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Does no one THINK about Christmas presents anymore?

Discussion in 'Wintervaltide - Xmas and Year Review 2011' started by mrsfran, Dec 20, 2011.

  1. Mrs Magpie

    Mrs Magpie On a bit of break...

    Well it's also about the fact it's a printed message because her hands are so arthritic she can't write anymore and that makes me sad. Plus for the last three years she hasn't got anyone anything which does make me happy because I know Christmas just puts her into a spin of panic because she used to be the Christmas Queen making sure everyone had a wonderful time but also because she feels so guilty about being unable to do it any more and I wish she wouldn't.
     
  2. Mrs Magpie

    Mrs Magpie On a bit of break...

    ...plus she just can't afford £30.
     
  3. ymu

    ymu Niall Ferguson's deep-cover sock-puppet

    I've been quite badly hurt by bad gifts from my brother a couple of times. Not because they were unwanted, but by the obvious lack of thought that went into them. I'd much rather have a no present policy than regular confirmation that he doesn't give a shit.
     
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  4. Mrs Magpie

    Mrs Magpie On a bit of break...

    It's not the flowers that have upset me, it's what they represent.
     
  5. Lo Siento.

    Lo Siento. Second As Farce

    But if a good gift isn't any kind of debt or obligation, then why should I have expectations about it?
     
  6. Lo Siento.

    Lo Siento. Second As Farce

    Hurt? Maybe he's just crap at giving presents? If someone treats me with a lot of love and care throughout the year, a shit present isn't going to bother me.
     
  7. baldrick

    baldrick ooooh timewarp

    I'm sorry, are you the gift police or something? I am allowed to be offended, okay.

    Gifts are not compulsory but some thought as to what to buy is the whole point of a gift in my mind. If someone cannot be bothered to even think about what I might like, then why spend anything? Just save the money.
     
  8. ymu

    ymu Niall Ferguson's deep-cover sock-puppet

    He doesn't treat me with love and care throughout the year. :D
     
  9. Greebo

    Greebo Free the Priceless One

    I suppose it's because this time of year throws relationships, and who owes what to whom etc into sharper relief than usual. So if for example I buy something over £5 for the much better off relatives, the only way they can feel comfortable with it is by immediately reminding me that I shouldn't have and that I was reckless with what little cash I have.

    Edited to add: FWIW I don't spend what I can't spare, but if I ever overspent the only person it hurt was me.
     
  10. Voley

    Voley And a rovin' a rovin' a rovin' I'll go ...

    I've never considered that any of my presents might actually offend anyone.
    [​IMG]
     
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  11. Lo Siento.

    Lo Siento. Second As Farce

    haha, there's your problem then :D
     
  12. Lo Siento.

    Lo Siento. Second As Farce

    To give you a token of some kind, any kind at Christmas? Tbh, a generic gift and a asked for gift are exactly the same in terms of thought and effort going into it, ie. zero.
     
  13. baldrick

    baldrick ooooh timewarp

    true. i think other issues are colouring my perception of this particular gift. from anyone else i think i would have just put it aside and not over-analysed it. it's been a weird old year for friendship in a lot of ways.
     
  14. Santino

    Santino lovelier than lovely

    kyser used to do this kind of wilful refusal to acknowledge the complexity of human relationships much more entertainingly.
     
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  15. quimcunx

    quimcunx christmas miracles ain't all that

    Ah, yes. I remember it well.
     
  16. Santino

    Santino lovelier than lovely

    You wore a gown of gold.
     
  17. quimcunx

    quimcunx christmas miracles ain't all that

    I was all in blue.
     
  18. Santino

    Santino lovelier than lovely

    How young and gay.
     
  19. quimcunx

    quimcunx christmas miracles ain't all that

    old and camp more like.
     
  20. Santino

    Santino lovelier than lovely

    Prince of love, thankyouverymuch.
     
  21. quimcunx

    quimcunx christmas miracles ain't all that

    Ah, yes, that's what I meant to say.
     
  22. Santino

    Santino lovelier than lovely

    Ah, yes , I remember it well.
     
  23. quimcunx

    quimcunx christmas miracles ain't all that

    ah, yes, that is also what I meant to say.

    You lost your hair?
     
  24. Santino

    Santino lovelier than lovely

    I lost a comb.
     
  25. quimcunx

    quimcunx christmas miracles ain't all that

    You mooned my mum?
     
  26. Santino

    Santino lovelier than lovely

    That dazzling April moon!
     
  27. quimcunx

    quimcunx christmas miracles ain't all that

    Ah yes, she remembers it well.
     
  28. ViolentPanda

    ViolentPanda Untermensch, and proud!

    You can't be a lapsed Jew, only a lapsed Judaist. :p
     
  29. Ceej

    Ceej Where is my mind?

    I can see why - I actually feel quite upset for you, but you can't change people (especially elderly mum's and m-i-l's - I have one of each and I know.) I bet she's really pleased to have done something so nice for you though.

    ((Mrs M))
     
  30. Yu_Gi_Oh

    Yu_Gi_Oh 天天好心情

    Would you not want any kind of unsolicited gift, even if it wasn't Christmas? I often buy people stuff that I see if it makes me think of them and I can afford it, and just give it to them, not for any birthday or special occasion. I hadn't really considered that could make people uncomfortable, would it bother you?

    I think I've been Koreanised into giving people stuff to show my warm feelings for them. There is something really nice about giving/receiving things just because, rather than because it's the day when you MUST give gifts. Of course if people don't want anything then it wouldn't be really nice. :oops:

    I can totally see how being given stuff just because it's purple could be aggravating though! :D
     

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