grrrr landlady visits....

[AnnO'Neemus]

Erm, that might be ringing alarm bells, about it not being in supremely perfect condition, and not being utterly perfect. I mean, I know neither of those things are reasonable, but if she's a home owner (as opposed to maybe a buy-to-letter) then she might be thinking f*** what kind of state is it in?!?!?!? If she calls, I think you should tone down references to the state of the place or lack of cleanliness or tidiness, and just stick to the inconvenience factor.

 

[lynne8]

yeah, I wouldn't put the bits about the state of the place either. Just a simple "not the most convenient of times being Christmas week and all" and suggest a reschedule. Nothing wrong with you suggesting an alternative date. As far as the Landlord letting themself in, is that allowed? Mine has to give 48 hours notice and I have to give them permission to come in if I'm not there.

 

[topaz]

thanks peeps... she's actually really nice, i liked her and her parents instantly when we met...and there's nothing wrong with the house, it's not untidy or dirty, its just it does look a little extra cluttered with decorations about and i dont think it's the best light to present it in... the landlady already KNOWS there's nothing wrong with the place (she's a buy to letter and has had dodgy tenants in the past) and in her mail she's made that clear ("I'd like to call in sometime over the Christmas period just for a quick check of the house as I'll be back in Cardiff for a bit. I'm not expecting to find any problems at all as I know you are keeping the house as if it were your own.")... and she's right, i AM looking after it as if it were my own... but i still dont want a bloody visit on xmas week when i'm all over the place, my kid and his family will be visiting at some point with my grandaughter (complete with kitchen sink and dog)...ANY other time and it would be ok...

yet i can see her point too, she's visiting her family for a week and just wants a quick check for herself, i know that, but the timing's bloody awful lol... part of me wants to go out of my way (and it IS really out of my way) to accommodate her, on the other hand i REALLY dont want to encourage a habit of visiting every TWO months either. it was only 2 months ago that her parents came to check the place and i have sent her photos of the garden improvements about which she seems particularly happy.

it's a shame... if she insists on visiting i'll be looking for somewhere else to live. and whats more she'd totally recommend me as a tenant!

argggghhhhh!! (and by the way i'd already sent that mail) lol!!

oh well see what happens init!

 

[felixthecat]

Its not unreasonable at all - hope it works out.

I saw my landlady yesterday - she brought us a rather nice bottle of wine for christmas I only every see them to renew the contract or if we've got a problem. They're

 

[topaz]

ok... i've DRAFTED another mail to her.... and THIS time i'd like the urbs advice on it BEFORE i hit send....what do you think?

ello again... when are you going back to london? i must admit i think asking to visit during the xmas week is a particularly unreasonable time to want to do it, however i understand cos i know ur down here for a visit too. This week is particularly filled for me but if ure not going back to london till next monday or tuesday then that might be an option. i'm going to be in mid wales half the time this week, and the other half is going to be with friends that i haven't seen for the last 4/5 months, as well as working MORE hours because i'm the only mug prepared to work on the holiday days.., but at a push i can probably find a few mins spare next monday before i drive back to mid wales again (imagine if ur landlord in london wanted to visit the place you rent this week, how easy or convenient would it be for you...)



failing that your parents are more than welcome round for a visit in january when everythings settled down a bit again. i doubt i'll see you before xmas so i hope you and your parents have a fantastic time and i'm sure we'll catch up soon

sound ok?

 

[beeboo]

topaz - is that email in response to a reply you'd had from her?

If I were your landlady I think your last email would have set some alarm bells ringing for me.

I know everyone knows that people tidy up when the landlord comes round, but usually you at least pretend that it's normally that tidy, rather than tell them you've had to blitz the place in preparation of their arrival

I'd cut out anything from your email about it being unreasonable for her to ask, just simply say you'd be more than happy for her to visit, but you're either away from the house or have visiting guests and it's not possible.

 

[baldrick]

ok... i've DRAFTED another mail to her.... and THIS time i'd like the urbs advice on it BEFORE i hit send....what do you think?



sound ok?

sounds really grumpy tbh!

I'd just say that you're really busy - visiting folks, people coming to see you, also working more hours - and you're really sorry but you won't be able to accommodate her request until the new year.

 

[snadge]

And TRY not to write in text speak, it looks so childish and unprofessional.

 

[beeboo]

I'd edit it like this....

Hello again... When are you going back to london? I understand this week is a good time for you cos i know you're down here for a visit too.

This week is particularly filled for me but if you're not going back to london till next monday or tuesday then that might be an option. i'm going to be in mid wales half the time this week, and the other half is going to be with friends, as well as working extra hours.

However at a push i can probably find a few mins spare next monday before i drive back to mid wales again. Would this be convenient for you?

Failing that your parents are more than welcome round for a visit in january when everythings settled down a bit again.

I doubt i'll see you before xmas so i hope you and your parents have a fantastic time and i'm sure we'll catch up soon

 

[topaz]

I'd edit it like this....

Hello again... When are you going back to london? I understand this week is a good time for you cos i know you're down here for a visit too.

This week is particularly filled for me but if you're not going back to london till next monday or tuesday then that might be an option. i'm going to be in mid wales half the time this week, and the other half is going to be with friends, as well as working extra hours.

However at a push i can probably find a few mins spare next monday before i drive back to mid wales again. Would this be convenient for you?

Failing that your parents are more than welcome round for a visit in january when everythings settled down a bit again.

I doubt i'll see you before xmas so i hope you and your parents have a fantastic time and i'm sure we'll catch up soon

thanks!!

(re the text speak thing, the nature of our communication thus far has been that informal so there's no real need to change it)

(and i still think she'd think it unreasonable of her own landlord to expect to visit this week too)

as if i dont have enough to do this week boooooo!! lol!!

 

[LilMissHissyFit]

what you need to remember though- shes not your friend. No matter how 'friendly' shes been so far you shouldnt treat her as a friend and communicate with her on the same basis you would a friend.
Shes your Landlady- you have a business arrangement. IT doesnt matter one jot whether you think she would find it unreasonable for her landlord/lady to want to visit xmas week or whatever. If she wants to come then all you can do is communicate with her in as much of a professional manner as you can and offer her some times when she can come and view HER property...if its difficult for you then thats unfortunate but you have to stop thinking of this as a friends type arrangement and treating it as such.

 

[donkey]

good post