Feminism and the silencing of women
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JudithB
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And there I was about to tuck into a meal for one and tune into the latest RTD drama (it's as good as would be expected. Transhumanism, lols)
Where does one begin with discussing women being silenced? By thanking friendofdorothy for beginning this thread on my behalf. Women need to not only speak up but to also amplify the voices especially those of women who help them.
As we navigate a world that now has so many different means for every person to express and say what they feel, I believe I am right in asserting that women are more than any other group, shut down and silenced.
I have thoughts on why this is, but I am going to take my m41 out of the microwave and ask Alexa to find RTD for me, assured that this thread will be read and women especially will comment on why they think women get shut down.
Are we the granddaughters of the witches they didnt burn?
(if there's a snazzy way of adding a link, do tell, I may not have cast enough spells to know Are witches the ultimate feminists?)
Where does one begin with discussing women being silenced? By thanking friendofdorothy for beginning this thread on my behalf. Women need to not only speak up but to also amplify the voices especially those of women who help them.
As we navigate a world that now has so many different means for every person to express and say what they feel, I believe I am right in asserting that women are more than any other group, shut down and silenced.
I have thoughts on why this is, but I am going to take my m41 out of the microwave and ask Alexa to find RTD for me, assured that this thread will be read and women especially will comment on why they think women get shut down.
Are we the granddaughters of the witches they didnt burn?
(if there's a snazzy way of adding a link, do tell, I may not have cast enough spells to know Are witches the ultimate feminists?)
mango5
Endeavour era
For me it's about not being heard, individually and collectively. See here
Rebecca Solnit on Breaking Silence as Our Mightiest Weapon Against Oppression
LRB · Mary Beard · The Public Voice of Women
Rebecca Solnit on Breaking Silence as Our Mightiest Weapon Against Oppression
LRB · Mary Beard · The Public Voice of Women
friendofdorothy
Solidarity against neoliberalism!
I was particularly thinking of the ton of abuse our female mps get all the time on social media. I'm pleased that despite the abusers best efforts that they haven't managed to shut up Diane Abbott, but I wonder how many younger, less confident women have been permanently silenced or put off going into politics in the first place.
friendofdorothy
Solidarity against neoliberalism!
I love Mary Beard. I've heard her talking about the abuse she receives in such calm humourous way
on the TV
on the TV
eg
friendofdorothy
Solidarity against neoliberalism!
I find this particularly frightening
CRI
Registered Chooser
What do you mean by "RTD?" Google gives me the Regional Transport District for part of Colorado, Resistance Temperature Detector (which is something scientific) and Real Time Data. I can't imagine it's any of those. Not sure what M41 is, other than a postcode in Greater Manchester. I'm old, but at least I do know what an Alexa is (but would never want to have one!)
Is it a TV programme? Or is this just a thread that's only for people "in the know," and since I'm not, I should buzz off.
And also curious why you asked someone else to start a thread for you?
friendofdorothy
Solidarity against neoliberalism!
I thought it worth quoting this here too
Women may not be entirely silenced (at least in western culture) but men do keep trying their best to out talk /overtalk us
NAMNAW of course
She knitted in red when men talked and green when women talked. the colour of the knitting says it all.
Women may not be entirely silenced (at least in western culture) but men do keep trying their best to out talk /overtalk us
NAMNAW of course
CRI
Registered Chooser
Ah, I saw that. Often knit in meetings myself, but this was a clever use of the needles. I'm so old, it made me think of studies of Cline and Spender from the early 80's, and research from Kramarae (who was my college roommate's mother, interestingly enough.)I thought it worth quoting this here too She knitted in red when men talked and green when women talked. the colour of the knitting says it all.
Women may not be entirely silenced (at least in western culture) but men do keep trying their best to out talk /overtalk us
NAMNAW of course
friendofdorothy
Solidarity against neoliberalism!
You're probably no older than me - if I ever read those I've forgotten - so please tell us why /quote a bit.
From personal experience I'd say while we hear more female voices on tv/ news etc, I dont think it's 50/50 yet. I would say that not that has changed since early 80s, in so many ways.
CRI
Registered Chooser
Okay, I'll put down my coat for a minute
This is from memory - Cline and Spender's "Reflecting Men At Twice Their Natural Size" (no doubt long out of print - was from early/mid 80's I think) is a collection of essays. One that I remember talked about the proportion of verbal space in conversations between women and men - something like 30/70 in most of the studies. When women tried to achieve 50/50, the men they were talking to became irritable, said they weren't listening to them, etc., but in none of the cases did they ever achieve more than 40% of the verbal space. (Figures are a bit shonky but the book is packed away!)
In terms of representation on TV, I don't know that I can comment properly as I haven't had a telly for I think 12 years and didn't watch it much for a few years before that. In terms of news though, what I have seen is more representation of women, and diversity generally (e.g. age, ethnicity, etc.) in front of the camera, but plenty of reports show that isn't always so behind the camera / elsewhere in production. Same for filmmaking - few exceptions like Ava DuVernay who seriously takes representation to heart in production of all her work.
Manter
Lunch Mob
That is exactly what I was about to post. There have been a couple of similar things recently and when you listen to it, it’s stark. I was listening to the red box politics podcast the other day and the number of times men spoke over the women- really tooth-grindingly annoyingI thought it worth quoting this here too She knitted in red when men talked and green when women talked. the colour of the knitting says it all.
Women may not be entirely silenced (at least in western culture) but men do keep trying their best to out talk /overtalk us
NAMNAW of course
ViolentPanda
Hardly getting over it.
And yet gets mentioned in inverse proportion to mentions of women speaking over men (which rarely happens), especially in the media. It's a dire situation.
baldrick
ooooh timewarp
On the subject of women receiving abuse on social media far more than men, I thought this was an interesting blog, which I read yesterday (posted on Facebook by a friend angry at how she is spoken to at work)
Stop asking me ‘what about men?’
Stop asking me ‘what about men?’
Poot
Everyone's a superhero, everyone's a Captain Kirk
That's a really interesting article and one that should be read by everyone shouting about men every time women's issues are raised. From someone who has experience of both sides.
CRI
Registered Chooser
There is so much I hate about social media. I lurk rather than post, but it's absolutely ripe for bigotry and abuse. I much preferred the anonymous message boards of the "old days" when you could choose what if anything to disclose about yourself in discussions. There was flaming and trolling, but it seemed less personal - easier to dismiss and ignore. Pretty sure I joined here after a message board/site I was on closed and this was one of the few left and within a few years, most online discussion seemed to move over to Twitter and Facebook. 
Interesting observation about Urban though. I'd never stated whether I was a man or a woman. But, I noticed a huge difference in the way some people (mostly men, or members I figured out from context were men) engaged with me depending on if they thought I was a man or a woman. Really, really striking.
Interesting observation about Urban though. I'd never stated whether I was a man or a woman. But, I noticed a huge difference in the way some people (mostly men, or members I figured out from context were men) engaged with me depending on if they thought I was a man or a woman. Really, really striking.
ElizabethofYork
Witchsmeller Pursuivant
S☼I
ifyalikeitthenushouldaputadonkonit
So it's about attempts to silence, abuse and harass women who have public voices and platforms...academics, politicians, businesswoman, in the media, etc?
CRI
Registered Chooser
It was something I noticed in discussions on the American political threads mostly. There were members who clearly disagreed with me, but the tone of the disagreement changed considerably when they decided (no idea how they did) that I was "she" and not "he." Definitely became more personalised and dismissive when I was perceived to be a woman and not a man.
(No, not going to trawl back for examples and no, can't remember names as have had most of them on ignore for a few years now.)
Yes. I have to agree there. I am fairly sure women are hounded off the male dominated P&P boards (Bimble comes to mind immediately - the scathing hatefulness almost sent me packing in sympathy) and for sure Cri, while I may not always agree with you, I have been amazed at your fortitude in staying the course. Being cowardly, I always preface any of my statements with a 'I am a bit naive but'...and then feel enraged with myself. And if I do post something a bit 'out there', I find myself unwilling to reopen the posts because I just don't want to deal with shit. How to deal with this? While I take responsibility for my own fearfulness, I don't really feel as though this is an expression of my authentic sense...but who would be so foolish as to leave yourself even more exposed. Academics in the media, while they may be more viisble, also have a fund of power which is not available for the likes of me and other, largely silent, often older women...but it seems that to stay 'safe' we actually have to rescind any power we may try to claim...and sneak around in a froth of diplomacy and ameliorating statements. Gah, it is so enraging that I take the easy option to retire from visibility...and yet, it was not always so. While I have better things to do than lie around reading dense political texts (written largely by men), I do have a full lifetime of engagement and activism...and yet, I just recoil at the vitriolic 'cunting off' that goes on. Unless you have the stomach for confrontation and hostility, there are definitely no-go areas.
I would never put anyone on ignore though...as, horrible though it might be, to see their dispiriting guff in black and white, it is always better to stay informed.
eta: when it comes down to taking up verbal and physical space, I am not going to add the NAM disclaimer either...since this is something I see daily, even in my own tiny sphere with men I love. It actually IS ALL MEN.
I would never put anyone on ignore though...as, horrible though it might be, to see their dispiriting guff in black and white, it is always better to stay informed.
eta: when it comes down to taking up verbal and physical space, I am not going to add the NAM disclaimer either...since this is something I see daily, even in my own tiny sphere with men I love. It actually IS ALL MEN.
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That's an excellent article baldrick . Am I okay to share on my FB?
Cloo
Surfeit of lampreys
It is infuriating when you come across a man in online discourse who is not right about something. But you know he's just so much surer than you are that he's right about it and has all the facts, and it just feels not worth the fucking effort, plus what if he does bring out a killer 'What about [thing you know nothing about] eh? Huh?! Huh?!' argument somehow.
baldrick
ooooh timewarp
Of course!
baldrick
ooooh timewarp
I get this at work a fair amount. I'm sure most if not all women do. I was in a meeting with four men, all senior to me tbf, but it was my specialist subject. And I was trying to get them to understand the solution they wanted, wasn't actually a solution at all, it would cost money and not actually solve the problem.
And they just said 'well the company says it can do X'. There's no bloody way it can do X unless they've somehow invented a portal into the future (and if they had, it would cost a lot more than this system does). Did they listen? Did they fuck.
trabuquera
Modesty Bag
"You're silencing me!"If we were having this discussion on Twitter or something you just know plenty of guys would be along to inform us that no, 'It's white men that are being silenced, I tell you!'
No mate, we're just suggesting you become a proportionate part of the discourse for once
"No, I'm just asking you to PIPE DOWN FOR A VERY SHORT WHILE and let someone else talk for one minute uninterrrupted..."
This is reality.
