If there is other intelligent life out there that wonders if there is other intelligent life out there, I doubt we will ever see it. Distances are too big.
But if it exists elsewhere, I suspect that evolution constrains solutions to certain kinds of things. Starting off as something like a cell with a membrane to distinguish me/not me. Some kind of replicating code. At some point, certain organisms evolve that make their living by eating other organisms rather than fixing energy from a star or vent or whatever. To get to intelligent life that is able to reflect on its own existence, you would need something like multicellular organisms, probably mobile like animals, and probably with a psychology that has evolved in the context of both intraspecies cooperation and intraspecies competition.
I suspect that they'll be fucked up like us.