you.
ok, sorry
extra dry
Happy to be here
Just do your own thing and relax.
It is good to have friends meeting up for a coffee or beer but studying and getting a good grade is far harder with lots of friends asking you to do this and that in the third or fourth year.
Lots of people fell out with each other during the final year as they had different agendas. Believe in yourself and don't bogged down with other peoples stresses and problems when you will enough to deal with...just my view like
It is good to have friends meeting up for a coffee or beer but studying and getting a good grade is far harder with lots of friends asking you to do this and that in the third or fourth year.
Lots of people fell out with each other during the final year as they had different agendas. Believe in yourself and don't bogged down with other peoples stresses and problems when you will enough to deal with...just my view like
Just do your own thing and relax.
It is good to have friends meeting up for a coffee or beer but studying and getting a good grade is far harder with lots of friends asking you to do this and that in the third or fourth year.
Lots of people fell out with each other during the final year as they had different agendas. Believe in yourself and don't bogged down with other peoples stresses and problems when you will enough to deal with...just my view like
yep, this happens, in the third year you generally realise there isn't the time for the fannying about. I was dead popular in 2nd year (god knows how) but had some kind of real life friends cull in third year... still unsure whether I regret that or not but I doubt I would have got the grade I got without doing that
One thing I found was that in the first year, a lot of people try to reinvent themselves as they are moving away from home and possibly wanted to try out a new personality. The second year everyone relaxed a lot more and was themselves. I found this year the most fun as people weren't trying too hard (and ended up just coming across fake). In the third year everyone started thinking about jobs and things and everyone felt on their own again. I think this is the year that really cements relationships as you find out who will stick by you when you need them and who just chases the PWC headhunter 24/7 sucking cuck.
4 years after I only have 1 solid friend from uni that hasn't drifted off.
4 years after I only have 1 solid friend from uni that hasn't drifted off.
Vintage Paw
dead stare and computer glare
In my first few weeks or so everyone was trying really really hard to make new friends. Even on the bus into town you'd end up finding everything out about someone's life story 
I'm not the sort who makes friends easily, and it was more difficult for me being older, and living off campus with Mr Paw (my fear was that they'd sense 'married and boring' and steer clear!) but I made loads more friends than I did the first time around.
Just open yourself up to any opportunities for socialising that come along – be it a coffee before a lecture, a night out at the union, random society events etc. It's all good
I'm not the sort who makes friends easily, and it was more difficult for me being older, and living off campus with Mr Paw (my fear was that they'd sense 'married and boring' and steer clear!) but I made loads more friends than I did the first time around.
Just open yourself up to any opportunities for socialising that come along – be it a coffee before a lecture, a night out at the union, random society events etc. It's all good
Dillinger4
Es gibt Zeit
In my first few weeks or so everyone was trying really really hard to make new friends. Even on the bus into town you'd end up finding everything out about someone's life story
I'm not the sort who makes friends easily, and it was more difficult for me being older, and living off campus with Mr Paw (my fear was that they'd sense 'married and boring' and steer clear!) but I made loads more friends than I did the first time around.
Just open yourself up to any opportunities for socialising that come along – be it a coffee before a lecture, a night out at the union, random society events etc. It's all good
Thats what it was like for me, I was trying to steer clear, but you just kept ringing me up and knocking on my windows at all hours and emerging out of walls and bushes when I was least expecting it.
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