lights.out.london
Black Flag
I'm afraid you're not really winning me over with your attempts at being patronising and your refusal to respond to the points I am making or the questions I am asking.
Because until you concede the nature of the 'enemy', there is little point in trying to have, erm, a resoned debate with you on this subject.
Other than personal anecdotal evidence, can you clearly demonstrate how your approach is best? can you show in anyway where debate has won the day?
I think where we disagree is the fundamental nature of the people and groups we're discussing; what they believe and what they think is acceptable to achieve those ends.
We're not discussing debating Europe and the EU with some mildly pissed-off Tories from the Home Counties.

SWP soup. 
