I have just been kicked out of my childrens school

[winterinmoscow]

But will it cost you? If the action is taken on behalf of your children, who are minors, and who don't have an income of their own, then shouldn't it be legally aided?

NB: I don't know, I'm just wondering.

Any solicitor would surely act for whoever instructed them, which in this case is the mother.

There are limits for Legal Help (the new fangly name for Legal Aid). I don't have them to hand.

Don't take all this as gospel tho as it may vary in this area of law

 

[Space Girl]

yep any solicitor will act for the child but it's been recommended that if I do do it that it's done through a solicitor that specialises in this field, as for the legal aid, I did read that we would get it as it's the child who is sueing however the legal person I spoke to yesterday who told me about the specialst said that she didn't think this was the case any more and that it was means tested, I will need to look into more but we would not be sueing for money or distress etc, we want the head out and going the legel route is soley to prove that he has failed in his duties and that the various government bodies also failed given that they have so much evidence

as for the parents, hum... one of the mothers is nasty (not that I am scared) but her daughter, who was 9 at the time, smashed the head of another girl against the wall, whe was never repremanded, the mother was never told by the school of the incident (yet again) so when she was approached she went mad (and I don't blame her as it she didn't know about it...apparently) but she continued to go mad even after she was finally given all the evidence, she is very much in denile and the child she attacked was taken out of the school for her own safety

we are on the case again today and hopefully those people who were allusive yesterday will be in touch

 

[sparkling]

The trouble with taking them out of the school means you are effectively giving up. You could just not send them to school till you have guarantees that they will be safe. If this continues for any length of time the Education Welfare Service will have to do something then.

Also you mentioned in your first post that you were given the number of the Children's legal Centre in Colchester. I've heard that they do some excellent work on behalf of parents and children only drawback is that they only give a free half hours consultation and after that you have to qualify for legal aid I think...but it might be worth checking this.

What is the school and LEA doing? I suspect that they are doing stuff behind the scenes but not telling you the parents. Are the bullies on some kind of behaviour programme? Are they excluded from playtimes so other children can feel safe? Is the LEA offering advice and guidance to the school?

Other ideas of forming a pressure group that is calm and productive sounds good as well and get the governors views particularly the Chair.

If all else fails go to the press. Both the LEA and the School will hate this.

Where do you live because we work alot with families who are experiencing difficulties like yours?

 

[refugee]

........get the governors views particularly the Chair.

Find out the Parent Governors' names. Write to them and the Chair. Do it as bullet points that should be adressed. Make sure that you send a copy to the Local Authority and indicate on the letter all the people you have sent it to. Try to persuade the other parents to write to the governors - it is never too late to complain, and it will add to the pressure. Write to OFSTED - the school is failing in it's duty if it doesn't have a bullying policy and the structure to implement it. Don't listen to Nonamenopackdrill, he doesn't even believe in bullying by text or internet and obviously has no understanding from the child or parents view.

Oh, and "Naturally, like all parents our children are our world," is probably true of the bullies families, too. Love takes many forms.

I'm not sure what you want the police to do to primary kids?

 

[pogofish]

Maybe try your local MP as well? And surely there should be some kind of Department of Education guidelines about dealing with bullying in schools? Shouldn't there? Does the school/LEA have a policy about bullying? Have they followed the policy?

Every school & authority in the country had to have an anti-bullying policy & resolution procedures in place years ago. There is simply no excuse for them faffing about today.

 

[bmd]

I am so sorry to hear of this spacegirl, you must be going out of your mind with worry. When we give our children into anothers care we expect them to keep them safe, at the very least. The fact that this headmaster is not taking his failings seriously must be very hard, I really feel for you.

One point you may want to consider is that you are sending your children to somewhere that you feel is not keeping them safe. You don't trust them to look after your children. Now imagine how your child feels, the levels of anxiety that they will be living with whilst spending their days at this place. These experiences will have seriously damaged them and they need time and space to heal and that will not happen while they are in school.

First and foremost the school needs to acknowledge that it isn't keeping the children safe and then work with the parents and children towards healing the damage that its lack of care has caused. It needs to regain the trust of your children and they need to feel that the school acknowledges how serious this is and that it will be doing everything it can to protect them in the future.

Until that happens I would advise you not to leave them in the care of that school.

Please don't think this is a criticism of you, it is clear that you are doing everything you can. My gf's son is going through the same thing atm and the above is the conclusion that she has had to come to, I'm not saying it's right for everyone but by the looks of things there are many similarities between his school and yours.

I really feel for you spacegirl and I hope that there are some positive changes soon.

 

[Strumpet]

One point you may want to consider is that you are sending your children to somewhere that you feel is not keeping them safe. You don't trust them to look after your children. Now imagine how your child feels, the levels of anxiety that they will be living with whilst spending their days at this place. These experiences will have seriously damaged them and they need time and space to heal and that will not happen while they are in school.

Until that happens I would advise you not to leave them in the care of that school.

My thoughts exactly BMD. Only you put it better.



Been thinking about you and your kids SpaceGirl...hope it gets resolved asap for you all hun.

 

[Space Girl]

Oh it gets worst, I have been such a bad girl that I have been expelled, I am not allowed onto school property due to my "persistently confrontational tone of my written communication and my highly emotional outburst" and if I don't confirm in writting by the 5th that I will behave myself the ban will be perminant (not that he can ban me as it's only the governing body that can unless they have previouosly given him this power which he has to prove to me that he has been given this power)

so I am going to write something like this to him:

I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again.I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again.I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again ... in pink crayon


anyhow, the god squad are coming into the school tomorrow, the Bishop's director of educaton is visiting the school, so that's one of the authorities in, the rest will follow

I also feel that the head is predujest against myself and FB, he thinks we are hippies and we don't fit into the mold that he wants in his school (smelly dreadlocked couple with old white goods in the garden), I also think and believe that the fact that FB is a gypsy also doesn't go down well, oh well, just another thing to raise isn't it?

tralalalala

 

[Space Girl]

forgot to add, my kids won't be going to school on mondays as I take them and pick them up on mondays, but as I am banned from the school premises (including the drive, the car park and the road up to the school gate) then they ain't going in, let the school explain that to the authorities when I complain that the school is stopping my children attend the school

 

[pogofish]

Rather than write that letter, you should involve a solicitor & get this on a genuine evidential footing before they can instigate further action against you. It is usually harder to fight this sort of thing after the fact than to challenge it when it is in process. They actually like to demonise you this way, because it allows thwem to write you off as a troublemaker rather than face the isue. I have plenty of bitter experience of that, both from my time as a pupil & later as a member of staff. I'm a suborn so & so tho & eventually I won. Twice!

Also, just grin through clenched teeth & be studiously polite when you deal with them. IME, schools/authorities tend to take the easiest route when dealing with this kind of problem & all too often, that means the victim & their family take the flack, instead of those who are really responsble.

 

[sparkling]

Oh it gets worst,

so I am going to write something like this to him:

I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again.I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again.I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again. I promise to be good and never question the secutury of my children ever again ... in pink crayon


anyhow, the god squad are coming into the school tomorrow, the Bishop's director of educaton is visiting the school, so that's one of the authorities in, the rest will follow

I also feel that the head is predujest against myself and FB, he thinks we are hippies and we don't fit into the mold that he wants in his school (smelly dreadlocked couple with old white goods in the garden), I also think and believe that the fact that FB is a gypsy also doesn't go down well, oh well, just another thing to raise isn't it?

tralalalala

I can really understand your anger and frustration and the temptation to make this into a battle between the head and yourselves must be overwhelming....however deep deep breath you have to remember what this is about and what it is not about.

Its not about your lifestyle choices ie dreadlocks and gardens.
Its not about your boyfriends culture etc.
Its not about whether the head is a twit.

It is about your children receiving an education to which they are entitled.
It is about your children feeling and actually being safe.

At the moment you and the Head are taking opposing views and point scoring and it has to stop otherwise there will be no progress made.

Contact the Children's legal Centre I heard from a parent only yesterday how helpful they really are and they really really do know their stuff so far as children, school and the law go, I promise you.

Write whatever it takes to not get the ban permanent, you need to be able to come and go to the school and you do a need a working relationship with the head and the staff. They want an assurance that you will deal with things calmly and thats all you need to say in your letter.

Plan a calm constructive meeting and maybe take someone who can speak for you if it all gets too emotional but the meeting needs to include the following.

• Incidents of bullying which may include physical or emotional hurt - and you will want to know what was done following the reports that were made
• How exactly the school will keep your children safe - if it is one particular child what is the school doing in the immediate future ie keeping people apart etc and what in the long term ie behaviour programmes for the bully or exclusion in necessary and or possibly some kind of conflict resolution or restortative work done between the children.

Make sure notes are taken at the meeting and that a review is set. If necessary get the meeting set up outside the school. This is what we do and it takes away the power dynamics of the school.
Also be prepared when you go to the meeting you to might need to make offers or compromises not that shoud apply when it comes to physical safety.

Lastly I would just ask how are your children while all this is going on? Do they hear the rows and arguments? Because consider how they might feel if asked to return to the school so be careful what you say in front of them. If they do return they need to know that you and your partner do have faith in the school otherwise it will be difficult for them to return anyway.

There are other ideas for the meeting etc but I've waffled on enough now. Hope it helps a little.

 

[Space Girl]

thanks sparkling, you are right, we are point scoring at the mo but there are issues that he obviously have that has made him treat us, from day one really, differently from other poeple, anyhow the problem is that I can not write in a letter that I promise that I will not fly off the handle again as I will if the children get attacked again.

And what really happens if I do get a perminant ban, what does it really matter? I don't care if I can't go into the school, I have very rarely been in there in the past? as for having a working realationship with the head, I don't want one,I don't want to sit down and meet with him ever again, if he bans be then he will have to, (surely?) given me the contact details of someone that I can deal with regarding any issues with my children?

I have contacted the children's law centre and there was very little they could add as to my routes that we didn't already know other than to contact the general teachers coucil to make a grievance, I did call them to be told that they only take complaints from techers and the LEA but any complaint that the LEA have recieved regarding professional conduct should be passed onto them to deal with, I don't believe that any of the complaints that have been previoulsy made to the LEA have gone anywhere other than a file somewhere. The children's law ventre did say that the best way sometmies is to vote with our feet but given so many children have already gone why has this not ben noticed?

I have been in touch with the parents who haev removed their children already and a group letter is in the pipeline (to the LEA, governing body, secutary of state etc) do you think this will have any weight?

As for the children themselves, they were unaware of the issues until the head put the letter sayng I was banned in her school bag addressed to who she though was her (we are both miss ******), she started to read it and thought it was she who was banned, you can imagin the chaos that persued but this is just another sign of his incompitance to run the school, what the hell was he thinking to put the letter in her bag

 

[Louloubelle]

I agree with sparkling that you will undermine your own position if you can't controll your anger regarding this.

Any sane and reasonable person will be able to appreciate why you are angry and that you are justified in feeling this way, however by point scoring you ae giving the head amunition and disempowering yourself and your children.

Please if you can try to stay calm as you will get further if you can manage it.

I was really concerened about all of this and spoke to some of the colleagues I know who work in the field, especially Liz Carnell a really wonderful woman who campaigns tirelessly against bullying. She advised the following

1. You need to formally ask for a copy of the school bullying policy.

2. Each parent who has removed their child from school needs to ask for a copy of their child’s school file. There is a small charge for this. They then need to look for evidence that all and any complaints regarding bullying have been logged and also what action has been taken. For reasons of confidentiality there will NOT be any names of bullies or other children in any of the reports so don't be surprised not to see them.

3. All the parents of the children that have left need to INDIVIDUALLY write to the governers stating what has happened why they removed their children and, if the incidents of bullying were not recorded int he reports or inadequate action was taken they need to say that too.

4. If the governers respond by saying they have confidence in the head (this often happens) then the parents need to individually write to the LEA head of education services

5. The parents should also, individually, complain to their local councillor as many local councilors either sit on governing bodies or know someone who does.

6. The parents whould all individually complain in writing to their MP if they are not happy with the response from the above

7. All parents should also contact the LEA education social worker, all schools have one of these all parents need to contact the person separately

8. V important, all parents should visit their GP and explain that the kids are street because of the bullying at the school so there is a record of this

Good luck


PS

you can find out more info here, but please don't phone liz, email her, as she is innundated with 100s of email a day and just can't offer a telephone advice service

http://www.bullying.co.uk/contact.php

sample complaint letters here
http://www.bullying.co.uk/parents/complaintexamples.php

good luck

Loulou xxx

 

[bmd]

Thanks for the info Loloubelle, I'm sure my gf will find it useful too.

 

[Space Girl]

fantastic Louloubelle thank you

our MP called us this morning and told us to contact two councillors who deal with education, so FB will be doing that today, he asked us to keep him in the loop too which was positive

We have got the bullying policy today, it is dated 2003 and states that it should be up-dated by 2005!! we requested that all policies were up-dated as they were well out of date back in march this year (have written confirmation of this), nice to see that the governors have done so ???

I still am wondering about the banning rule though, does it really matter if I am banned?

 

[strict machine]

There is no excuse for the staff ignoring bullying. You are quite right that there has to be a member of staff on duty before and after school and at break times.
At the school where I teach (inner city comp in Bristol) the heads of year are very hot on nipping bullying in the bud. Kids who are found bullying are sent home for the day and are only allowed back in when they and their parents come into school for a meeting where they sign a contract of good behaviour. Break it and you are excluded lickety spit!!
Each year we give the kids a chance to name the other pupils making their lives difficult by letting them write 3 names on a slip of paper and posting them into a sealed box, just like in an election. We can then collate the names that get mentioned more than 3 times ( because all kids are going to try and name someone innocent for a laugh). This gives us enough leverage to get the parents in even if there are no witnessed attacks. "Look Mrs Jones, 157 pupils named your little Jack as having bullied them over the last term" It ALWAYS works!! Mum and dad are SO embarassed and little Jack gets thumped and warned not to try that again. Its great how empowering it is for the victims, they feel strong because they were courageous enough to speak up ( even if it was anonymously) and the feeling of trust in their teachers grows. Win win situation. Can you find a teacher in the school who is on your side to try this???

 

[pogofish]

I still am wondering about the banning rule though, does it really matter if I am banned?

Yes, you will find it much more difficult to get matters addressed properly if you can simply be dismissed as a "troublesome" parent. Generally being under a ban from schools is concidered first-class evidence of this.

 

[LilMissHissyFit]

talk about being stonewalled

so far we have contacted:
LEA - fucking useless, not interested at all - stonewalled big time
dept of education and schools - passing the buck
osfted - referred us to the above
educational welfare officer - hasn't return our calls
head of education - children's services - not got back to us....yet
director of education (bishop of winchester) - been in a meeting all day (apparently)
local MP - just left a message - he will be the only one who does get back to us

next step:
secretary of state hopefully via our MP
the papers ?

we have tried to get places in the surrounding schools, nothing available even if we did want to take this route

so, we now have to knowingly send our children into school where they are not safe it's not right is it?

Contact Kidscape and the childrens legal centre.
They are both excellent organisations and kidscape can give your kids some proper help and support and the childrens legal centre can help you by dictating a letter quioting the pieces of law you will need in order to make the LEA take notice.
Ask for a copy of the schools complaints procedure, it MUST be given to you, then follow it to the letter if you havent already done so.They often use this as a reson not to respond to you because you havent played by their rules

Once youve done the governors route you can then take a complaint to the givernors dept of your LEA then if that makes no difference then yes its your AM ( if in wales or scotland) or your MP if you are in england.

Ive been through this and were currently going to start taking on simultaneously the school and LEA... its a pain in the arse and its exhausting but you can do it BUT you MUST always keep your calm, you MUST play by their rules when complaining or you will ( as you are finding) get the door slammed firmly in your face which is what they want

weve been made to sign a contract by our childrens school gagging us- when this sort of stuff comes to the attention of those in power it makes them look dreadful.
Its even more important to keep your temper and be polite to them at all times when they are involving themselves with those sort of nasty bullying tactics themselves- it IS bullying of parents by the school and its bad bad practice but if you keep kicking off it will make them look reasonable

 

[sparkling]

I still am wondering about the banning rule though, does it really matter if I am banned?

Yes. It limits the ways you can deal with this and gives the school something to slur you with.

If you do not ever want to work productively with the head again why would you have confidence in sending your children back there again?

At the moment that unfortunate person is the head and although you might complain about their ineptitude etc you have to either work with the head or take your children out of the school. I suggest getting the head sacked is another battle for later. Your immediate battle is to get the children back in school and to be safe.

Like I said earlier take deep breaths, a longer term view, possibly get someone to be an advocate for you if you really feel you cannot go to the school without losing your cool and of course take some of the really useful advice given on this thread by other clever people.

 

[blues]

Been there. Lucky for me, I was on good terms with my daughters' teachers so I could trust them to form a barrier between the head I reported (to LEA) and repurcussions. They also agreed with my complaint and were glad someone had it in them to take it over the Head's head.

QUOTE]

what was the outcome?

Head got called up to explain her conduct and a few months later accepted a "transfer" to another school.

Seriously, your LEA can't ignore this, and the Head will have to justify anything done to prevent bullying and pursue any instances that do occur. Follow the advice re organisations above. Even if you were the parent from hell (and I could be, but not suggesting you are!) that doesn't exclude the school's responsibility towards yours and everyone else's kids.

You'll get there

 

[blues]

weve been made to sign a contract by our childrens school

My daughters' high school tried that - normal procedure, everyone was meant to sign it. I refused. Nothing they could do. I also pointed out that a contract needs to involve both sides doing more than they're already legally obliged to do - since the school was already obliged to educate and ensure the safety of the children, and there was nothing "extra" offered by them in the contract, it was invalid in any legal sense.

Some of the staff loved me - you can imagine how the Head felt about me

(This is English Law, not sure about Scottish)

 

[pogofish]

a contract needs to involve both sides doing more than they're already legally obliged to do -

(This is English Law, not sure about Scottish)

Yup, school contracts are utterly meaningless, even the anti-bullying ones. The only thing that should guide the school's dealings with you child are the appropriate Education acts, criminal law where applicable, EU human rights law & Health & safety.

Scottish law is for the most part similar except that the fundamental relationship between a school/authority & a parent is quite the opposite. So the ball is entirely in the parents court, if they would only insist on their rights.

 

[LilMissHissyFit]

My daughters' high school tried that - normal procedure, everyone was meant to sign it. I refused. Nothing they could do. I also pointed out that a contract needs to involve both sides doing more than they're already legally obliged to do - since the school was already obliged to educate and ensure the safety of the children, and there was nothing "extra" offered by them in the contract, it was invalid in any legal sense.

Some of the staff loved me - you can imagine how the Head felt about me

(This is English Law, not sure about Scottish)

Nope this was a different thing, this was saying they would back down over an SEN issue they had a legal duty to address anyway and then gagging us from ever disclosing it nor the nasty bollocks they had put us through in order to try and get us to back down from making them meet their committments under the education act and the DDA..( both of which we had grounds for complaint under)

It was definitely in no way normal procedure although I know what you are referring to( the home /school contract which yes I would refuse to sign too)
. the contract we were made to sign was to try and put the frighteners on us, it was 3 mths before we disclosed it or its content to a solicitor( as the contract expressly said would bring actions upon us)It was completely clear, we should not disclose the existence of the contract, nor its content to anyone not detailed in the contract ( head, chair of governors, us as parents) and we were completely scared by it, he said no this is complete bollocks you can tell who you like

as you say it was completely invalid but it wasnt what you are thinking of, when shown to out assembly member he turned puce It was blatantly a contract saying weve done what you asked ( arent we nice) we have done XY and Z for various reaosn ( all to try and fuck us over) but because we gave in to your demand ( perefectly allowed and even expected by SEN law through obligatory involving parents clauses) you WILL stay silent about our actions because we say we will take action if you do not.

 

[LilMissHissyFit]

erk scary double posting

 

[Louloubelle]

fantastic Louloubelle thank you

my pleasure

our MP called us this morning and told us to contact two councillors who deal with education, so FB will be doing that today, he asked us to keep him in the loop too which was positive

good

We have got the bullying policy today, it is dated 2003 and states that it should be up-dated by 2005!! we requested that all policies were up-dated as they were well out of date back in march this year (have written confirmation of this), nice to see that the governors have done so ???

well that's a definite point to you, well done, it's going to be hard for the head to wriggle out of that one

I still am wondering about the banning rule though, does it really matter if I am banned?

Apparently this happens frequently when parents become enraged and frustrated by school's apathy in the face of bullying. Schools are entitled to ban parents if their behaviour is innapropriate or threatening.

Every time you lose your temper they've won a bit, every time you keep your cool and play by the rules they lose a bit. The truth is that they have neglected to protect your children and other people's children from harm and you can do something about this. If you really can't control your temper then, as another poster said, send an advocate in your place.

Good luck with it

 

[Louloubelle]

Thanks for the info Loloubelle, I'm sure my gf will find it useful too.

You're welcome, I wrote a long and considered response to your recent thread but lost it when I tried to post it

I hope everything gets better for you and your family, they're lucky to have you fighting their corner

 

[Jonti]

the thing really is not about my kids being beaten on (well it is) but it's about the head not stopping it, he never tells any of the bullies off, he never contacts the parents of the bullies, he does fuck all

he has is own agenda, he never answers a question he just does not see that he is doing anything wrong, afterall, god thinks he's doing a good job and when you ask him about what he has done he says things about what jesus would do :

...

Both my children do jujitsu, they know how to wack a punch but they have been told that it's not something you tell others about and that they should not hit anyone but today we told them that they must never hit first but if they can not run away after someone has hit them that they are to kick the shite out of anyone who is attacking them

... there are precedents/case law now to be taken into account, which mean that schools/education authorities can be found legally liable for not dealing with bullying.

First and foremost the school needs to acknowledge that it isn't keeping the children safe and then work with the parents and children towards healing the damage that its lack of care has caused. It needs to regain the trust of your children and they need to feel that the school acknowledges how serious this is and that it will be doing everything it can to protect them in the future.

Until that happens I would advise you not to leave them in the care of that school.

People are, as a matter of law, entitled to defend themselves from physical attack, using reasonable force if they are unable to flee the situation. That's in England. In the some states in the US, one can stand and fight, even if one could escape ...

But, if it's at all possible, I'd keep the kids away from school. I sincerely doubt they'll miss out if it's only for a few months. As far as I can tell, very little understanding is inculcated in schools. Apologies to the dedicated and hardworking teaching staff reading this, maybe it's me that's got a jaundiced view, but NuLabor's "one size fits all" and its "keystages" approach to teaching seems to mean that all kids get taught the same shit at the same time, regardless of their aptitudes and interests. That's a recipe for mindless robotic learning, imho. I prefer that my kids remain curious and unsquashed. Folk *want* to figure stuff out!

The Headmaster sounds like an inadequate jobsworth hiding behind a "universal answers" ideology. He wishes, perhaps, to prove his piety by forgiving offences, by taking a saintly and understanding attitude. Though he might change his tune if he were to get a punch on his sanctimonious Christian nose. It may be worth finding out a little of where he came from and how he got selected. That'll tell you if an unholy alliance of NuLabor and OldReligion types was involved. For example, who was the Chair of the Governors at the time? Was there a shortlist of just the one guy?

On the other hand, it may be that a right lemon has accidently been appointed, and everyone wants rid of the tool. So stay cool and suss out the lie of the land. You'll likely want all the support you can get in the weeks and months ahead.

Best of luck to you.

 

[Space Girl]

so the saga continues...

I wrote a letter to the chair of governors (fucking bitch is going die a death of a thousand screams by the time I have finished with her), saying that I would behave as long as they did etc (thanks for the help on that littlemisshissyfit) and she wrote me one back saying my and had been lifted, she was sooooo smug about having such power over me so I now allowed back into the school

twatty head master wrote me a letter about the attack on my daughter saying that he had fully investigated it, but failed to speak to my daughter so a letter is winging it's way back to him just to point out the exact events of the day and how crap he is

the director of education for the diocee is sending his team in and the lovely bishop of winchester is visiting the school this week (don't know why )

we have been to see another school and want our kids to go there regardless of what happens in their school, the children want to go there too which is a relief

our mp wrote us a letter and it was very supporting, giving us names of 2 councillors to get in touch with who will be "effective in dealing with our problems before they have yet more of a damaging impact"

 

[Luther Blissett]

Parent Partnership Service exists to work as a bridge between School and Parent when communication has broken down.

Every LEA has one, afaik, so I'm wondering if either the LEA or the Chair of Governors told you about them, Space Girl?

 

[LilMissHissyFit]

They are intended for use by parents of children with special educational needs. They wouldnt be able to help nor intervene in a case like this.

Glad you got your way with the governors ( well the ban bit anyway) it sounds like you are doing an admirable job in piling on the pressure, well done