Clubbing on your own

[LDR]

To the people that said yes, how would you approach total strangers in a pub/club if youre by yourself? Sadly I would expect a lot of people to treat such a person as if he was some strange loner...

Well, I don't tend to approach big groups. I zero on on one or two people and ask them them to recommend something like a type of beer, a place to go afterwards, etc. I guess it may be easier for me as I have a foreign accent.

What's wrong with strange loners anyway?

 

[Niklas]

I just tend to find that here in the UK a lot of people go out in groups, and as LD Rudeboy said, it's better to focus on one or two people. Or maybe I just haven't been to the right clubs, or haven't tried it enough... Gigs are definitely easier to go to alone as you share the interest in the band with everybody and people tend to be like-minded

 

[wtfftw]

I've often in a non pill happy club started talking to women in the toilet who then take me to meet their friends and you can get passed round an entire group for the night. It just needs one person to get the ball rolling I find.

Plus also, if you become a regular you get to know the bar staff and security etc. I used to get let in ahead of the queue and served first etc. This often gives the opportunity to indicate that the person next to you was there first and should be served first which is sometimes a good first contact.

The heaps of ways to meet new people in clubs and there's enough people that you will get talking to someone. It's fun. If there's not enough people you can ask others if it's always this empty as you're actually out on your own and the dancefloor isn't busy enough for that not to be obvious. May you hang out with them until you're drunk enough to feel comfortable. And then if you've got the quids get the drinks in...

 

[sovereignb]

There was me thinking it was so strange. Back in the day I would never have dared to, but last summer I did it once and had a great time.
I'm contemplating doing it on NYE since no one seems interested in the tickets I bought. All depends on the event but I think there will be some VERY happy people in this vicinity . So if it comes to it, im gonna go solo!

 

[editor]

I've been out loads on my own clubbing. I wouldn't like to do it every night, but I like it sometimes.

 

[blossie33]

I've been lots of times too.
I just love music and dancing, if it's pretty busy people don't really notice if you're on your own and I never cared if they did.
You can just enjoy yourself without feeling you have to be social or whatever.

 

[Lurcio]

Always always always always go clubbing with others.
That way, you have several alibis (when the bodies are discovered) . . . !?

Pays to plan ahead .... hmmmm

 

[Johnny Vodka]

Wouldn't really do it in the UK, not that I go clubbing in the UK these days, but seems perfectly reasonable on my annual jaunt to Ibiza.

 

[Sid Viscous]

I've often in a non pill happy club started talking to women in the toilet who then take me to meet their friends and you can get passed round an entire group for the night. It just needs one person to get the ball rolling I find.

Plus also, if you become a regular you get to know the bar staff and security etc. I used to get let in ahead of the queue and served first etc. This often gives the opportunity to indicate that the person next to you was there first and should be served first which is sometimes a good first contact.

The heaps of ways to meet new people in clubs and there's enough people that you will get talking to someone. It's fun. If there's not enough people you can ask others if it's always this empty as you're actually out on your own and the dancefloor isn't busy enough for that not to be obvious. May you hang out with them until you're drunk enough to feel comfortable. And then if you've got the quids get the drinks in...

And yet when I do that I invariably get kicked out.

 

[Gerry1time]

I always used to go clubbing on my own. I was somewhat late to clubbing, and think I probably didn't get some of the point of it. I thought it was all about dancing, and as it wasn't the sort of dancing you needed a partner to do, I didn't see why you needed to go with other people. Indeed, the couple of times I did go with people (who had invited themselves along) I had a much shitter time. Ditto people trying to talk to me in clubs. I remember more than once being asked the day after going to a club night by myself whether or not I pulled, and being really confused by that too, as I thought clubbing was just about dancing, not talking to people, let alone getting off with them.

Probably best I don't go clubbing anymore. Still go to gigs though, and still always go to those by myself too. Again, I don't know why I need company in order to watch a band.

 

[Monkeygrinder's Organ]

The only time I've ever gone on my own was when I'd go to Unsound or something like that, when I knew I'd know lots of people there, which might not count. The best times I've had at clubs/parties though have always been when I've known quite a lot of people and have been able to take my own path for the night, sometimes going for a dance on my own, sometimes bumping into people and stopping for a chat. Going with a small group and sticking with them all evening has never been quite the same IMO.

 

[wtfftw]

Bloody old threads.

I take myself to the cinema now. Still chat to other women in the loos.

 

[miniGMgoit]

When I was homeless and destitute in Brighton I'd go to gay clubs on my own so I could pick up and have somewhere to sleep that night. When I got there I'd always pretend to fall asleep so I didn't have to have sex with them unless of course I wanted to have sex with them.

 

[goldenecitrone]

414. Say no more.

 

[ManchesterBeth]

Clubbing on your own is the best imho. Stone cold sober as well. Can't beat feeling the progression of a night without intoxicants muddying up everything.

 

[Herbsman.]

Occasionally. Best sober, so you can drive to and from the venue. Had some really good solo club nights. Can't help feel a bit of a saddo though

 

[sovereignb]

I did it again...no stress, didn't even feel embarrassed. Just needed a few drinks, good vibes and music