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and where are my boobs supposed to go?

Discussion in 'threads and dreads' started by toggle, May 11, 2012.

  1. Greebo

    Greebo Does my bum look big in this paradigm shift?

    <dressmaker mode> Toggle, you need to buy clothes which fit the widest part of you and then have them taken in so that they fit everywhere else. I know it stinks, but that's the way it is with off the peg clothing.

    The reason to do this, rather than finding a dress which fits everywhere but your larger bust, is that a dressmaker can't create extra fabric out of nowhere, but they can reduce the width (usually along the existing seamlines) without making the garment look botched. </dressmaker>
     
  2. Shirl

    Shirl donkey dory

    But a size 12-14 isn't a 40"+ bust so why do you expect to find one?
     
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  3. Espresso

    Espresso Well-Known Member

    I'd go along with that.
    I have a tiny waist. Or a huge arse, depending on how I feel like describing my shape at the time. :D
    I cannot buy a skirt to fit both those parts of me. So I have to buy the skirt to fit round hips and bum and take it to my nice dressmaker lady who weaves her magic and makes it so I can wear a skirt without having a drafty belly. Having clothes that fit your actual shape, rather than some other woman's shape is one of the best things I've finally wised up to, as a grown up.
     
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  4. Greebo

    Greebo Does my bum look big in this paradigm shift?

    FWIW I hate ordering the clothing size that I need to (to fit eveything below the waistline), and hate ordering patterns that size. But nobody except me sees the size label. :)

    OTOH everyone notices when the clothes are too small by more than an inch around the widest part.
     
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  5. toggle

    toggle Fucking Furious Feminist


    well, apparently it is too much to expect to find clothes that fit.
     
  6. Shirl

    Shirl donkey dory

    If you are not a standard size, then yes, it is.
     
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  7. toggle

    toggle Fucking Furious Feminist



    there are some high street clothes that i can wear off the peg that are a 12-14. it is simply that the clothes that are shaped over a bust are shaped to be tiny. even the large sizes are chaped to be tiny. so i get baggy everywhere else and an underbust line cutting accross my nipples.
     
  8. Shirl

    Shirl donkey dory

    By standard I meant any size stocked on the high street
     
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  9. Greebo

    Greebo Does my bum look big in this paradigm shift?

    Toggle, I'm sorry about the frustration, and this is just something you'll need to get your head around. FWIW there are a few brands out there who sell clothes for larger cup sizes within the same dress size, but it's quite a recent thing. I realise it's not the option you want to hear, but separates honestly are the way to go unless you want to pay for alterations a lot of the time.

    OTOH any day you want to swap top heavy for pear shape with what counts as no tits (proportionate to size - didn't even make it to a B cup when smaller than a size 16) and plus size and petite, you're really very welcome to.
     
  10. Vintage Paw

    Vintage Paw Registered Loser

    I guess it just comes down to the fact that the majority of high street shops are only going to stock sizes that conform to some sort of proportional sizing. By that I mean as their sizing goes up, it will go up equally between hips, waist and bust. While we all know women come in myriad sizes and are rarely perfectly proportional, since your average high street shop, with its current pricing model, can't ever hope to stock several of every (or even most) conceivable combinations of in-proportion and out-of-proportion sizings, we have to look for ways to make it work for us. It's not ideal. It's downright frustrating and annoying. But while we have a high street that functions in the way that it does, that's what we have to expect.
     
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  11. toggle

    toggle Fucking Furious Feminist

    i think it seems easier to buy clothes for very small chests than large ones. at least half of the dresses i looked at that were fitted were an a cup even at the larger sizes.
     
  12. Greebo

    Greebo Does my bum look big in this paradigm shift?

    Agreed :(

    Now can anyone please tell me where to find a size 18 swimsuit which isn't cut to accommodate a C cup or larger? The ones I've found so far are fine as long as I stay vertical. Which doesn't work when swimming. :oops:
     
  13. Vintage Paw

    Vintage Paw Registered Loser

    I should say--not that this is a competition, because it isn't--I've seen or heard of far more specialist stores that stock stuff for women with massive boobs than I have of those that cater for women who are like me.

    I've found precisely one website that stocks bras specifically for women with tiny tits (but regular back sizes, which I have), because most places assume that if you are an A cup or less, you must have a small back size as well. Once you get to a size 36 bra, you're very hard pressed to find anything in an A, and once you start climbing higher up the back scale, everything starts at a B or higher. I have a couple of 38Bs that aren't too bad, but tbh I've more or less given up on buying bras altogether and just wear lightly-padded triangle bikini tops instead.

    And as for dresses, as I said earlier, if it's something relatively fitted around the hip/arse area, manufacturers expect you to have a modicum of bust to go with it. It's a bit easier with stuff that has a fuller skirt, because I can go a size down, but even then if there is a fixed band under the bust or around the waist, then when I get a size down that often becomes too tight. It's a freaking nightmare. And more often than not, I just don't bother.
     
  14. sojourner

    sojourner Lord of the Ponce

    I never usually get involved in these threads, but I will back up VPs assertion that it is almost fucking impossible to find bras in my size which is 36A most of the time, the B coming in with PMT.

    I have found a couple in other shops, but in most, you've no chance. I go to Marks to stand a chance at finding a 36A, and even then sometimes you have to root through the bloody shelves to find them.
     
  15. DotCommunist

    DotCommunist virtue without terror is impotent.

    China Meville posits a lovely concept in his fantasy 'Un Lun Dun'

    a book well. A round chamber of books that you can climb down and see books that never were, books that aren't yet, books that are strange variations to the ones in our world. It does also act as a portal to other worlds but frankly I'd rather spend the time in the library of never
     
  16. Vintage Paw

    Vintage Paw Registered Loser

    Her eyou go, soj: http://www.littlewomen.com/

    I question the name, and they aren't exactly exciting bras, and they are very pricey, but you're always going to find something in your size.

    Edit: they've got a nicer range now than when I first found it a few years ago. I just can't afford that sort of money on bras now though. My £4 bikini tops from the supermarket suffice quite well :D
     
  17. toggle

    toggle Fucking Furious Feminist

    in bras i think i'd aggree, in clothes, it's the opposite.
     
  18. mentalchik

    mentalchik far too big for her boots

    don't get me even started on trousers.........:mad:
     
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  19. Vintage Paw

    Vintage Paw Registered Loser

    Please tell me where you're shopping, because in 34 years (or, er, I guess however long I've been shopping for myself) I've yet to find a high street store that caters for my body shape.
     
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  20. Vintage Paw

    Vintage Paw Registered Loser

    Indeed. Being the massively-hipped person that I am, I need in general a size bigger for my arse than I do for my waist. And just wearing a belt doesn't help, because it bunches the extra material together, or the belt loops are in awkward places so it still gapes at the back.

    Most reliable place to buy jeans for me now is Next. Haven't needed to go anywhere else for them in a few years now. I rarely wear trousers, apart from lightweight cropped ones in summer, and they seem to fit a bit better anyway.
     
  21. spanglechick

    spanglechick Lying in the gutter, looking like a star.

    the best small waist-to-big bum/hips trousers i've found are vivien of holloway's swing trousers. you have to use their size charts cos they use vintage sizes, they're not cheap, and they rarely have much stock... but my black swing jeans are an awesome fit, and i have 13 inches difference between my waist and my hips.
     
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  22. toggle

    toggle Fucking Furious Feminist

    i don't know the rest of your body shape my dear.i'm looking at stuff that is fitted round the chest and shaped over the bust that has a fuller skirt and i wouldn't have fitted into them with boobs that were bigger than fairy cake cases. i'm sorry, that is an aweful analogy, but that's the best i can think of atm
     
  23. Vintage Paw

    Vintage Paw Registered Loser

    I saw you in those in another thread (jeans or trousers, I forget). They looked really lovely on you :)
     
  24. spanglechick

    spanglechick Lying in the gutter, looking like a star.

    those are different trousers - the hip to waist is a bit less extreme.
     
  25. Shirl

    Shirl donkey dory

    Try buying a sexy or even pretty 30DD mastectomy bra. They don't exist :(
     
  26. Shirl

    Shirl donkey dory

    I have to ignore the mastectomy bit and buy the underwired 30DD bras but again they are few and far between :(
     
  27. sojourner

    sojourner Lord of the Ponce

    Yer, 28 fucking quid for a bra!!
     
  28. felixthecat

    felixthecat embarrassing mother

    the daughter is a 30E or sometimes 30F (takes after her mother, donchya know;)) and its a reet bugger to find bras. Debenhams seems to be the best bet.

    And as for the booby dress dilemma - I've only ever bought a shirt that didn't gape from Bravissimo. Dresses - I only ever buy something that stretches as I know I'll never get something to fit the waist AND the boobs. However, after reading this I'm looking at Pepperberry stuff:)
     
  29. quimcunx

    quimcunx jesus tonsils

    Pepperberry is the newly branded clothes section of Bravissimo.
     
  30. felixthecat

    felixthecat embarrassing mother

    Ah, so now I understand!! I bought that shirt a few years ago!
     

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