radio_atomica said:
Wow, for someone trying to preach the rights of disabled people to use public transport to us uneducated fools who obviously have no sympathy or understanding whatsoever for your plight you're not exactly going about it in a very sensible way.
If someone in a wheelchair asks me to move, I will immediately move. However, if, for some reason, I have not moved enough, or didn't hear them the first time, or they didn't even say excuse me they just stood there staring at me and then went off their rocker at me because I'm not a mind reader and don't have eyes in the back of my head* I would not take kindly to being told to 'Fuck off'. Especially as I know how hard it can be to get about in a wheelchair as my mother uses one.
Does being disabled somehow exempt you from being polite? Yes, corporations and service providers do give a shoddy deal to the disabled at times, but a lot of places give shit service to everyone, but to tell members of the general public the 'fuck off' because they haven't moved out of the way enough for you to get past is a bit hypocritical when you're complaining about their rudeness. People do not respond to agressiveness and most people who I have encountered tend to do what they are asked if asked politely or the situation is fully explained where needed. However, some of the rudest people I've encountered in situations such as the ones you describe are the people making the request for extra help for whatever reason because they are always anticipating some kind of negative reaction and over-compensate before anyone's even said anything.
This thread is clearly about a lot more than just accessibility on public transport....
*all these things have happened to me in the past.
First prize for pointing out the 'oh-so-fucking-obvious'; this thread is about all the hidebound prejudices encountered by me. It’s one thing being fucked over by authority; to be treated like shite by faceless bureaucrats. But, when disabled people are met with the same shite by their peers; when other passengers shit on us, because they in turn are shit upon; well, is it surprising he at the bottom of the pile takes up arms against a sea of troubles?
For my part, I’d far rather travel without incessant confrontation. Having to be continuously vigilant against fellow travellers that would en-suitcase me in a wall of luggage, or block my access – which, in an emergency could also be my escape route. We can blame the travel operators as much as we want for their shitty services; but, at the bus stops or on the trains common courtesy and respect for others comes into play. It’s part of the societal contract we all must sign up to, in order that we’re able to co-exist.
Radio_atomica, if while on a train you want to pee; I guess you make your way to the WC. If people block your way, you excuse yourself; and, where space is tight, you squeeze through. If a bag or case blocks your path, similarly you squeeze past or step over the luggage. Then about your mission to pee, problems surmounted.
Some cripples, me included, need toilet facilities more than the average person. In such circumstances it is quite important that I can move freely from carriage to the WC, which is sited outside in the vestibule. Sadly, I cannot step over the legs of people seated on the floor; I cannot climb over suitcases that block my way to the toilet; nor can I physically make myself, or my wheelchair smaller, and squeeze past people who have no, or poor spatial awareness. So, when I politely ask someone to allow me to pass; and, they all they do is in effect shuffle their feet, or turn 45º, but still obviously blocking the doorway or aisle causing me to piss myself. I have every right to become a bit tetchy; resorting even to abusive language.
What about my fucking dignity in all this?
Incidentally radio_atomica, you may be able to sense how hard it is to get around in a wheelchair; but, it is your mother, the wheelchair user that knows how hard it is.