Really? Women are socialised to avoid conflict, so how many times does your wife roll her eyes and go upstairs, or say ‘oh nevermimd? ’It must be said that I'm only speaking about couples where I've known both people.
Was talking about it with my best mate in the pub the other day and while we acknowledged silencing of women in the home happens in impossible to calculate amounts it wasn't something we recognised from any of our past relationships, our families, etc. General feeling was that our experience of this stuff is that societally it's systemic and embedded; in the house fellas do what they're told.