Downsizing - life + career

[gracious]

i have read your post, and it does ring a bell. a similar thing happened to me in 2003, i got very very ill and spent 6 months off work trying to recover. prior to that i had been doing 12 hour days at an insurance company. when i recovered i went back to uni, and studied development economics - i really wanted to be in the development area for a career. i got myself into debt while i was at uni, and since then have taken 2 years, back in the rat-race (but not as bad as before) paying that off.

im now finally in a position where i'm solvent and have a bit of savings, and im now in a similar position to you - in that i want out of the race, i do want to do something with my study, but i also want to have time and space for myself, to build a home life, maybe kids one day etc.

im so sorry that the trigger for your change of heart and mind had to be a bereavement, but im always happy for people that have such a changed perspective - however hard earned. seriously.

i'd respectfully say to you though, that if you can - you should try and honour your commitments to pay off what you borrowed. not because of the law, or the bank, or ability to borrow in future. but for yourself, and your own self-esteem - you seem like a thoughtful person, maybe reneging on your debts will weigh on your mind later, and make you unhappy.

 

[lights.out.london]

^ maybe lying to get a job ahead of a candidate who took the time and trouble to map an honest career, ergo CV, will weigh on your conscience?

Maybe one day you'll be sitting at your desk feeling like a fraud, a charlatan, a conwoman and a liar and a cheat knowing you deprived an honest candidate of a career opportunity; robbed them of their big break?

Who knows? Who cares?

 

[gracious]

hey, all ive ever said is that you can shift focus in a cv/job interview by laying out your cv and not dwelling on career gaps. it doesn't weigh on my mind - i've never claimed experience or skills that i don't have.

i didnt mean to have a go at you, i was responding to the poster above mine who was talking about what is and isnt "worthy"

sorry you've taken it that way, and best wishes.

 

[lights.out.london]

hey, all ive ever said is that you can shift focus in a cv/job interview by laying out your cv and not dwelling on career gaps. it doesn't weigh on my mind - i've never claimed experience or skills that i don't have.

i didnt mean to have a go at you, i was responding to the poster above mine who was talking about what is and isnt "worthy"

sorry you've taken it that way, and best wishes.

Lmao.

No. You were advocating lying to get a job to get money. I however, said nothing of the sort.

What you wrote wasn't about a 'shift (in) focus': it was about deception. I'm a recruiter. I do this stuff for a living. I've spent years dealing with bullshitters, flim-flam merchants and liars.

I think you're a hypocrite. Might be best to keep your side of the street clean before you start ponificating on what a.n.other ought to do, or what kind of shape my conscience might be in.

p.s. it would be unworthy to keep the cat. The animal is someone else's property. Lmao.

 

[Idaho]

Nooooo. It's a bulletin board - I rarely get upset by what people write. My reaction was, however, "Who the hell are you?"

I don't particularly want to get involved. But you have kicked off to such an extent that it is obviously a raw nerve and a major issue.

Good luck though. Hope you find what you are looking for.

 

[lights.out.london]

I don't particularly want to get involved. But you have kicked off to such an extent that it is obviously a raw nerve and a major issue.

Good luck though. Hope you find what you are looking for.

Ta.

 

[Reg in slippers]

bereavement can be a strong catalyst, my condolences

relocation within your current discipline may be a halfway step towards a full life change; have you considered somewhere leeds?

good access to the great outdoors etc

 

[Crispy]

I plan never to upsize in the first place

 

[han]

I plan never to upsize in the first place

word.

 

[lights.out.london]

word.

seen.

 

[kyser_soze]

Lightsout - my decision was kinda forced on me earlier this year, and I'm not really in a position to walk out on my debts, BUT I am going through a similar process to you - and I'm completely stuck as to what I want to do! I'm currrently temping in a relatively (compared to working in advertising) stress free job as an admin manager in the NHS...about the only thing I want from life at the moment is a bit more cash (which shouldn't be too hard to get) and I'll be happy...

BUT...I want to do something else. Don't want to be doing admin management for the rest of my life (altho I seem to show an aptitude for it )...suggestions have ranged from caseworking/sexual health outreach type stuff (but I don't think I could cope with the NHS permanently), going back to college for an MA (BUT WHICH ONE!!!?!?!?)...

So I empathise completely mate...