Came across a very interesting blog about victim blaming. The psychologist writer feels that a lot of harm is being done by the way children are educated about abusen (‘You showed me a CSE film when I was 13 years old… this is how it affected me’ – A letter for #nomoreCSEfilms) . To summarise it probably a bit simplistically: The focus on talking about scenarios and 'what could she [and it usually is 'she'] have done differently/ what would you do in that situation' blames the victim Scary films that show graphic abuse are not based on any evidence-backed research into effectiveness, do not involve input from psychologists and can be very harmful or desensitising for kids, and especially traumatic to victims of abuse, of whom there are likely to be a fewif you are showing it to a whole class Too often these are used after abuse to try to make some or other point to a traumatised child (again, without any advice from a properly qualified person) Often these films show a stereotype of middle class white female victim and older male abuser, but if you're going to educate kids about this, a variety of victims and abusers should be discussed Most online abuse doesn't involve careful, gradual grooming, or pretending to be a child - mostly it is adults who make contact and swiftly move on to threats and blackmail (I had no idea about this, she seems to know what she's talking about though I haven't seen her sources on it). She feels the focus should be on the abuser's choices and actions, not the child's, though I'm not sure how or if she is proposing children be helped, but she does say there needs to be more focus on a more effective police and legal response to stop abusers in the first place. It certainly raises some interesting questions. I can see how it is problematic to tell children they must 'defend themselves' against these people and how that approach must make victims feel worse. But how can we inform kids about the risks posed by these people without making kids feel too responsible?