Escorting- anyone tried it?

[chico enrico]

An ex of mine did it for a while. got approached by an agency based in westbourne park while she was dancing at the astral and Rhinos. made about £400 a job (think the agency got about the same). was quite surprising how many 'celeb' types you see in the sunday papers were on their books too. suppose that was what was regarded as the 'high end' and it could be pretty shit if you're just doing sweaty , coked up businessmen in holiday inns for £150 a pop. and i think at the end of the day it does take it's toll mentally so you've got to be pretty thick-skinned/ able to dis-associate yourself to be able to come out the other side of it psychologically unscathed.

 

[stuff_it]

An ex of mine did it for a while. got approached by an agency based in westbourne park while she was dancing at the astral and Rhinos. made about £400 a job (think the agency got about the same). was quite surprising how many 'celeb' types you see in the sunday papers were on their books too. suppose that was what was regarded as the 'high end' and it could be pretty shit if you're just doing sweaty , coked up businessmen in holiday inns for £150 a pop. and i think at the end of the day it does take it's toll mentally so you've got to be pretty thick-skinned/ able to dis-associate yourself to be able to come out the other side of it psychologically unscathed.

I think I'm more in the coked up businessmen range than the celeb £400 an hour, sadly....unless they want an enema.

I just sthink it might be nice to enjoy my natural money fecklessness in stead of worrying about it always.

 

[dada]

met a couple at an indian restaurant in holland.
they ran an escort company and wanted me to do their website.
they were ever so clueless, thought i overpriced them.
too bad cos it could be an interesting project.
that's the closest experience i had on escorting.

 

[stuff_it]

I've got all sorts of positive plans for what I'd LIKE to do with my life, but they all require me to have more free time and money, and I'm getting on (30) to be saving for years before starting that part time degree, etc.

Anyway, I've got an appointemnt with a female run agency on Saturday, so we shall see. They might not like my hair or something.

 

[*Miss Daisy*]

Ooo keep us posted!

 

[Yelkcub]

Did it three times as a student. Two out of the three women I went out with clearly expected sex. I slept with the one I would have slept with anyway and refused the money after.

It all felt extremely uncomfortable and wasn't the dream ticket I'd imagined previously.

 

[stuff_it]

Did it three times as a student. Two out of the three women I went out with clearly expected sex. I slept with the one I would have slept with anyway and refused the money after.

It all felt extremely uncomfortable and wasn't the dream ticket I'd imagined previously.

Daft not to take the money! I bet you took the cash of the one you didnt' shag- the money's for your TIME silly!

 

[Johnny Canuck3]

I knew a couple of girls who did it. One was very pretty and young, and just went to hotels on high paying dates, at first. By the end, she was on the street, then became a crack addict, then dead.

Another one, really pretty also, but a little messed up about sex. She just shit and pissed on people for money, no penetrative sex. She made big bucks, but her boyfriend only had a part time job. Last I heard, she got beat up so bad she needed a colostomy bag. That was a few years ago, so she might be ok now.

Another one, came out of the north, started as a waitress, then went to escorting. She kept it together for a long time. I think it's because she had a kid. But when the kid grew up and left home, the mom became an addict, and ended up in the bughouse. It's too bad.

This isn't meant to be a scare story or anything, it's just what happened. I'm sure there are lots of other ones who are perfectly ok.

 

[stuff_it]

I always seem to end up shagging/ going out with older men that I don't particularly fancy, so why ont get paid for it?

(And also like I said, it will stop me getting in another relationship so easily- which I could do with judging by my track record.)

I'm aware of what can happen but I've been on and off the street and on site, etc for about 12 years so I'm pretty aware of all the potential drug probs etc, I don't think escorting woul make me any more/less likelyy to go down that route than a lot of other events/times in my life.

 

[5t3IIa]

I always seem to end up shagging/ going out with older men that I don't particularly fancy, so why ont get paid for it?

(And also like I said, it will stop me getting in another relationship so easily- which I could do with judging by my track record.)

I'm aware of what can happen but I've been on and off the street and on site, etc for about 12 years so I'm pretty aware of all the potential drug probs etc, I don't think escorting woul make me any more/less likelyy to go down that route than a lot of other events/times in my life.

You made any further moves on this? Like got a number of a place or anything?

I'm dead curious

 

[stuff_it]

You made any further moves on this? Like got a number of a place or anything?

I'm dead curious

I've got an appointment with a female run agency tomorrow afternoon.

/stuffy washes her lacy keks

 

[chainsaw cat]

Well? C'mon fess up.

I'll give you £2.59 for a bj and all your self respect.


essentially, that's your proposed career.

 

[stuff_it]

I'll give you £2.59 for a bj and all your self respect.


essentially, that's your proposed career.

You need to move that decimal place to the right a bit

 

[stuff_it]

ANyway I was only thinking of doing it part time, I want to keep up my 'other' career, and maybe do degree next year.

 

[Maggot]

I always seem to end up shagging/ going out with older men that I don't particularly fancy, so why ont get paid for it?

But why do you do that in the first place?

 

[indigo4]

stuff it...

how about being a champagne waitress in one of those bars in Mayfair..you sit looking pretty on a bar stool and a fat business man comes over then you get him to buy champers, pour yours in the plant pot because you cant be too drunk(although that part would clearly be a problem for me...!), ...and you get £50 for every bottle they drink ... some girls would go off with these men but you don't have to.

i didnt do this but a friend did, she would make about £400 every weekend.

Anyway good luck...

 

[Julie]

Good god no.

I can't imagine anything more hideous than being fucked by strangers, one after the other. And I don't care how "liberated" sex workers profess to be, or that in fact it is they who are in control.

One word - bullshit.

 

[stuff_it]

Good god no.

I can't imagine anything more hideous than being fucked by strangers, one after the other. And I don't care how "liberated" sex workers profess to be, or that in fact it is they who are in control.

One word - bullshit.

Um, that wuld be working in a brothel. I was thinking more of keeping up my usual job and 'escorting' at most 4 people a week.

I don't live in London anymore or I'd be at the 'chapmaigne bar' now!

 

[mikeinworthing]

Originally Posted by chainsaw cat
I'll give you £2.59 for a bj and all your self respect.

You need to move that decimal place to the right a bit

£25.90

Sounds like a bargain - is that plus VAT?

 

[stuff_it]

£25.90

Sounds like a bargain - is that plus VAT?

Bit more to the right!

WEnt to se the lady today,she was dead nice, I wouldn't be working for at least a week or two, she likes to give people a cooling off so she doesn't get people who don't really want to. Seems pretty reasonable to me.

 

[5t3IIa]

Bit more to the right!

WEnt to se the lady today,she was dead nice, I wouldn't be working for at least a week or two, she likes to give people a cooling off so she doesn't get people who don't really want to. Seems pretty reasonable to me.

Did she give you a job description, like? Did she mention sex and stuff? Tell the story properly!

 

[Louloubelle]

When I worked in the NHS a lot of our clients were working girls, many of them were 'escorts' and I got to know a lot of them quite well.

My understanding is this

1. While this was a while ago and things might have changed since then, all the escort agencies our clients worked for were a cover for prostitution. I would take any claims that an escort just goes out for dinner and no sex with a large pinch of salt.

2. The women who earned the most money were a) very beautiful, b) as young as legally possible, the highest earners were 18 - 23 years old, over 25 and they were considered past it, and c) well spoken, intelligent and able to dress and speak in such a way as to convey the impression of being 'classy'. Being multi-lingual was a distinct advantage

3. There is always a demand for new women and escort agencies will take on new women who don't meet the criteria for high earners, however once they have 'done the rounds' of the regular customers they tended not to get many more bookings. This could be devastating for women who make decent money for the first 2 weeks, spend it on designer clothes as an investment for work but end up waiting for a phone call that doesn't come.

4. For the women that do make decent money (the minority) the work is very addictive as it's hard to think about doing a 'normal' job as the money does not compare.

5. The women have serious problems with their personal relationships as either their boyfriend 'supports' them in their work and ends up being kept by them (there's a name for that) or doesn't support them and they separate.

6. Women always start off with an idea of what they are and are not prepared to do for money. This list of "things I don't do" gets smaller as the opportunities to make money become less as they get older and new women arrive on the scene. This can be extremely damaging to women's self-esteem as well as risky in terms of health.

7. if you are living in London don't even think about doing this. I spoke to some old NHS colleagues recently about how things are going and they told me that London is full of 6' tall stunning Russian and Eastern European women who are prepared to perform all kinds of unprotected sex acts for not very much money. There are no English working girls (dominatrixes and 'specialists' aside) working in London at the moment.

So to conclude, I would advise you not to do this, but if you are determined my advice would be to recognise that this is not a long term opportunity to make money. if you make money in your first week or 2 don't assume that this will continue. Find out if there is a local NHS or charity project for sex workers that you can join, visit and get advice, health care etc.

That's it

 

[Gromit]

That was a long and very interesting post. Well done for typing all that advice out Lou.

Had any contacts with male escorts? If the situation different for them. Not that I'm considering it, just nosey like.

 

[Louloubelle]

That was a long and very interesting post. Well done for typing all that advice out Lou.

Had any contacts with male escorts? If the situation different for them. Not that I'm considering it, just nosey like.

There was a different project at the hospital for males, I worked as a counsellor with females

I have no idea about the current situation now re male sex workers but if you have a very good reason to know I could find out the contact details for the Dr concerned and PM you



eta

as you're just nosey I couldn't do this. The projects are very discrete for obvious reasons

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A friend of a friend worked as a male escort and he told his friends that he got paid loads of money to take beautiful young women out on dates. Turned out that he was mostly servicing men

 

[stuff_it]

Did she give you a job description, like? Did she mention sex and stuff? Tell the story properly!

You had to fill in a tick sheet of what sexual practices you are up for!

She didn't like my hair anyway- I'd have to get a wig, which I would do anyway if I was going to do it- someone could easily recognise my hair in online piccys even with my face smudged and tattoos photoshopped out.

I WASN'T expected to audition though!

(I got a call a few days later from a heavy breathing chap from another agency - I bet he'd have done auditions )

 

[stuff_it]

There are no English working girls (dominatrixes and 'specialists' aside) working in London at the moment.

I was considering working a little out of London where I live now (Midlands) in order to invest in advertising 'specialist' independant nurse services which I would then travel to.

Why shag for £150'hr when you can give an enema and a bed bath for £400/hr?

Fair play I'm not totally young anymore, but I'm back to my fighting weight now I'm away from the land of cheap pizza, and I'm notoriously feckless with money. Also I could do with something that would stop me getting in another relationship. Mainly blokes just try to sponge off me and take the piss. I could actually do with something to out them off.

 

[Nixon]

I know one transguy that sucessfully works as a rent boy to ladies and gents and has done for a while now.His take on things seems to be the good sex and nice customers compensates for the bad sex and the horrible customers.He only practises safe sex however.

From what I know the only thing that pisses him off about sex work is the label and ideas conjured up by the word "prostitute" and the "price" thing.Eg you give a customer a cheap deal and they will come back expecting same prices etc,might recommend friends..and then that obviously makes things harder.He has been roughed up before,but never had the shit kicked out of him properly.Thank fuck.It's a dangerous job,but he seems quite happy making a living from it and spends his free time campaigning for better sex workers rights (and he makes bloody good money too).

Apart from him though,i've never met anyone else who has ever done it.Although funnily enough more people than not,who would consider it (if they were single etc).He doesn't do drugs and is hardcore vegan too.

 

[maomao]

There are no English working girls (dominatrixes and 'specialists' aside) working in London at the moment.

Except for all the crackwhores on the street. They're mostly native.

 

[Louloubelle]

I was considering working a little out of London where I live now (Midlands) in order to invest in advertising 'specialist' independant nurse services which I would then travel to.

Why shag for £150'hr when you can give an enema and a bed bath for £400/hr?

"specialising" has less health risks and is more lucrative than just having intercourse for money it's true.

However I think you should reflect on the fact that it's completely different to give an enema and bed bath to a compliant patient than to someone who's paying you and who will introduce all kinds of other demands into the equation.

Women who do this kind of work find it to be very emotionally polluting and stressful. There is no way to avoid this AFAIK

Fair play I'm not totally young anymore, but I'm back to my fighting weight now I'm away from the land of cheap pizza, and I'm notoriously feckless with money.

if you specialise, youth is not so much of an issue, however it sounds as though however much money you earn you will find a way of spending it pronto

Also I could do with something that would stop me getting in another relationship. Mainly blokes just try to sponge off me and take the piss. I could actually do with something to out them off.

Working in the sex industry means that men will sponge off you more, not less.

I saw your thread in the DF and it seems to me that you're at quite a vulnerable time in your life where you could quite easily get into some serious problems with drugs if you're not careful. Working in the sex industry is likely to facilitate and increase your drug use, not help you sort yourself out.

Please do think about this seriously. Personally I think you would do well to get some help with your drug use and to have some counselling about your relationships with men, which seem to be problematic and bordering on abusive.

Getting involved in the sex industry is likely to make things worse for you, not better. IMO

 

[Mikey77]

7. if you are living in London don't even think about doing this. I spoke to some old NHS colleagues recently about how things are going and they told me that London is full of 6' tall stunning Russian and Eastern European women who are prepared to perform all kinds of unprotected sex acts for not very much money. There are no English working girls (dominatrixes and 'specialists' aside) working in London at the moment.

This is true. I have a long history of punting, but have not done so recently because most the girls are eastern european and I am not sure if they are here of their own accord or not. There are loads of agencies with mostly the same girls on each of them. Many speak basic or little English and will suck anything for £150.

I don't know how much this contributes to the spread of infections, but I am very curious. As a measure of this becoming the norm in London there was a flat owned by an English Woman which I used to phone in Maida Vale. A few years back if you mentioned "oral without" (a blow job with no condom) she would put the phone down on you pretty sharpish. Now, that is on the menu even at that flat as most the girls working there seem to be European.

About 10 years ago there was a mix of women from Italy, Spain, English, even maltese - but in the last few years they are hard to find. Any agency that says the working girls are Italian or Spanish are usually lying, and the girls in question are probably Albanian or will claim to have an Italian or Spanish parent.

I think the surprising thing is that independent girls with their own website can do OK. Although that carries the risk of working alone with weirdos like me coming to the door. Would I recommend it: I haven't a fooking clue. I think there are forums out there with working girls on them and they are the best places to ask. Bear in mind that if you set yourself up in London and charge the going rate (£150 to £200) you may get phone calls from Russian pimps threatening you. That profession is certainly not without its problems in this day and age. There is serious money to be made. A few years ago one of the website owners was raided and the police confiscated about £500,000 worth of possessions.