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Finishing with Someone - How do you make sure?

I'm still not convinced that you actually do want to finish with her.

^THIS^

The only way to finish with someone is with some conviction, you have to want to do it, you have to want to end the relationship and be willing to not see that person anymore if thats what it takes.

Thats the only answer. It hurts, you feel like shit but its only you that can make it happen.
 
So what are you going to do now yelkcub?

Are you both living together?

Yeah, in my house. Luckily the flat she owns with her brother now has a spare room with the lodger having moved out. The money I gave her will cover her half of the mortgage long enough for it not to be my problem anymore
 
Definitely do now. Maybe not before when she kept convincing me she'd change I thought I might get the good her most of time.

People don't really change much fundamentally. They develop if they want to, but not fundamentally change. Still less can you change someone else. Until you accept that, properly accept that, you'll keep going back for more.
 
Yeah, in my house. Luckily the flat she owns with her brother now has a spare room with the lodger having moved out. The money I gave her will cover her half of the mortgage long enough for it not to be my problem anymore

This is similar to the situation i find myself in...living at my BFs gaff, knowing deep down that it's over. Unfortunately i don't have a brother with a spare room. Or a soon-to-be ex willing to give me 10K to fuck off :D
 
you and I are the past c'est la vie, much respect girl
but now you're my ex-girl & I'm out with the next girl out...


guru tells you how its done
 
My blow-ups with the current Mrs Y have been well documented on here. I've made a calm and considered decision that I definitely need to finish with her once and for all. Not after an argument, not after drinking or coming down off drugs.

I've looked at rationally and logically and even emotionally, and it's no-brainer.

Every time I've ever finsihed with her she's wormed her way back in. How can I ensure it's permanent.

Sleep with her sister not an acceptable answer btw.
neckshot
 
Get out now. Sympathy is no good for either of you and the longer it goes the worse it'll be to end.

Which is where I am

It's the boy. He's so beautiful and it's so much harder when it crosses borders. She said she wanted to take him back to China and then I'd never see him.

Not sure I could bear that even if I met someone I loved more, I'm afraid.
 
It's the boy. He's so beautiful and it's so much harder when it crosses borders. She said she wanted to take him back to China and then I'd never see him.

Not sure I could bear that even if I met someone I loved more, I'm afraid.

A whole different scenario then sir, with which I can only wish you the best as I have no relevant experience to draw upon.

Best of.
 
Cheers. If I get the job in China which I've just had the interview for maybe I'll feel happier over there than I did before and can do more travel to remote places, which is really the thing I love. Rather than the desire to find someone else. I mean it's doing that which really makes me happy the most. So it would be better than before.

:hmm:
 
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