Sorry but this debate no longer concerns the EU. It concerns how you think policy should be implemented versus how I think it should be implemented. You think citizens should have a direct say over every minute aspect of policy. I think that's a dangerous position to take and think that parliamentary democracy, for all it's admitted faults, at least provides a safeguard against the problems associated with the kind of demcracy you propose.
The EU is as democratic as most governments/political organisations, but if you don't think most governments/political organisations are democratic enough then you obviously won't think the EU is will you? But that doesn't make it specially "authoritarian", only in your opinion (as the majority of the population either happily participate in parliamentary democracy or do nothing to oppose it)