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Discussion in 'Dulwich Hamlet FC' started by editor, May 2, 2014.

  1. clog

    clog have that you c

    I've asked before for statements to be made that sexist behaviour and sexual harassment aren't acceptable at Hamlet, just as a reminder, in the same way we say racism and homophobia aren't acceptable. What else could we do? Well, Southwark Council has a women's safety charter, and while DHFC isn't a night out, a lot of the same principles apply: Let's talk about...women's safety | Southwark Council and as DHFC has licensed premises maybe it could sign up?
    There's also a voluntary scheme which I've seen in bars where women can let staff know if there is a problem in a subtle way - I can't remember the exact name of that scheme and can't find it online at the moment.

    There's also Women in Football, though that is for staff etc rather than fans: Women in Football - Sexist Incidents

    This is just off the top of my head but I'm sure there is more. Put it this way there is more to it than a nice kit for IWD, as I'm sure you know!
     
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  2. editor

    editor Taffus Maximus

    Might this be worth a thread of its own? Ensuring that Champion Hill is welcome to everyone is really important, so perhaps this shouldn't be buried away in a 'general chat' forum?
     
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  3. Brix69

    Brix69 Well-Known Member

    & how would you feel if a bloke had the tag line, 'have that you c' ?
     
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  4. clog

    clog have that you c

    Given its context, I wouldn't particularly care to be honest. Nice try at diverting the conversation away from the real issue.
     
  5. clog

    clog have that you c

    Possibly, though I'm not going to start it myself as I expect it would go down like a cup of cold sick given the responses above.
     
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  6. Latahs

    Latahs Well-Known Member

    I'll recommend the Supporters' Trust look into pressing for initiatives like the Southwark Safety Charter to be incorporated into the culture of DHFC.
    It is also my understanding that the incident above is a police matter and so would urge that people are prudent about discussing it.
    This does not however mean that we cannot/should not be absolutely pro-active in pursuing a better culture, right now.

    For starters i'd suggest that we drop the sort of sentiment that motivated that ridiculously simplistic 'what if a bloke said that..' rhetoric. It bears no comparison that's the point.
     
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  7. Brix69

    Brix69 Well-Known Member

    The sort of sentiment that motivated the 'ridiculously simplistic' comment was that statements like 'have that you c' shouldn't be used, no matter by who, & hopefully if someone was using it at Champion Hill they would be called out for it.
     
  8. Latahs

    Latahs Well-Known Member

    It was at the Earlsmead I believe and was the basis of forward the Hamlets brand for like a year...
     
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  9. darryl

    darryl this wasn't supposed to happen

    ...and has precisely fuck all to do with the topic at hand, which is the harassment of women at football.
     
  10. YTC

    YTC Human Man

  11. Fingers

    Fingers From Tuscany SE22

    Needs a quick typo edit mate

    "supply us with whatever information and evidence they could, so that we could ascertain wether the stadium ban"
     
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  12. darryl

    darryl this wasn't supposed to happen

    When good people make a mistake, it's better to speak up than stay silent. So...

    I find that statement really troubling. Whatever has happened, I don't think referring to the individual concerned as "the twitter user/account owner" throughout really demonstrates that "these things" are being taken "incredibly seriously".
     
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  13. Dulwich Mishi

    Dulwich Mishi Old Skool Terrace Dinosaur-embracing the new-veau!

    Personally, I think it better not to name the accuser, or accused, as both have accepted cautions from that, & therefore it is quite minor for it be dealt with by cautions, under the eyes of the law, from both parties.
    darryl So what do you think the Club should have done, if you were dealing with things, if the Club has done wrong in this?
     
  14. darryl

    darryl this wasn't supposed to happen

    Never change, Mishi.
     
  15. clog

    clog have that you c

    The statement has been written by men for men. What a surprise.
     
  16. YTC

    YTC Human Man

  17. YTC

    YTC Human Man

    darryl - totally taken on board, we're not exactly trained in this. The thinking behind it was to keep her id private. Rightly or wrongly. Felt that was the best thing to do.
     
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  18. Dulwich Mishi

    Dulwich Mishi Old Skool Terrace Dinosaur-embracing the new-veau!

    That's because there are currently no women on the Football Committee. Every year the Football Committee put out an appeal for new members. No women have come forward. It's a bit harsh to blame the Committee for that, from where I'm sitting?
     
  19. Dulwich Mishi

    Dulwich Mishi Old Skool Terrace Dinosaur-embracing the new-veau!

    Sorry, I genuinely don't understand... You're criticising something, and I'm genuinely asking what you would have done, and you give that response. It seems, if I can paraphrase slightly, 'you never change either'.

    The original comment wasn't meant as a pop at you, but a genuine question...
     
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  20. B.I.G

    B.I.G Well-Known Member

    You should be having a pop at them. He is suggesting we should have publicised someone's name, which is mad.
     
  21. Lucy Fur

    Lucy Fur Well-Known Member

    Bit patriarchal that mate....reign it in.
     
  22. darryl

    darryl this wasn't supposed to happen

    Bloody women, eh?

    Tell you what, how about the next time there's an appeal for new members, say there will be two places on the committee reserved for women, and say you actively want to change things. Be the change you want to see.

    I didn't, actually, as anyone with a working grasp of English will note. But hey, someone else to deflect the issue!

    I get it, and it's not the kind of thing that anyone wants to have to write, and it's a legal minefield too. But just saying "the complainant" or "the individual" would have been better, as it looks as if the club's attitude is "bloody Twitter, if that had never existed, we'd never had this allegation and it would all be alright". Which I know isn't your intention, but it's possible to read that into it.
     
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  23. B.I.G

    B.I.G Well-Known Member

    How would you suggest referring to them then? If not by their name.
     
  24. B.I.G

    B.I.G Well-Known Member

    They didnt make a complaint did they. They put it on twitter. And referring to them as the individual makes them look like a third party.

    Better to stick to facts. Call them what they are. A user of twitter.
     
  25. YTC

    YTC Human Man

    darryl - taken on board. Certainly wasn’t the intention when drafted but can’t change now. Hopefully we’ll never have to draft anything like this ever again, but we should put some structures into place incase it ever does.
     
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  26. Dulwich Mishi

    Dulwich Mishi Old Skool Terrace Dinosaur-embracing the new-veau!

    "Bloody women, eh?

    Tell you what, how about the next time there's an appeal for new members, say there will be two places on the committee reserved for women, and say you actively want to change things. Be the change you want to see."

    No, NOT 'bloody women eh'...I was merely stating why the statement was written by men...BECAUSE there are no women on the Football Committee...it would have been impossible for one to do so!

    Thank you for your suggestion, it is a good one, apologies for not considering this before, I'll take responsibility for that as a man.

    But, to treat your comment less flippantly, otherwise I'll be acting just like you, I am certain we will take this on board when the annual appeal for volunteers goes out in the close-season.

    But, I would also suggest, my personal interpretation, NOT any current Club policy, is that is someone comes forward and they not deemed a suitable candidate they would not be invited to fulfil a Committee role. If they do then, if there is one vacancy and both a man and a woman candidate, if that's the right way to phrase it, I'm sure you can put me right on how to be more gender specific, then the woman would get the position. And likewise if there was more than one gap around the Boardroom table.

    I am sure there will be a vacancy or two, over the next summer, so hopefully people will come forward, including female applicants.

    That's me finished on this subject, I hope you accept my responses in the way they're mean, which in the main I think, regardless of some of the stuff I post when a combination of being busy/ angry/ wound up/other things on my mind, most of my replies on Urban are as 'rational' as anyone else.
     
  27. Pink Panther

    Pink Panther Well-Known Member

    Does the committee have a fixed number of members? I always assumed it was looking for more people with a broader range of ideas and initiatives and was struggling to keep the numbers up.
     
  28. Dulwich Mishi

    Dulwich Mishi Old Skool Terrace Dinosaur-embracing the new-veau!

    To be honest I'm not entirely sure if there's a set higher limit. But if it's too many it could become a bit too unwieldy to get things done, I suppose. But, as I understand it, anyone is welcome, as long as they have something positive to offer.
     
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  29. editor

    editor Taffus Maximus

    If you like, and if it's deemed appropriate/useful/timely, I'd be happy to run something on Buzz that says we're looking for committee members and, given the traditional male-heavy nature of football committees, perhaps it could be strongly emphasised that the role is open to anyone?

    Just an idea.
     
  30. Dulwich Mishi

    Dulwich Mishi Old Skool Terrace Dinosaur-embracing the new-veau!

    The Committee always look for new blood in the close-season, when they do it will be mentioned as always, on the Club website. Perhaps, when we do the piece, we might post it on here first, provisionally, so the wording will be suitable to all.
     
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