How to feed a fussy boyfriend?
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kyser_soze
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Point out to him that you're both skint, and don't have the option of being a fussy eater, without the excuse of veggieism.
Treacle Toes
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How to feed a fussy boyfriend???
....let him cook/feed himself. Job done!
....let him cook/feed himself. Job done!
cesare
shady's dreams ♥
Is there a market near you Shevek? If so, towards the end of the day the traders will be selling off their fruit and veg cheaply.
A trip to a Pick Your Own place is also worthwhile, and can be a fun day out.
Buying cheap fresh veg and freezing it is cheaper than buying frozen veg. Bulk purchases are generally cheaper if you have the freezer space. Making large meals and freezing left over portions will help for when money gets low towards payday.
Try and get an allotment and start growing your own veg (I take it you don't have a garden?)
Buying a sack of potatoes from a farm shop is cheaper than buying in supermarkets (store the sack in a cool dark place to minimise sprouting).
Go to Indian/Pakistani supermarkets to buy lentils and spices (and rice for yourself) - you normally get three + times the amount for the price in the likes of Tesco. Similarly with Chinese supermarkets (if you have any near you) for noodles, soy sauce, tofu etc.
Go to a fishmonger rather than buying fishfingers!
Get familiar with the various cuts of meat, so that you know what you're buying. Use a local butcher (again, cheaper than a supermarket) and don't be afraid to ask the butcher for advice. Also, ask the butcher for bones to make stock with - making a decent stock will add depth and flavour to a meal and saves money on stock cubes/gravy granules. Stock also freezes well.
Learn about cooking methods for cheaper cuts of meat e.g. breast of lamb, belly pork.
Some cheap meals without rice/pasta:
Lancashire hotpot
Mince and tatties
Shepherds/cottage/fish pie
(Chicken or whatever) stew with pearl barley
Dahl with homemade flatbread
Chana masala with naan/flatbread
Liver and onions with mash and gravy
Devilled kidneys
If he likes potato, he might like gnocchi too?
A trip to a Pick Your Own place is also worthwhile, and can be a fun day out.
Buying cheap fresh veg and freezing it is cheaper than buying frozen veg. Bulk purchases are generally cheaper if you have the freezer space. Making large meals and freezing left over portions will help for when money gets low towards payday.
Try and get an allotment and start growing your own veg (I take it you don't have a garden?)
Buying a sack of potatoes from a farm shop is cheaper than buying in supermarkets (store the sack in a cool dark place to minimise sprouting).
Go to Indian/Pakistani supermarkets to buy lentils and spices (and rice for yourself) - you normally get three + times the amount for the price in the likes of Tesco. Similarly with Chinese supermarkets (if you have any near you) for noodles, soy sauce, tofu etc.
Go to a fishmonger rather than buying fishfingers!
Get familiar with the various cuts of meat, so that you know what you're buying. Use a local butcher (again, cheaper than a supermarket) and don't be afraid to ask the butcher for advice. Also, ask the butcher for bones to make stock with - making a decent stock will add depth and flavour to a meal and saves money on stock cubes/gravy granules. Stock also freezes well.
Learn about cooking methods for cheaper cuts of meat e.g. breast of lamb, belly pork.
Some cheap meals without rice/pasta:
Lancashire hotpot
Mince and tatties
Shepherds/cottage/fish pie
(Chicken or whatever) stew with pearl barley
Dahl with homemade flatbread
Chana masala with naan/flatbread
Liver and onions with mash and gravy
Devilled kidneys
If he likes potato, he might like gnocchi too?
Biddlybee
making knots with sticks
Think it was jokey with a hint of truth... if you're doing all the cooking, then he's got to widen what he eats a bit more, and you shouldn't have to cook two meals - one for you one for him... compromise innit.
I cook most in our house - and I don't make things I don't want to eat
I cook most in our house - and I don't make things I don't want to eat
GarfieldLeChat
fucking awesome but wrong
why not cook his own fucking potato or go without
bastard!carbs make me angry!
I'm not allowed in the kitchen since i made a curry with bananas which apparently breaks the natural laws of this planet.
she get's well territorial over the kitchen
GarfieldLeChat
fucking awesome but wrong
It has been shown though that a ready meal diet doesn't do a great deal for depression due to the low nutrition value within the food and the high sugar salt content why not phrase it as we have to eat this it'll help me get better.
GarfieldLeChat
fucking awesome but wrong
bananas you know bend in em yellow get em in bunches...
Very true, I was gonna point this out but couldn't think of a way to phrase it that didn't make it sound like I was accusing shev's blerk of being a selfish fuckwit.
this anger, it's clouding me.
foo
dirtysweet
....let him cook/feed himself. Job done!
this.
are you his personal chef or something shevek?
has he lost the use of his arms?
1) I agree that you jointly spend far too much at Starbucks etc - if you really must have a coffee out, have a small one, and don't eat there. Alternatively, have your coffee and food, but make it once or twice a week at most, no more.
2) Jacket spuds (or a doorstep of bread) for the win - he can have one while you have rice, noodles or pasta and you can share the sauce/topping (or he can have grated cheese and be grateful it's not stolen from a mousetrap).
3) Get organised and learn to buy in bulk - even if it means going out of your way once a month or once a fortnight. £4 for meat sounds a lot until you split that between 5 meals for 2 people - 40p per portion before adding the other ingredients. It can be done. Cooking from scratch is almost always cheaper than the stuff you're currently eating, even if you rule out curries, etc.
4) You think your budget is small?
5) If you need to keep costs down, start by reducing meat & fish. You could sometimes eat eggs, mushrooms, pulses, beans, nuts or cheese instead, or you can bulk out a meal with lots of veg etc so that the meat isn't the most expensive thing on the plate. Stir fries and Spanish omelettes (not on the same plate) are good ways of using oddments to make an affordable, tasty and varied main meal.
6) Even if you love somebody, you don't have to eat the same meals as each other. Maybe agree that once or twice a week each of you will cook separately.
2) Jacket spuds (or a doorstep of bread) for the win - he can have one while you have rice, noodles or pasta and you can share the sauce/topping (or he can have grated cheese and be grateful it's not stolen from a mousetrap).
3) Get organised and learn to buy in bulk - even if it means going out of your way once a month or once a fortnight. £4 for meat sounds a lot until you split that between 5 meals for 2 people - 40p per portion before adding the other ingredients. It can be done. Cooking from scratch is almost always cheaper than the stuff you're currently eating, even if you rule out curries, etc.
4) You think your budget is small?
5) If you need to keep costs down, start by reducing meat & fish. You could sometimes eat eggs, mushrooms, pulses, beans, nuts or cheese instead, or you can bulk out a meal with lots of veg etc so that the meat isn't the most expensive thing on the plate. Stir fries and Spanish omelettes (not on the same plate) are good ways of using oddments to make an affordable, tasty and varied main meal.
6) Even if you love somebody, you don't have to eat the same meals as each other. Maybe agree that once or twice a week each of you will cook separately.
GarfieldLeChat
fucking awesome but wrong
oh dear
(you get green bananas too, which you can use in savoury food
she point blank refuses to let me cook...
so it's not really fair to complain I don't cook. I can cook very well as it happens, but am banned... we had conselling over it even the counsellor said I should be allowed to cook... but it's not worth the tantrums and beatings which come along with it... sniff...
Treacle Toes
Time
Idaho
continuity character
Urban is like that I'm afraid. Unless you are one of the beautiful people. Then you get 20 pages of ((()))s for stubbing your toe.
I don't think posters are angry at you - it just seems that you are doing all the work and he is just sitting on his arse turning his nose up.
cesare
shady's dreams ♥
I was under the impression that Shevek isn't working and that his partner is the wage earner ... so Shevek does the housework/cooking aspect. Kind of divides up the work that way. Could be wrong though.
mrsfran
Well-Known Member
How about soups? Soups are easy to make, can be made with whatever veg and/or meat is on offer at the supermarket, and if you blend them you can hide all manner of things he thinks he doesn't like in them (like rice, for example). Carrot and coriander soup costs next to nothing to make.
How about fish that don't come in finger form? You can get 6 frozen coley steaks for £2.79 in Sainsburys (I checked) and that'll do you 3 meals. You can spruce them up by making your own sauce out of some milk, cornflour and parsley. Or add some mashed potato and you've got a fish pie.
You could grow your own herbs on the windowsill.
Get chicken thighs instead of chicken breasts, much cheaper.
If he likes sausages, do something interesting with them. How about a sausage and lentil casserole? (Recipe here). Or squeeze the meat out of the sausage skin and make meatballs.
You could try him on things like pearl barley instead of rice, or maybe couscous or quinoa. All those things are much cheaper to buy if you buy them in your local Asian food shop.
Do some interesting things with veg - instead of boiling carrots, roast them with some honey drizzled on. Instead of potato mash, make it with parsnip or swede. Or do a different kind of potato dish - pommes boulangere, for example (Recipe). Doesn't cost any more than mash would.
Cheap traditional food doesn't have to be boring.
How about fish that don't come in finger form? You can get 6 frozen coley steaks for £2.79 in Sainsburys (I checked) and that'll do you 3 meals. You can spruce them up by making your own sauce out of some milk, cornflour and parsley. Or add some mashed potato and you've got a fish pie.
You could grow your own herbs on the windowsill.
Get chicken thighs instead of chicken breasts, much cheaper.
If he likes sausages, do something interesting with them. How about a sausage and lentil casserole? (Recipe here). Or squeeze the meat out of the sausage skin and make meatballs.
You could try him on things like pearl barley instead of rice, or maybe couscous or quinoa. All those things are much cheaper to buy if you buy them in your local Asian food shop.
Do some interesting things with veg - instead of boiling carrots, roast them with some honey drizzled on. Instead of potato mash, make it with parsnip or swede. Or do a different kind of potato dish - pommes boulangere, for example (Recipe). Doesn't cost any more than mash would.
Cheap traditional food doesn't have to be boring.
invisibleplanet
porter des cornes
Skip through the vitriol to get to the tasty suggestions !
invisibleplanet
porter des cornes
p.s. MissFran has a lovely foody blog!
AnnO'Neemus
Is so vanilla
You think posters aren't angry at shevek? What makes you think that?
Have you never frequented one of shevek's threads before? It's like reading the Daily Mail. You know you shouldn't, because you know it's going to send your blood pressure through the roof and make you boil with rage, but you can't help it, you do it anyway when someone makes a thread and posts a link and you get communal bonding with the other posters over the outrageousness of it all. I think this is the second or third thread about the bf's prima donna eating habits, and how shevek is expected to tailor to them and also foot the bill for them when he either only has a part time job or isn't working.
It started off all reasonable and suggestions about negotiating and trying to make the bf aware how unreasonable he's being.
But that's had no impact. Hence all the FFS type responses this time round.
If you want a summary of what happened in Spiral or Ugly Betty as well, just yell!
Just had a peek and bookmarked page.
