jobseeking after being stay at home mum

[Firky]

You share the same name as my mum and one of these days I am going to send a filthy msg to my mum, I can see it happening already.

 

[LilMissHissyFit]

*spits coffee*

Please do..... since you never send me any *flounces*

 

[Firky]

And so my harem of beautiful urban lasses extends once more

 

[LilMissHissyFit]

Dont you mean depletes??

 

[Ms Ordinary]

The fact that he is going to be working unpredictable hours is making it rather difficult for me to sort childcare though - when he's not away on tour it is obviously no problem for him to look after the kids but when he is away for 3 weeks at a time what do I do? I don't want to be sending the kids off to a childminder/nursery when they don't have to go but equally these places aren't available on a 'when you need it' basis.

This is the same situation I have with the sprog's dad - really you just have to bite the bullet & organise childcare as if he doesn't exist & then when he is around it's just that he can take care of the kids even though you are still paying the childminder / nursery or whatever.

The crucial factor is that you just have to factor in that you keep paying for your child's place full-time, even if there's odd days or whole weeks when you don't use them. (& if you are entitled to any tax-credits for childcare, you should still claim them for any childcare you've paid for, even if you didn't actually use it

I actually found it a big hurdle psychologically, because I'd got so used to just fitting in stuff I wanted to do into the 'between tours' bits & but it worked out fine once I turned it on it's head & arranged childcare as if he was always away - then it was just a bonus for the sprog if he happened to be around for a few days to take over.

I also felt better once I'd decided to come straight out with it & say I'd decided to take out x amount of years to bring up the sprog & then go back to work (like it had all along been part of some kind of life plan ) - no need to go on about it (or write your kids ages & names on your CV like some I've seen ), just state the facts & move on... it does also hint that (as someone else mentioned) your child rearing days are over - which of course they aren't supposed to ask you .

 

[heartof gold]

. nasty piece of work[/QUOTE]

takes one to know one as they say!

 

[weepiper]

As a brief update to this thread I have today out of nowhere been asked to write a (non-fiction) book

It is to be approx 250 pages and done by October

....but there are to be lots of pictures so it's not as bad as it sounds. And it's a topic very close to my heart and I should have no problem with researching it. I will find out more tomorrow (like how much they're going to pay me!) but it looks very promising, if I do it well and the publishers are pleased there will be plenty more where that came from....

 

[Tank Girl]

that's fantastic

 

[scifisam]

As a brief update to this thread I have today out of nowhere been asked to write a (non-fiction) book

It is to be approx 250 pages and done by October

....but there are to be lots of pictures so it's not as bad as it sounds. And it's a topic very close to my heart and I should have no problem with researching it. I will find out more tomorrow (like how much they're going to pay me!) but it looks very promising, if I do it well and the publishers are pleased there will be plenty more where that came from....

Wow! I came on this thread to offer my own advice from having been in the same position you were in in the OP, but it looks like you don't need it now! Congratulations!

 

[Poot]

That's great news weepiper! But do remember that no one's expecting you to write it AND look after kids AND make dinner! Make sure you give yourself plenty of time alone to work (and DON'T feel guilty!) Bet you'll do a great job! Are we allowed to ask what it's about? (Just feeling nosy )

 

[weepiper]

That's great news weepiper! But do remember that no one's expecting you to write it AND look after kids AND make dinner! Make sure you give yourself plenty of time alone to work (and DON'T feel guilty!) Bet you'll do a great job! Are we allowed to ask what it's about? (Just feeling nosy )

Errr actually they are... Mr weeps is away for two weeks in August and for the entire month of September so I'll be doing most of it after the kids are in bed. I think it'll be worth the effort though.

Not entirely concrete on the subject as yet (haven't received the proposal in the post) but it's to do with the influence of the Celts in recent history I believe

 

[trashpony]

Not entirely concrete on the subject as yet (haven't received the proposal in the post) but it's to do with the influence of the Celts in recent history I believe

That sounds very interesting

Delighted things have worked out for you ms weeps

 

[equationgirl]

well done weepiper.

Yay!!

 

[Passdout]

As a brief update to this thread I have today out of nowhere been asked to write a (non-fiction) book

It is to be approx 250 pages and done by October
....but there are to be lots of pictures so it's not as bad as it sounds. And it's a topic very close to my heart and I should have no problem with researching it. I will find out more tomorrow (like how much they're going to pay me!) but it looks very promising, if I do it well and the publishers are pleased there will be plenty more where that came from....

Wow thats amazing WP.

I wish you the best of luck. Do you know much about the subject? Either way, im guessing that if you have to do a bit of research it wouldnt be too tricky?

I started to learn loads about the weather a few years ago and started to write a book about it from a non-scientific point of view. Unfortunately most publishers who I sent it to werent interested as I didnt have any qualifications in the actual subject

Good luck though, maybe you can post it on here chapter at a time? Let people see how you are getting on?

 

[_angel_]

As a brief update to this thread I have today out of nowhere been asked to write a (non-fiction) book

It is to be approx 250 pages and done by October

....but there are to be lots of pictures so it's not as bad as it sounds. And it's a topic very close to my heart and I should have no problem with researching it. I will find out more tomorrow (like how much they're going to pay me!) but it looks very promising, if I do it well and the publishers are pleased there will be plenty more where that came from....

Congrats, but how did you find out about this?

 

[weepiper]

Congrats, but how did you find out about this?

It's not what you know it's who you know...

An old friend works for the publishing company and when she saw this proposal she thought of me as I did a degree in a related subject.

 

[_angel_]

It's not what you know it's who you know...

An old friend works for the publishing company and when she saw this proposal she thought of me as I did a degree in a related subject.

Can you get us a job 'n' all??