Expectations of guests
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If I'm doing a dinner party and someone wants to drink beer instead of wine, I'd expect them to bring it with them, but if they didn't, they'd be welcome to the wine ... I don't drink beer so it's never in the house.
Most would turn up with wine if that's what they drink, but there's always wine in so I wouldn't notice if they didn't.
The only time I'd be a bit disappointed is if I had been unable to get a particular thing I needed and a friend had offered to bring it then didn't. Unlikely it would be something critical or that I couldn't work round it not being there though
Most would turn up with wine if that's what they drink, but there's always wine in so I wouldn't notice if they didn't.
The only time I'd be a bit disappointed is if I had been unable to get a particular thing I needed and a friend had offered to bring it then didn't. Unlikely it would be something critical or that I couldn't work round it not being there though
mentalchik
"I say we take off and nuke the site from orbit."
I haven't had guests round for at least a couple of years now..........aint been to anyones house either........
usually i would probably take a bottle (some pop for me coz i generally don't drink)........
that's it really !
usually i would probably take a bottle (some pop for me coz i generally don't drink)........
that's it really !
I never expect anyone to bring anything to mine, unless they have some kind of special requirements... I've almost always got tea, coffee, fruit juice, vodka, red wine and various mixers, so generally if people want white wine, or some other spirits they bring that... and one friend who always drinks green tea, but I've bought some for when he comes over now though.
One thing that has pissed me off in the past though, is when I've gone over to a mates house for a chinese and a socialise with the guys... I've taken Corona cos it's the only beer I'll drink (a pack of six bottles usually), everyone else has bought some crap like Red Stripe and then helped themselves to the Corona as soon as they arrive. If I was less skint I'll take more, but as it is, I'll normally get one or two bottles of it, them have to switch to tea.
One thing that has pissed me off in the past though, is when I've gone over to a mates house for a chinese and a socialise with the guys... I've taken Corona cos it's the only beer I'll drink (a pack of six bottles usually), everyone else has bought some crap like Red Stripe and then helped themselves to the Corona as soon as they arrive. If I was less skint I'll take more, but as it is, I'll normally get one or two bottles of it, them have to switch to tea.
Looby
Well-Known Member
Our group of friends tend to socialise at each others houses rather than going out and we always take what we drink (occasionally we organise what to bring in advance if we're having cocktails). If it's just a get together then generally we'll all bring some sort of nibbles. Last week we went to a mates and someone brought cheese and biscuits, someone else took crisps and stuff, the host made quesadillas and I baked cookies.)
For a dinner party then I might offer to take dessert but generally just take a bottle and maybe chocs or flowers.
None of us have a lot of money so it's cheaper for all of us to share the cost.
A few weeks ago a friend got married and there wasn't an afternoon do so madamv had about 20 of us round and we all made food to take, it was great.
I'd never turn up anywhere empty handed.
For a dinner party then I might offer to take dessert but generally just take a bottle and maybe chocs or flowers.
None of us have a lot of money so it's cheaper for all of us to share the cost.
A few weeks ago a friend got married and there wasn't an afternoon do so madamv had about 20 of us round and we all made food to take, it was great.
I'd never turn up anywhere empty handed.
I expect my guests to treat my home as they would their own. I invited them so it's my treat - if they bring something that's a nice gesture but if they don't it don't matter.
One that amuses my other half is that if someone falls asleep I take it as a compliment - it means they felt really at ease and at home.
One that amuses my other half is that if someone falls asleep I take it as a compliment - it means they felt really at ease and at home.
kittyP
Pluviophile
With the people I know well, I usually call them to say "we have X in booze wise" then if they want something different or more they can pop to th offy on the way, but they don't have to.
Most of the people (in fact I think all) would naturally bring some beers or a bottle if coming over, dinner or no dinner, its just what we all do but if someone turned up with nothing, I would think nothing of it and they can have their fill of what we have here as they are guests and me casa su casa and all that.
I always take something (99% of the time booze) when going to someone elses house.
Most of the people (in fact I think all) would naturally bring some beers or a bottle if coming over, dinner or no dinner, its just what we all do but if someone turned up with nothing, I would think nothing of it and they can have their fill of what we have here as they are guests and me casa su casa and all that.
I always take something (99% of the time booze) when going to someone elses house.
kittyP
Pluviophile
zenie
>^^<
i've been conditioned not to go to peoples houses empty handed - usually i'll take a bottle of wine, or pudding or mixers to make a cocktail or very occasionally a bunch of flowers. However i don't expect people to bring anything but usually they do.
That said we do have family over for dinner a lot and our siblings don't usually bring anything or reciprocate with invites for food at theirs. Apart from my BiL who we feed in exchange for plumbing work but then we don't invite them round for the bottle of wine or the return invite but so we can see them and i enjoy cooking much more than any of they do!
My mum never comes to ours empty handed and usually brings totally bonkers things that she'll have found reduced somewhere that she think i might like (last time it was a bottle of balsamic glaze and some celery seeds
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We have friends who invite us over for dinner a lot as they cant come to us due to baby sitting complications so we take wine pudding if they make the main meal or if we get a takeaway as a thank you for hosting us.
That said we do have family over for dinner a lot and our siblings don't usually bring anything or reciprocate with invites for food at theirs. Apart from my BiL who we feed in exchange for plumbing work
but then we don't invite them round for the bottle of wine or the return invite but so we can see them and i enjoy cooking much more than any of they do!My mum never comes to ours empty handed and usually brings totally bonkers things that she'll have found reduced somewhere that she think i might like (last time it was a bottle of balsamic glaze and some celery seeds
)We have friends who invite us over for dinner a lot as they cant come to us due to baby sitting complications so we take wine pudding if they make the main meal or if we get a takeaway as a thank you for hosting us.
scifisam
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It depends how long they're staying and how frequently they come round. If they're staying for several days, I don't expect them to at least work out how to use the kettle themselves. I'd also expect them to bring a bit of their own food if they're staying for longer than a week - especially since they're frequently just staying with us because of our location, not because they like us so very much.
Booze - well, they're welcome to some of mine, as long as they don't take the piss.
Friends who visit a couple of times a week or more don't get treated like guests, but members of the household.
I also expect them to be nice to my daughter. One guest is uninvited because he wouldn't even acknowledge her existence. I don't mean playing with her non-stop, but saying hello and so on, just like they would to anyone else in the house.
Booze - well, they're welcome to some of mine, as long as they don't take the piss.
Friends who visit a couple of times a week or more don't get treated like guests, but members of the household.
I also expect them to be nice to my daughter. One guest is uninvited because he wouldn't even acknowledge her existence. I don't mean playing with her non-stop, but saying hello and so on, just like they would to anyone else in the house.
kittyP
Pluviophile
*breathes sigh of relief*
Well you didn't exactly fall asleep
but I take all of that kind of behaviour as a complement 
Kanda
Diving wanker
This is one of the reasons I haven't had people round in yonks
It's the reason I am going to Vegas for Xmas again
Fuck 'em all
I'm not fussed if people bring stuff, I usually ask them to bring booze, as we tend to get through theirs and ours if it's a normal dinner. But I'm really keen on taking/bringing stuff if people have me over - I feel mortified showing up without something. I love having people over for dinner - unfortunately, we have no table so people have to sit on our couch and cushions etc. I really want our next house to have more space so we can have people over for dinner properly Fortunately, I'm a pretty good cook so this makes up for the lack of table, I like to think.
Fortunately, I'm a pretty good cook so this makes up for the lack of table, I like to think.
