I was just talking from my own experience, and asking if the clear structural imbalance in society, business, media, etc is entirely replicated in the home/relationships, and why. Would I argue the point about rhetorical questions at home if it was upsetting my wife? Would I in the pub with a male friend? Would a female English teacher on these boards? Why do I care so much? Etc.No. He keeps saying that he doesn't recognise the issues in his own circles. It's a variation of NAM which minimises the main points being made and could itself have a silencing effect. There is no useful response to his myopia. I really do hope that he continues to live in this comfortable bubble cos the big picture of everyday womanhood is much nastier outside it.