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5t3IIa said:
Hah! It's too late for me. Working my fingers to the bone for Bahnhof Strasse the Slave-driver :(

jill25 This thread was never for 'entertainment' - I was desperate for work when I started it, as I imagine are the irregulars who found it through google.[/QUOT
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jill25 said:
Yes, it is important to protect yourself otherwise you will end up too exhausted and emotional to even do the work properly. It is sad when you have to leave somebody who is in a bad situation but you should go with your gut instinct.
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If you are going to do this kind of work, you have to be quite robust and if you feel unable to do the job and keep your life in balance, then it is not the right job for you and if you leave, you will protect yourself and whoever you are trying to help as well. If you are feeling unstable you are more likely to hurt somebody who is in an extremely vulnerable situation. Working with vulnerable people, you should expect to deal with behaviour that you might find to be unacceptable, and whether you decide to stay or not is entirely down to your ability to cope without hurting yourself or your client.
 
jill25 said:
If you are going to do this kind of work, you have to be quite robust and if you feel unable to do the job and keep your life in balance, then it is not the right job for you and if you leave, you will protect yourself and whoever you are trying to help as well. If you are feeling unstable you are more likely to hurt somebody who is in an extremely vulnerable situation. Working with vulnerable people, you should expect to deal with behaviour that you might find to be unacceptable, and whether you decide to stay or not is entirely down to your ability to cope without hurting yourself or your client.
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purenarcotic said:
I don't see why being housebound means you can't enjoy a variety of foodstuffs. Maybe she doesn't like pasta and tea.

However, I'm not sure I would buy a huge shop for a perfect stranger who hadn't yet given me the money for it.

Have you now got her address? Why don't you just make a quiet call to social services or something; it's obvious the woman is in need of some long term care and doesn't have it. If you feel uncomfortable, don't go.
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If you are housebound I think you should at least be able to eat the food that you really love, if interesting food makes you happy and you can afford it then it might be a good natural remedy.
 
Em Dee said:
Ok, perhaps red wasn't the best choice of colour, but it annoyed me that this post was so black & white!

Anyway, I don't know if it is the MI5 (it might be... who the hell knows!), but I'd be more leaning towards the previous "she'll keep the bodies in the basement" scenario.

So, she called me mid-afternoon, after I told her I had two different jobs to go to that day, wasting my lunchbreak (*sobs*) and straight out of the gate asked me why it is I do "these kinds" of mediocre jobs. A little bit inappropriate, but ok, on we went.

Then she explained that she had a problem with her neck (fair enough, the ad said as much) and that she needed someone to be her arms, and do her shopping, hang laundry 'n' stuff. And, again, that's cool; nothing odd to see here.

Then, at one point, she suddenly exclaimed. I asked what had happened and she said (and imagine this in a horror-esque American-accent granny voice) "I just saw a little boy in a wheelchair outside the window". I was a little confused, but ok, whatever. This, however, is where shit started to get odd.

I didn't mention that I'd seen this thread before talking to her, but instead subtly asked why she needed someone for the job, was her current carer leaving, etc.

She said that she "has a very nice Canadian one, but she has to leave because...oh something to do with her Visa. But there are a lot of details in this job." (Having just read The Psychopath Test, I was a little bit on edge from this point. Why was she describing her carers like I'd describe my pets? Also, why the details comment?)

Then she started talking about the bloody details (again, picture the voice!). She started saying about how much detail is involved in the job, and how careful I have to be, and how important it is. A sentence that has really stuck with me was "She once put the yoghurt in the wrong place and I really flared up". <cue shivers down spine>

So then, I told her why I was leaving my current job (personal reasons) and she said that she was really after someone easy-going and who won't take offence and with a good sense of humour (fyi, she was not particularly funny on the phone, I don't know what the deal is there... maybe you're supposed to be laughing as you die? Idk...).

I figured that this was my best way out, and told her that I'm a really head-strong and impulsive person, and that I have a really difficult character to get along with, and that this role wouldn't really suit me, but that I hope she finds someone suitable.

At this point, she almost started sobbing, saying how she has no-one else and I have to come in to see her. I told her I couldn't live with myself if I put something in the wrong place and she hurt herself and, after a short conversation about Gumtree and other places to post her ad, I hung up.

This was on Saturday.
Yesterday, I got an email from her asking me to talk to my friends and to re-post her ad wherever I can - I'd imagine this is why it appears so often in so many places? But who knows...

Anyway, this is all I know. It wasn't much fun and it frankly feels like she's completely screwed with my head. :(

(PS: The colour changing button isn't working for me... So no more blood-post!)
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a superficial understanding of psychology gained from reading ''the psychopath test'' might cause you to make inappropriate judgements of people. ''If we believe absurdities, we shall commit atrocities.'' - Voltaire.
 
jill25 said:
I was upset by what happened to me and decided to investigate to find out more about her/people who have worked for her.
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to be more specific, I was generally upset by the whole situation, I am a chaotic person myself and should have been better organised and more conscientious. I really cared about this woman and essentially found her very likeable and warm hearted. Her reaction to certain incidents was upsetting to me, however I must have done something to upset her and this makes me think I really need to check myself and my standards both at work and in my personal life. I am grateful to her for alerting me to this.
 
jill25 said:
to be more specific, I was generally upset by the whole situation, I am a chaotic person myself and should have been better organised and more conscientious. I really cared about this woman and essentially found her very likeable and warm hearted. Her reaction to certain incidents was upsetting to me, however I must have done something to upset her and this makes me think I really need to check myself and my standards both at work and in my personal life. I am grateful to her for alerting me to this.
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Here is a resource that could be really useful to anybody who wants to do home care but has not had any official training ... http://www.ukhca.co.uk/pdfs/PublicationsOrderForm.pdf
 
jill25 said:
<snip> anybody who wants to do home care but has not had any official training ... snip>
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"Run to the hills, run for your lives..."

Seriously, this is the type of work which people like to believe is easy to do when there's enough love and/or you're a nice enough person. Wrong!

IMHO if you really want to do this type of work, you'll be far more able to keep yourself (and anyone you work for) safe with proper training.
 
Greebo said:
"Run to the hills, run for your lives..."

Seriously, this is the type of work which people like to believe is easy to do when there's enough love and/or you're a nice enough person. Wrong!

IMHO if you really want to do this type of work, you'll be far more able to keep yourself (and anyone you work for) safe with proper training.
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That's the best advise. IMHO too!
 
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