joined facebook and shat myself
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Boudicca
Seaside Queen
Please don't give up campanula! I post very little on Facebook myself, but I have 'liked' a lot of local pages and get lots of information on what's going on in my area. It also helps me keep up with what my niece and nephew are up to, and I have turned off the feed of any friends who post too much drivel. I also have a friend who I don't know very well in real life, but who posts some fantastic design and architecture stuff which I really enjoy. And there are groups, which are like forums but with more pictures.
I have a friend who isn't on Facebook (and rarely on a computer), she relies on me to plan her social life and I find it quite scary how 'blind' she is without social media.
So turn up the privacy settings, make yourself visible only to friends and then see where it takes you.
I have a friend who isn't on Facebook (and rarely on a computer), she relies on me to plan her social life and I find it quite scary how 'blind' she is without social media.
So turn up the privacy settings, make yourself visible only to friends and then see where it takes you.
Talking of timescales, at some point (2008?) there was a stampede from MySpace over to Facebook. I had to use the latter as everyone ceased using the former.
Well yes, I managed to join a group (swap rhizomes, cuttings, seeds) so can definitely see some advantages...it was mainly fright at how very...exposed I felt.
Regarding photos, this is what happened. My daughter made a nice anonymous pic for my profile but on trying to get me to load it, told me to click 'upload photos'...without specifying which photos or where they were to come from...and fuck me, up appears (in my feed?) pictures of my allotment which are stored on my HD - that was the point of max freakout. I don't think it could access stuff without permission, but having given permission for an unspecified upload, I think it definitely opens the door to more of your stuff held on different files - I certainly didn't imagine seeing a line of pics but will concede I unwittingly invited (the devil) in.
Feed, wall and all the things like chat are mysterious...but otoh, I keep telling myself not to be such a fucking dimwit.
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OMG yes. My sister signed me up to Friends Reunited (for some reason although I think it was mainly cos she was using my PC to do her stuff) and exactly the same thing - people I absolutely fucking HATED at school were now wanting to reconnect and getting all fond and misty about our shared past.
Sea Star
have you ever explored your dark side?
I've thought of doing that on here
Saul Goodman
It's all good, man
But you can't now 'cos you've told us
Sea Star
have you ever explored your dark side?
I abandoned the Idea some time ago, but it's nice to know I'm not the only person deranged enough to think of itBut you can't now 'cos you've told us
blossie33
trailer trash
Agree with what others have said - delete the account and set up another using a different name/ nickname.
I did that as I only use FB with a particular group of people and for getting information from things I like - galleries, cinema, music pages etc.
I have no wish to contact people from the past! Not because I don't like them, I'm not that social and I can't be bothered with all that stuff
I did that as I only use FB with a particular group of people and for getting information from things I like - galleries, cinema, music pages etc.
I have no wish to contact people from the past! Not because I don't like them, I'm not that social and I can't be bothered with all that stuff
It sounds like you pressed 'upload' and it opened up a file to let you choose the picture you wanted to upload, maybe? That isn't the same as Facebook just having access to your pictures - you allowed it to go looking by telling it you wanted to upload something, but it won't just go uploading things without your permission. Clicking to upload a file in your email or here on urban does the same!
Sounds like you need to sit down with someone and get them to explain how it all works and how to lock down your privacy settings. I just found this tutorial by googling (there's loads of others if this doesn't work for you) - it explains the difference between timeline & feed and a bit about privacy etc, as well as linking to a separate explanation of Facebook privacy settings.
gentlegreen
I hummus, therefore I am ...
If you want to see what you're revealing to the public, or individuals, click on the 3 dots and select "view as" ...
A380
How do I change this 'custom title' thing then?
I use it to keep in touch with past work colleagues. The rule I use is, would you sit down and have a cup of coffee with the person if you met them at a train station?
As as been pointed out loads the suggestions are just names it hoovers up from your contacts lists.
I only get a few friend requests now, many of which are gorgeous Eastern European women who seem to sit around in beach or under wear all day and are so arroused by pictures of my porky 50 year old body they just can't wait to be my friend...
As as been pointed out loads the suggestions are just names it hoovers up from your contacts lists.
I only get a few friend requests now, many of which are gorgeous Eastern European women who seem to sit around in beach or under wear all day and are so arroused by pictures of my porky 50 year old body they just can't wait to be my friend...
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OzT
Online early mornings when at work ....
As iona said, it is possible when you click on upload it opens an explorer popup of what you last 'saved as' directory was (from you registry entry) and it probably highlighted the first file by default and you uploaded without really knowing you did. Hope that makes sense!
not-bono-ever
meh
FB is shocking,l there I was about to troll a few of the Britin is Great / St George forever sites and I find that 3x of my old schoolfriends like the site. Not ironically either. Now I know why they do not respond to any *jokey* comments I make about regicide
Fascism aside, it's always possible that your jokes are shit
I speak as someone with no known fascist fb friends, but a dismal response to my spectacular jokes.
Recent examples of which can be found on the "fastest estate" thread, among others.
not-bono-ever
meh
They are terrible I - I make no bones about that. I think after 20 years , people have changed more than I could have imagined. Not fascists but patriotic.
kabbes
First intersubjective, then internalised
If you use Facebook, don't complain when in future years you can't access services except through Facebook, requiring full personal disclosure. Things are rapidly heading that way and it's because you're all willing to be complicit with it. It turns from being a bonus extra to necessary infrastructure.
Even the BBC now do things only accessible through Facebook. How can that be right? Use this data-harvesting US company (who insist on accurate personal disclosure as part of their terms of use) or you're not able to access the UK state broadcaster. And yet not a peep of complaint.
Fuck Facebook and I have no sympathy for anybody that uses it and complains about the consequences.
Even the BBC now do things only accessible through Facebook. How can that be right? Use this data-harvesting US company (who insist on accurate personal disclosure as part of their terms of use) or you're not able to access the UK state broadcaster. And yet not a peep of complaint.
Fuck Facebook and I have no sympathy for anybody that uses it and complains about the consequences.
EastEnder
Brixton Barnacle
I sometimes feel that all my FB posts should have an automated disclaimer stating: "This post was probably intended as a joke, nothing I say should be taken seriously, feel free to insult me but try not to take it seriously".Fascism aside, it's always possible that your jokes are shit
I speak as someone with no known fascist fb friends, but a dismal response to my spectacular jokes.
Recent examples of which can be found on the "fastest estate" thread, among others.
We used to make my dad raise his arm when he told a joke, so we knew.
I looked at photos and have not been back since. Will get youngest to delete. I have not felt so exposed in years. As for the useful groups - well it seems as though most of them are businesses and not randoms swapping seeds. I like the idea of collectivity, I really like sharing stuff and I was predisposed to see FB in a good light after it came to the rescue a few years ago when youngest was attacked in SriLanka - within an hour, someone was contacting me (by phone) who had details from FB. I was also impressed with the possibilities for political organising...but a 24hour reccie has been enough to convince me that life without FB is perfectly doable, especially given my own abilities to prevaricate, idle, lurk and generally dither about doing fuck-all. My eldest suggested just lurking and never, ever posting (but I know I would fail there) and I don't need to know about events because I never go anywhere.
I think a lot of early adopters have already gone
8den
No I'm pretty sure that was 8ball...
I imagine it takes you back to your
days.
A few years ago my Dad made me remove most of his digital profile facebook, Linkedin (why a retired man in his mid-70s was on Linkedin) etc... Now that he's retired to Donegal, I may start a fake facebook profile and pretend he's gotten really into skyclad outdoors yoga.
RubyToogood
RubyTwobikes
I must say I appreciate urban more and more precisely because it's not commercial and we're not all being farmed for our personal data. How many non-commercial public spaces are there really on the internet now?
EastEnder
Brixton Barnacle
urban also has the added benefit of not bombarding me with ads for stuff off Amazon that I've already bought... off Amazon... yesterday...
kabbes
First intersubjective, then internalised
This is well worth a read:
'Dear Mark, this is why I hate you.' An open letter to Zuckerberg | WIRED UK
It sums up everything I hate about Facebook, and why joining up will indeed deluge you with contacts you’d rather not have and, yes, shit yourself. But there’s no escape by not being on it either.
'Dear Mark, this is why I hate you.' An open letter to Zuckerberg | WIRED UK
It sums up everything I hate about Facebook, and why joining up will indeed deluge you with contacts you’d rather not have and, yes, shit yourself. But there’s no escape by not being on it either.
Thought that by not having an account I was invisible to them.
mauvais
on reddit or something
What things?
kabbes
First intersubjective, then internalised
Do you listen to Fighting Talk on 5-live? They're forever pointing people towards their Facebook page in order to interact with the show.
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