I don't exactly *feel* harrassed but...

[ChrisFilter]

Don't listen to Guinevere! Post every non-work related email he every sends you. It rates highly on the morbid curiousity stakes.

I reckon he does that real-life roleplay thing.

 

[5t3IIa]

I haven't read this whole thread, but I do think people should stop sniggering about this, and the OP should simply send a clear, firm but polite email NOW to this person, indicating that they are not happy with the tone of them, and requesting that he stops sending them.

Not doing so immediately is cruel on many levels, and could lead him to think that you welcome such approaches which a) makes it difficult for you to complain about them later and b) damages your chance of salvaging a friendship from this, which I assume you want to do.

I also think you should not post any more of his emails on here!

Oh You should read the thread

 

[bluestreak]

You are all fucking children! Honestly!

*forms branch of paedos for seriousness*

 

[rutabowa]

I thought he was merely being friendly and silly and I do like him, he's cool. But the cheeks one was a sleaze too far.

ok well that's cool, it was just how it appeared to me... but then i don't send very effusive emails to anyone, so everyone's different.

 

[5t3IIa]

This is the FIRST one he sent. FIRST ONE.

Don't listen to Guinevere! Post every non-work related email he every sends you. It rates highly on the morbid curiousity stakes.

I reckon he does that real-life roleplay thing.

Hiya bubbles,

I was referring to your butt, not your belly.

So how are things and what's the gossip in the office, I want names, addresses, numbers, you name it I want it.

"What do you want?!"

INFORMATION… INFORMATION...

"Well you won't get it!"

BY HOOK OR BY CROOK WE WILL!

"I am not a number, I am a free man!"

AHAHAHAHAHAHAH!

Kind regards

I replied: 'Ahem, did you send this to the right person?'

 

[rutabowa]

I haven't read this whole thread, but I do think people should stop sniggering about this, and the OP should simply send a clear, firm but polite email NOW to this person, indicating that they are not happy with the tone of them, and requesting that he stops sending them.

Not doing so immediately is cruel on many levels, and could lead him to think that you welcome such approaches which a) makes it difficult for you to complain about them later and b) damages your chance of salvaging a friendship from this, which I assume you want to do.

I also think you should not post any more of his emails on here!

tbh i kind of agree with this... err but also i liked reading the emails! "i contain multitudes"

 

[dolly's gal]

is he actually mental?!

 

[5t3IIa]

is he actually mental?!

He is honestly funny and normal...or appears so

 

[Agent Sparrow]

I haven't read this whole thread, but I do think people should stop sniggering about this, and the OP should simply send a clear, firm but polite email NOW to this person, indicating that they are not happy with the tone of them, and requesting that he stops sending them.

Not doing so immediately is cruel on many levels, and could lead him to think that you welcome such approaches which a) makes it difficult for you to complain about them later and b) damages your chance of salvaging a friendship from this, which I assume you want to do.

I also think you should not post any more of his emails on here!

Tbf there was a lot of serious stuff, suggestions and advice earlier, and then 5t3IIa dealt with it how she felt best. Atm we're all hoping that will be the end of it, thus I think people are being a bit more jokey about it.

Plus I keep accidentally posting things people find amusing.

 

[sleaterkinney]

Don't listen to Guinevere! Post every non-work related email he every sends you. It rates highly on the morbid curiousity stakes.

I reckon he does that real-life roleplay thing.

What real-life roleplay thing?

 

[5t3IIa]

Tbf there was a lot of serious stuff, suggestions and advice earlier, and then 5t3IIa dealt with it how she felt best. Atm we're all hoping that will be the end of it, thus I think people are being a bit more jokey about it.

Plus I keep accidentally posting things people find amusing.

I think 'paedos for seriousness' beat yours but that's cuz I'm an unfunny fucker myself.

 

[ChrisFilter]

What real-life roleplay thing?

Where people pretend to be from the middle-ages, or goblins, and run round fields squealing in delight at being accepted for once.

 

[Pieface]

I replied: 'Ahem, did you send this to the right person?'

he isn't funny though?? He must be very fucking amusing when you're face to face to make up for those - it's all a bit "I'm mad me."

 

[Agent Sparrow]

I think 'paedos for seriousness' beat yours but that's cuz I'm an unfunny fucker myself.

Yes, but I think bluestreak was being intentionally funny there! If he wasn't then it's time to get worried

I haven't made an intentional funny on this whole thread, and I've managed to amuse at least 3 people. (pervy people admittedly - tsk )

 

[5t3IIa]

he isn't funny though?? He must be very fucking amusing when you're face to face to make up for those - it's all a bit "I'm mad me."

I mean face-to-face he's alright.


I'm going off him actually. I just heard his laugh across the office and thought 'Ew'.

I think, with you lots help, I have aversion-therapied myself off him completely Poor J, ostracised new-boy.

 

[Pieface]

oops - don't do that because of urban ffs! No of us are actually there - remember?

Or here either for that matter...

 

[Guineveretoo]

Tbf there was a lot of serious stuff, suggestions and advice earlier, and then 5t3IIa dealt with it how she felt best. Atm we're all hoping that will be the end of it, thus I think people are being a bit more jokey about it.

Plus I keep accidentally posting things people find amusing.

Thanks for explaining that. I probably shouldn't post serious posts when I am at work, as I really don't have time to read the whole thread, and I could easily get things wrong.

My concern is partly that there maybe an unforeseen consequence of this, being that the OP could find herself the subject of a complaint if it ever comes out that she has been posting these emails on here, even anonymously. Presumably, there are people on this board who know her irl, and know where she works, so could work out who this guy is...

But all I can do is offere advice - people choose whether or not to take it

 

[rutabowa]

I mean face-to-face he's alright.


I'm going off him actually. I just heard his laugh across the office and thought 'Ew'.

I think, with you lots help, I have adversion-therapied myself off him completely Poor J, ostracised new-boy.

but you must understand that going from your replies he will not get this!

 

[5t3IIa]

oops - don't do that because of urban ffs! No of us are actually there - remember?

Or here either for that matter...

Nope. Too late. You're a bunch of meanies, I'm suggestible and J's out on his ear.

 

[5t3IIa]

but you must understand that going from your replies he will not get this!

You might be right

Hmm

Well I'm off, won't be back until Friday, got a meeting in Edinburgh, with Paul if anyone wants to know. I have a meeting at 2PM.

Apart from that I look forward to our own tet-a-tet or should that be ying & yang 69? Ooh missus!

Tally ha!

I replied:

Have a lovely meeting and leave off the double-entendres! I mean it!

Laters :wave:

 

[rutabowa]

You might be right

Hmm



I replied:

it's not your fault i know yr just trying to be friendly, but honestly you can't be subtle with this kind of thing!i speak as a male. it will be better for him too. like i reckon in yr last message you should have been a bit firmer and less friendly... then once that's clear, you can go back to being friendlier.

 

[Agent Sparrow]

it's not your fault i know yr just trying to be friendly, but honestly you can't be subtle with this kind of thing!i speak as a male. it will be better for him too. like i reckon in yr last message you should have been a bit firmer and less friendly... then once that's clear, you can go back to being friendlier.

Perhaps 5t3IIa needs to have some sort of defcom rating system, where each time he does it, her response goes up a notch. Which would certainly have reporting it somewhere on the scale.

It would be well cool if little flashing lights came up and changed colour as it went up the scale!

Seriously, 5t3IIa, if he keeps doing it despite you telling him not do, please don't feel like you can't report it, it's definitely within your rights.

 

[Pieface]

just go and punch him

 

[5t3IIa]

If he does it again I'm going to go all straight-faced and bring in some jargon

That would be Orange Alert, I think.

 

[Mogden]

He sounds like Alan Partridge's long lost brother and not in a good way.

 

[5t3IIa]

He sounds like Alan Partridge's long lost brother and not in a good way.

It's painful, isn't it?


Curious thing: I have access to my Best Colleagues inbox while she's on hols and I *know* she's been emailing with J. Just checked it and there's nothing from him at all... Would she have delted them all out of embarrassment? I would. Poor BC

 

[beeboo]

I know it's very wrong but this is excellent vicarious entertainment.

We want updates!

I should really be more careful myself about what I commit to email at work - I accused a colleague of having a hedgehog penis the other day

 

[Brainaddict]

You're not very good at being stern are you 5t3?

 

[5t3IIa]

IM GLAD YOU CAN ALL LAUGH AT MY ANGUISH!


I am good at being stern but I do believe that I should give him a chance to take the hint before I squish him like the slimy little bug he is. Don't want to be all 'Oh, hi, yeah see ya' in the office if I don't have to, you know

 

[moomoo]

IM GLAD YOU CAN ALL LAUGH AT MY ANGUISH!


I am good at being stern but I do believe that I should give him a chance to take the hint before I squish him like the slimy little bug he is. Don't want to be all 'Oh, hi, yeah see ya' in the office if I don't have to, you know

He will never take the hint!

You need to be firm and spell it out.