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Call Me And Idiot An Say You Told Me So

Yelkcub said:
An argument over a hotel room would you believe. "If we're (i.e. me) not paying the extra for that room, I'm won't to go!"

I told her when I let back in I couldn't take anymore everyday situations having all the joy sucked out them by her being fussy. It's not like I'm asking to stay in a B and B. It's paying an extra £60 for a kingsize over a double for six hours in room.

I'm far from tight, but I'm 5.11 and twelve and a half stone, she's 5.4 and light, it shoudln't be an issue.
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So she's spoilt and you are colluding with her bad behaviour at the same time as moaning about it because it isn't the kind of relationship you want?
 
Yelkcub said:
An argument over a hotel room would you believe. "If we're (i.e. me) not paying the extra for that room, I'm won't to go!"

I told her when I let back in I couldn't take anymore everyday situations having all the joy sucked out them by her being fussy. It's not like I'm asking to stay in a B and B. It's paying an extra £60 for a kingsize over a double for six hours in room.

I'm far from tight, but I'm 5.11 and twelve and a half stone, she's 5.4 and light, it shoudln't be an issue.
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Why are you staying in hotels together? I thought you broke up? Wtf
 
Rutita1 said:
So she's spoilt and you are colluding with her bad behaviour at the same time as moaning about it because it isn't the kind of relationship you want?
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Hence my original post. I'm trying to reinforce what I already so I do this and don't let her do this again.

I expect no sympathy anymore, I know I've been stupid and I know it's the same time and time again.
 
Yelkcub said:
Hence my original post. I'm trying to reinforce what I already so I do this and don't let her do this again.

I expect no sympathy anymore, I know I've been stupid and I know it's the same time and time again.
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So why keep doing it?

WHY?

Listen to story and missfran.
 
Yelkclub - you're a total attention seeker. Wah wah look how I've fucked up! Look at me! Over and over again! LOOK!
 
Yelkcub said:
Hence my original post. I'm trying to reinforce what I already so I do this and don't let her do this again.

I expect no sympathy anymore, I know I've been stupid and I know it's the same time and time again.
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In which case, Rutita1's question becomes very important:

What are you getting out of this? Why are you so invested in this relationship?
 
5t3IIa said:
Why are you staying in hotels together? I thought you broke up? Wtf
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Before the last 'last' time, she'd bought me a birthday present of a parachute jump in Swindon. This visit there (staying in Bristol after) next weekend was to be a last chance summit but she came over yesterday and stayed and now I'm back to square one.
 
Yelkcub said:
Hence my original post. I'm trying to reinforce what I already so I do this and don't let her do this again.

I expect no sympathy anymore, I know I've been stupid and I know it's the same time and time again.
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I wasn't meaning to be unsympathetic...I wanted to understand...:cool:

I'd like to know, if you could answer this please...

I wonder what exactly you are getting out of this Yelkclub?...what's in it for you? I think this is an important question to ask yourself and may help you to understand why you keep going back for more.

Do you enjoy rescuing her?
Do you like/need to feel needed?

Would you not be able to live with yourself and feel like a bad person if you thought of yourself and walked away didn't buckle under her calls for help/rescuing?
 
5t3IIa said:
Yelkclub - you're a total attention seeker. Wah wah look how I've fucked up! Look at me! Over and over again! LOOK!
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Nah, it's an embarassment though maybe in the midst of it I'm looking for comfort.

But ultimately, it's an attempt to get unerringly convinced.
 
Yelkcub said:
Nah, it's an embarassment though maybe in the midst of it I'm looking for comfort.

But ultimately, it's an attempt to get unerringly convinced.
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Convinced? You seem to agree with everyone on this thread, so where's the need for convincing you?


Or are you saying that you DON"T agree with what is being said on this thread?
 
Yelkcub said:
Before the last 'last' time, she'd bought me a birthday present of a parachute jump in Swindon.
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With whose money? :D

Incidentally, today I re-binned the lass I've binned about four times.

And I wasn't going to post anything on my original thread, because it's already quite clear to anyone with half a brain that I'm being (have been being) an idiot.

Thank you for normalising idiocy re: women :)

You have done at least one of us a service :)
 
Do you enjoy rescuing her?
Do you like/need to feel needed?[/QUOTE


This. Youre obviously feeling shit about it because youre posting on here about it. Take some time out and do some stuff for you, because you enjoy it. Stop being so available and try to work this out cos I would guess this is a pattern with you.
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Yelkcub said:
Nah, it's an embarassment though maybe in the midst of it I'm looking for comfort.

But ultimately, it's an attempt to get unerringly convinced.
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You're too mellow man :D I posted that and thought 'Oh noo perhaps too far' but no! You love it, all water off a duck's back, you know the score. Will amble gently into another cock up any...minute...now. Oh wait you just did!


Man up ffs. Be a bit cunty :D
 
Rutita1 said:
I wasn't meaning to be unsympathetic...I wanted to understand...:cool:

I'd like to know, if you could answer this please...

I wonder what exactly you are getting out of this Yelkclub?...what's in it for you? I think this is an important question to ask yourself and may help you to understand why you keep going back for more.

Do you enjoy rescuing her?
Do you like/need to feel needed?

Would you not be able to live with yourself and feel like a bad person if you thought of yourself and walked away didn't buckle under her calls for help/rescuing?
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It doesn't feel like enjoyment. I don't think I need to be needed but I'm no analyst.

She's made life so difficult for a while now so I guess the only respite I get is the day or two after a forgive her and it's all hearts a time. I just need to understand that a can have that peace all the time without her
 
mrs quoad said:
With whose money? :D

Incidentally, today I re-binned the lass I've binned about four times.

And I wasn't going to post anything on my original thread, because it's already quite clear to anyone with half a brain that I'm being (have been being) an idiot.

Thank you for normalising idiocy re: women :)

You have done at least one of us a service :)
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Good for you :cool:
 
Yelkcub said:
It doesn't feel like enjoyment. I don't think I need to be needed but I'm no analyst.

She's made life so difficult for a while now so I guess the only respite I get is the day or two after a forgive her and it's all hearts a time. I just need to understand that a can have that peace all the time without her
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You don't need to be an anyalst, just honest/congruent with yourself maybe?

Would you not be able to live with yourself and feel like a bad person if you thought of yourself and walked away didn't buckle under her calls for help/rescuing?
 
Yelkcub said:
It doesn't feel like enjoyment. I don't think I need to be needed but I'm no analyst.

She's made life so difficult for a while now so I guess the only respite I get is the day or two after a forgive her and it's all hearts a time. I just need to understand that a can have that peace all the time without her
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Well what does it feel like to be dispensable, replaceable, not needed? Are you okay with that?
 
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